Conversation Between LowRider and Xsmurfy786x
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I've been looking at more placements and I don't like the idea of having to move for 2 months on my own to some random place.
My sister gets to travel quiet a bit to the states and other nice places as she is one of the people in marketing.
I think I agreed with everything you more or less said.
I've been france, saudi, turkey and egypt.
France = was quiet young it wasn't anything special
Saudi = Obviously good spiritually
Turkey = Really nice would go again food was great and some good tourist attractions I would like to go syria too
Egypt = Alright but didn't really like it
Which other countries have you been to apart from pakistan?
hey shouldn't you be revising
ahhhh then that is not what I'm thinking of. lol
What I was thinking of was for example when you have rishtas and people are discussing and the girls side says that the boy should move to the girls city if he wants to marry the girl as a condition or something. I think I actually heard of something like that from my mum.
Obviously there should be discussion but on some level I kinda feel that the guy is the head of the household and certain final decisions fall on him if he's smart enough for that . Each group has to have there own leader but they still work hand in hand in harmony or I hope so .
In many households now both people are working so it is a compromise for some things like career and all that whereas maybe in the past it was all about the guy as he just provided. But the responsibility ultimately falls on the guy right?
nowadays it's kinda different as both people end up working I think ideally most guys would want there wife to be at home and for them to take care of them and all that stuff but that can be hard financially. We're kinda taught to think to be successful both people should have really good jobs and if you stay at home have kids and take care of them as a way of life then you haven't achieved you're potential in life from a British perspective.
woopsies I do that sometimes but usually realise.
Maybe but for a girl to say that would be a pretty big demand unless she was super rich or something haha. I understand girls don't want to leave family and all that but if someone was making that demand it may be seen as a warning that she wants to be the one in control in the relationship. Whereas it's meant to be the guy who is head of the household :P
I kinda understand why a person may say something like that but they could just marry someone local if it's such a big issue? If they wanted to finish there degree or something then something else could be arranged. In the case you're talking about did the girl explicitly state that she wanted the guy to move there.
Ye you're probably right again if you don't have many options then you may agree especially if you were going to get your own house anyway.
I doubt they will want to leave anytime soon even if I did get married, I want to move out anyway. You're fast at replying I'm so slow It's probably because I'm a bit of a deep thinker and end up thinking about things way more than I should.
lol I'm going to be 22 soon and it's like I'm no longer the young guy I think I am the years are just flying by and to think I started uni at 19 it was like yesterday and then once you get married there is so much responsibility maybe not so much for the girl but for the guy to provide and all that.
That makes me think I've made some good friends with people older then me maybe it's because I'm always been a bit more mature for my age. Like I'm a bit older than some of my friends and it can seem they are a bit childish at times like drawing on someones face with a permanent marker lol I still like a good laugh but you get me. I guess it is harder if you live at home most my friends commute too but we are like on the other side of the campus and you end up just chilling with your course mates most the time. What's paksoc like? plenty of freshies?
I don't like all rants I like them more so if I can relate to them. Talking of friends made me think, at uni I have my ups and downs with certain people( like I'll be really want to hang with this person for a bit then go off them do you have the same thing?) but I haven't really met anyone yet who I've really clicked with really well and it can be hard to be in contact with people who are far away; but you do you're best with what you have right?
One of my sisters has two kids she's the eldest. My brother also has a kid he still lives at home with my sister in law ( typical right ) she's nice but shes's meant to be like a sister to me right? but it's like I treat her like a guest at times if she was anything like my actual sister I would have had a right go at her for some things I feel quiet resentful at times. She came from a typical middle class family (pakistan) I guess where they haven't done much in terms of housework but the thing is she's been here for years now and I hope they move out soon enough as it can be quiet stressful for my mum ( I don't think she confronts it but I understand why she doesn't) as she, I think, has more work to do then she would if they didn't live here.
Don't get me wrong she still does a fair bit in the house but so do I and I go to uni. I don't know now I feel like I've done her disservice but it's probably mostly right. It's kinda funny though as it's the mother in law that's usually the problem lol. Like I sometimes think my sisters are good examples on some level they've adapted, really well before they got married they didn't know how to cook apna food now they are pros one of my sisters works but still does a lot at home with help of her husband and my other sister takes care of both my nephews and a whole house and has to deal with mother and father in laws guests and stuff as they live near by.
That went on for ages. You gave me a rant so I gave one back 10x bigger. It keeps the conversation flowing
lol rants can be nice to listen to. I've barely dont any work got to start a few courseworks but I was also thinking of going to one of my sister's house for a few days but if I go I'll probably end up doing no work there. If I get loads done in the next few days I might go.
Cow milking sounds good .....I think it's machine done these days anyway. Unless you become a dairy farmer and that doesn't sound that bad at all ....
Don't get me started on lack of motivation during exam periods. I think technology is a bit of a distraction for me but it can be hard to get away when you need to use it for so much.
Ye I know what you mean memorising is really for a few days before as you just end up forgetting a lot of it.
lol I've been spending the past few days just sleeping, eating, exercising, watching lost ( ahhh the good old days), eating more, drinking tea then rinse and repeat I should really start doing some work.
Ye I've kinda learnt not to ever go with my mum to somewhere without a means of escape if I don't it could end up me being wherever for hours and hours on end. Not saying that's how it is for you.
I don't know it's probably bad I guess I find doing the work super boring usually and need something to dull my mind from the boredom of revision, making notes etc but during term time it can be so busy that I kinda end up mixing work and play. If I didn't I would just be doing work all the time and ye I know it's bad. One of the things I liked about the trip was we did hard work during the day but during the evening we were free to do whatever we wanted at uni it doesn't seem to be like that as we have to take the work home. I prefer that leaving the stress of work behind. I haven't done much this holiday you're not one of those types of people who say they haven't done anything but have actually done loads anyway why do you have exams so soon aren't they late may/ June and January?