Conversation Between exlunu and pikaboo

You think im not boring? Ok,so ill think im an interesting girl from now on
well, clubbing isnt not so bad, its just British life style.
I feel better now thank to you. Ill try something new to make my life brighter maybe a part time job rather than stay at my room all the time
btw, love your pikachu very much, is it going to give me a hug?

I struggled with what we have started to call a quarter-life crisis all the way from 18 to very recently (probably until last year...I'm 25 now). It's easy to do what you're told as a child, but the transition from that to having to make your own decisions and follow your own path is very sudden.

It's really good that you're joining societies and trying different things. Persevere with clubbing and going out - obviously not everyone loves it, but I used to hate it until I was about 21/22 and then I found a club where the music was to my taste and a nice group of people to meet with there, who are still my friends even though I've moved away.

Never think of yourself as boring. Some people just won't be very responsive, and they are the boring ones! You are extremely brave for moving all the way from Vietnam into a completely different culture and I really admire anyone who gives it a go. In life you're given opportunities, and your happiness depends on what you make of them. Don't give other people the power over your happiness, but go out there and carry on trying

OMG, thanks so much for such a helpful rep!
I feel very warm now knowing my thought can be shared with other, especially an experienced like you (I think).
When I was 18, i thought I was old and I had to act like an truly adult : wise, caring, calm. Now I am nearly 20 and still a child, i mean still cant find a way for the future and an ego. so im really panic. I think if i can find a major purpose for my life or only a passion, I ll stick to it and can stop worrying. But the thing is what purpose?

Was it hard for you to find your purpose of life? you know, for an international student ( im from Vietnam) judging which values is actually priority in life is not easy : old or new one? traditional values of my country or western life style ? There are various Vietnamese students in my uni but interestingly I quite prefer British ones. Some of my flatmates are very friendly and cute but my speaking and listening is bad so there is still a distance. Also i cant get used to going clubbing while all the topics of the girls are about going out, getting drunk...(

I joined Break dance society and met some cute friends there.

TbH, I tried my best to make friends at first, sometimes pretend to be confident like your "fake confidence" but after some aftermath conversations they seemed to have a distance with me. That made me like " Am i that boring???"

Since then, Im not confident enough to start a convo with anyone.
In conclusion, I think my problem is
1. too much Failure --> lack of confidence even fake confidence
2. bad English ---> every time I say something, its like a very silly thing
3.boring, not good at communication, I really admire English, they all have a sense of humour

Am I thinking too much (

Aw sweetie, of course it was easier when you were younger. You're only just at the start of finding your way in the world on your own now and it can be so hard at first. Your English is great, don't put yourself down. Are there are any other students from your country at Uni? Societies you can join that you haven't considered yet?

It took me until I was 21/22 to get out of a negative cycle of distrusting people at first sight, and shutting myself off from them. I think it helped that I met new people when I started my postgraduate course and everyone just seemed a bit more willing to chat and were generally more laidback.

Let me know how it goes - in the meantime try new things and concentrate on your course, and if you are finding it hard then tell more people

Hi!
Ive just read your "Things I wish I'd known at 18". really impressive i have to admit
I am sooo depressed ritenow : fresher, international student, bad English,so boring to have a proper close friend although i tried so hard, lack of confidence, feel like Im only a zero

Im really confused, cant find any purpose to live. I judge everything, dont believe in people, dont believe in things

how can i get my confidence back? How can I be a little bit more wise. Im 19 now and it seemed tobe better when Im younger