Bite your tongue CL, bite it.

Talk to him about it first . and then in my honest opinion get some distance . do some things on your own . try and you shall succeed.

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You speak for all men now? You have absolutely no idea do you?

In the real world

You know the OTT uber loud is an extreme though?

Though yes that is unattractive as well

Jimmies have been rustled brah!

Lol you got them facial aesthetics that got them mirin eyy? ;)
Tfw your bulking over summer...



how's things bro?

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im 16. so basically last night my sister had 3 guy friends over and i got chatting to one who was 20. we then got close and went into the other room and started kissing me and asking if i wanted sex and everything. i said no. im not sure whether he was trying to use me or not as he was trying to get me to down jack daniels but i thought he was lovely and he didn't dive right in, he was kinda cute like he would hold my hand and kiss it and talk to me about stuff to make me feel comfortable. my mum and sister found us and were both horrified but i don't think much of it tbh. what is your opinion?

Some guys I know (mainly also the sporty types) say that it's attractive when a girl's into fitness, but a lot of other guys say it's a turn off

I'm a uni student, it's uni life, could be a lot worse and that was one of the ones on the list from the app, i wouldn't do that unless we were dating of course

It is actually completely natural to look for those things in a woman, as it is primal instinct to look for visual signs of good health and fertility.

Aren't you a bit annoyed that she refers to her own boyfriend as 'Anon'?

The whole 'the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else' has some truth in it but not get under as in sex. You won't get over someone by lots of fornication but by getting romantically evolved with someone else.

I only tend to fully get over a girl I've had a long term romantic attraction with is by becoming attracted to someone else in a romantic sense. That may be hard if you we hung up on someone else but there's no easy way out of this sort of situation.

Cutting contact is good. Make sure you aren't looking over old photos or things like that.

That failing, there is a far more unsavoury, self damaging way to get over her. Find a way to hate her. Every bad thing she's done, hate her for it. Everything that went wrong with the relationship was her fault. Replace love with hate. Isn't that nice.

I wouldn't recommend that though. Might turn you in to a bit of a psychopath.

In the mean time

I get you, it was an alternate suggestion as I may come across as irrational with my suggestions because I can relate to your situation in a sense and I wouldn't like to make things worse with my advice, I couldn't ever be friendly to someone who acted this way towards me, you have done well to keep your cool for so long. A few people mocked my accent in first weeks of uni and now seem confused/annoyed that I do not show them the same respect as others ha. But yeah when someone looks me up and down or looks at me and then does the derogatory snort thing it really irritates/distracts me. Maybe do some hard exercise to get some aggression out ;)

And exactly how does that contradict what the evidence here is claiming. I also gave reasons how the modern environment removes all women from any responsibility and doesn't punish their natural instincts (yet does for men).

I'm not bashing women if all I've done is post studies and facts. (Actually I am bashing women as clearly I do not portray women in a positive light).

'Tis a sad day when facts and logic is disregarded for emotions.

Girls and guys -

I know a lot of people go to clubs to get laid. But there are also people, like me, who like to go to clubs to dance and have a good time with friends. I'm a girl, and I never get over how perfectly nice guys after few shots completely change into leery gropey guys that move from girl to girl looking for a pull. I'm obviously not perfect, the more I drink the more flirty I may get, but I never treat a club like a meatmarket where every guy that moves is a potential person to sleep with.

I was wondering if people also thought this, and whether you think clubs are encouraging more guys and girls to act like this, or people have always been like this it's just clubs are places where those old 'desires' are more liberated.

I know I was obvs just a booty call to him and now I've said I don't want to have sex with him it's like he's not arsed about me or doesn't even just want to be friends. just that's it nothing there. Like he is going back to america in july so I don't think I care too much either. But I just feel so USED.. and that's what hurts the most. I care about my feelings and he doesn't give a ****.

I know what you mean about not knowing him, but really if he had more interest wouldn't he go out of his way to do so?
My advice to you in the case that you really do want to take this further is to act like your not interested-like you could do much better, so then it's sets a challenge for him see how that goes...
Personally I think though that if you are looking for something more stable, he doesn't seem like the right type...


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Chin up mate.

You have to fail in order to succeed.

I get that boys/men hate "fat people" but why do you have to make us feel like complete crap about it?
From what I've been told by plenty of guys on here is that ill forever be lonely because no one likes a "fat girl"

Why can't I find someone who likes me for me?


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So this guy from my town started texting me after a random add on fb.. But it turns out my friend used to work with him and he's a nice guy.
We've been texting alot, just the usual stuff and we both agreed to arrange to meet, but i'm 17 and he's 21. And i asked whether he minded chattin to me with the age gap and he said no so long as im mature like.. Which i am. But then i seem to get the impression he thinks i've done IT alot with guys. Which i havent, i've done it once when drunk. I dont wanna.say this incase he backs off. But i really wana see if we get along when we meet and could make anything of it, relationship wise. But then i dont wanna go along with him thinking ive had sex loads when i havent. What do i do? Not say anything and let him think whatever, or tell him?
Plus im really self concious of my body, im a size 12 with massive boobs.. But i have a few stretch marks on my hips.. And i think thats why ive never really 'let loose', incase some lad is repulsed by them "/
What do i do?

Just got over my first boyfriend, after months of being happy i can actually smile and mean it! Just a bit confused what i do now, spent so much time moping around i dont know what to do now?

WHAAAAAAAAAT Thats more more extreme doen what they do in movies :D

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Of course it does, you dunce.

I'm actually long distance as well! your set up sounds really good :) I can totally relate to the difficulties of long distance. My boyfriend works full time and i'm at uni, so it is hard to see each other. My boyfriend and I are only just coming up for our one year together anniversary, so its too early in my opinion for us to be moving in together. However, we have spoken about it and know we want to be together no matter what, and moving in together is our long-term goal. How old are you both? If you don't mind me asking. Its just that i'm only 18 and my boyfrined is 22. We were thinking of moving in together in two years time- when I am 20 and he 24. I will still be at uni at this point. But I don't know if 20 is still too young. However, we will have beentogether 3 years at this point (all going well), which is a more appropriate time period before moving in together, i feel

Thank you. You guessed right. And I'm sorry but at this time, I feel really angry for being born in this part of the world.

I am one of those people, apart from the few people I am close with, I cannot stand talking to anyone who I dont know, and go bright red /croaky voice / awkward nervous coughing when I absolutely have to talk to someone. It's not attractive tbh.

Except you probably won't, your first time will be short, inexperienced and awkward, exactly how you want to remember your wedding night.

Well for example she's a former anorexic so when she feels insecure about her body in particular I tell her I love it, and some specifics sometime. She's been depressed so if she's on a low or lacking confidence to do something she wants to like apply for an internship or do well in an exam I will reassure her, if I notice something about her I'm finding particularly attractive I'll tell her I like it. I try not to make it the same thing.

There are flirts, cuddles and kissing, a bit complicated how far I can go because of a no-sex-before-marriage rule in her culture but that ramps up the tension a little when we do get close.
Basically I don't give her compliments for the hell of it, I give them when I mean it or when she needs it. The rest of the time I treat her like a best friend really (because she sort of is ^_^), we chat, we laugh, tease each other, have deep conversations sometimes, do stuff whatever. I want her to feel sexy but I don't want her to think she's my sex object. Sometimes what I'm saying is cheesy/positively cringeworthy but I'm fully aware I'm being OTT and cheesy. It's kind of our thing and she obviously knows I'm teasing a little too :P

Every now and then I'm overcome somehow and just go flat out and tell her 'my God you're beautiful' but it's not rehearsed, (this is going to sound ridiculously cheesy) it's like a spell :) it's a spur of the moment thing, from a way she looks at me or smiles or flicks her hair or something that just really turns me on :)

Forget to mention she's not just a crush, she's my girlfriend and this week we proclaimed our love, the chemistry is there :) so maybe a bit of cheesiness right now is just nice?

Can somebody please tell me this doesn't sound like I'm going to bore the pants off her in a few months? She's my first successful gf (since miserabl;y failing when I was 15 :o) and I'm her first bf at all, I'm just following my heart right now not any real experience in this whole relationships thing :$

I'm a girl, have been single all my life as I'm one of those people who likes to achieve a lot and study really hard, but I keep on getting distracted by my feelings for the opposite sex, which is annoying. It's not really romantic feelings so much as just wanting them. I keep thinking about sex (I have quite a masculine personality in a lot of ways) which distracts me from my work. I've tried "satisfying myself" but even then I can't help but fantasize about it all the time.

I don't have a boyfriend so can't use this for anyone else's benefit. I just wish I could stop thinking anything sexual for a bit, and then I'd have so much more free time on my hands as I have a big summer coming up, and be able to focus on my work more too. Do you reckon it would mentally damage me in any way to become asexual for a while? What do you think? I'm quite logical anyway.

If she says it to your face it means you're forever drowned in the friendzone, if she says it behind your back it could mean anything really, depends on the context.

I am sure you have all heard the saying that you shouldn't look for a girlfriend or boyfriend. Simply get on with your life and it will happen when you least expect it.

In your opinion is this true or complete crap?

OP is a virgin.

You like towering too? :confused:


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I'd get down on one knee and produce a pokeball shaped box. I would then open the box, inside which would be a diamond ring, and say "I choose you".

I just want everyone's perspective. Be honest:)

He's clearly insecure and thinks you're 'out of his league' and can do better.

He's getting like this after 2 months? That's pretty worrying, imagine what he would be like after a year... :/

Definitely need to have a serious talk with him. He sounds like he could end up pretty controlling and jealous, and honestly I can never understand guys that are so insecure they see every other person with a penis that you talk to as a threat. He needs to calm down.

It's this thing called an 'analogy'. It is part of 'logical argument'.

I trust him I just don't trust other girls.

It's kinda hard to tell without like knowing him personally?

you say you have a mutual friend? is there any way you could get that friends opinion on whether he's the sort of person who would just be using you for fun..?

If not, and you like him, then I'd say just bite the bullet and meet up, you'll be able to tell whether he's being genuine when you're with him, just don't do anything without thinking about it first because if he is using you, you don't want to end up regretting anything or being humiliated :)

make sure you're happy with things first :) never settle for second best :)
go make a friend and see how it goes!
good luck :)

I never said she wasn't allowed to change her mind, I'm just a bit shocked by the huge change of heart. I'm not in denial, but I can't help but think there's something going on.

That would depend on what you want to do. If you want to be a female Pope you might end up disappointed, but I think most other dreams are largely achievable depending on how determined and pro-active you are about reaching your goals :)

But seriously, I'll repeat myself - don't ever look to people on here for confirmation of what "life" is about :p

Just be yourself and drop it into conversation! :) Try asking him to go for a drink for a 'catch-up' to start off with :)

Listening, she's sexting you. That's a sign, act upon it. You'll then see if she's a time waster or not. It's all about qualifying quickly. Some girls are REALLY flirty naturally, so if you're shy and you're in the same class a girl who's flirting with you, you need to find out ASAP if she's flirting with just you, or it's just her personality.

Ain't nobody got time fooo thatt

Thing is as of tomorrow, we are on holiday as most people have finished their AS exams so I won't see her or be able to speak to her till September

So, 3 weeks ago, my boyfriend broke up with me.

I can't begin to explain myself, I don't know where to start.

Anything we'd argue about would be social events, like him partying/going to gigs/holiday.

So first, partying: he used to be a guy who rarely went out and drank alcohol. He'd go out to house parties for birthdays and I would go with him. But that's become more and more often as everyone has turned 18. He used to go out monthly, and now it's weekly: I'm getting annoying and worried.
I don't know whether I'm jealous, concerned for his health or I'm lonely. And I don't know why he can't meet up with his friends during the day, like I would. They used to do that last summer (we met April last year), and I was more than happy for him to go out, sometimes I'd go with him.
But that's all stopped now.
Now him and his friends drink at the weekend at a pub that I live practically next to. And I don't like it.
This is one of the reasons we broke up.

Secondly: gigs. I don't have too much of a problem him doing this, but he'll make plans with friends, and I have no invite: we have a similar taste in music, why can't I come? Then, whilst he's there, he won't text me. Once, he didn't text me for the whole of the night and I had a massive go at him (was he safe? etc). It would be nice of him to get in touch if he's not going to invite me.

Lastly: a planned holiday. Next month, he'll be going on a holiday for about a week to Tenerife. I really wanted to go, but didn't have the money. In total, there are 8 people going (why not 4 like most people?), they are planning to drink (you said you were there to say goodbye to your friends, this is your last outing so why be drunk?), and thirdly I don't like the idea of him going to clubs (half-naked women, and now we're apart - help!).

These are the things we have talked about, the holiday and him drinking out with friends are the reasons why we split up.

I don't know how to feel, I love him and want him back. I'm trying to change my attitude and not interfere with the activities he does.

I also want to be with him more than ever as soon he'll be going off to Uni and some of these problems will go away. What do I do?

lol'd at 90% of this thread being female responses.

no, definitely not. I can't imagine spending the rest of my life with anyone given how bored I get with people very quickly. Sounds meaningless and shallow, and that's because it is. And that's what makes me happy. I'm young... why the hell would I want to tie myself down?

Plus, I don't think there's any such thing as "the one" at all. Think how many people there are in this world. If you think that only one of them is going to make you as happy as your significant other makes you happy, you're lying to yourself.

Thank you, that's the best advice so far! You've actually made me feel a lot better!

To be straightforward, I am a very awkward and shy person. Although I've never been diagnosed with social anxiety disorder, I read the DSM descriptions for it and it seems to describe me pretty well.

Anyway, because of this, I don't have that many friends, I'm pretty much never invited to parties, and I find it very difficult to talk to people (guys, girls, strangers, teachers. Basically anyone except my close family). Even when I'm with my best friends, I don't know what to talk about and there's always an awkward silence between me and anyone I am with, though I'm fine in larger groups.

But now that I'll be going off to uni, I want to change this and make many friends, and hopefully even get a girlfriend, seeing as I'm the only one of my group of friends who's never been close to a relationship.

I also look much younger than I actually am, and I think that also affects me, as in nobody invites me to go drinking with them etc.

Do you guys have any tips on not being that awkward kid and knowing fun things to talk about? All I hear is just things like randomly starting a convo and just flowing with it, which I find completely useless for me.

Or any other advice on relationship with people is welcome (given that it is pertinent to my situation)

PS. Sorry for the long post :p

Hey guys.

So there's this girl i like and i know she likes me.

We've been friends for years and i used to be friends with her brother so i got to know the family a bit.

I don't like the family and would avoid going around there and talking to the parents if we were in a relationship.

Is this a problem? I like the girl but i don't like her family. Could the relationship still work?

Thanks

you have trust issues after two and a half years? YOUR the one with the problem. The only issue here is you, not him.

And if you dont trust him after two and a half years you never will

feel sorry for your bf tbh

oh yes because that automatically means she's going to cheat doesnt it?

If she was that unhappy about it, she wouldnt have been with him for 6 years.

Hi all
SCENARIO
Me [22], boyfriend (James [34]) and female colleague (Beth [34]) work in a shop. I'm the only one who works there part time. I've seen my boyfriend regularly in the last two months due to having exams. Been either off work with holidays for exams or have different shifts. So I'm averaging seeing him once every 2 weeks when I stay over. Normally, when I don't have exams, I see him about 3-5 times a week including seeing him at work and staying over.

My bf lives alone in his flat.
Beth is very friendly. She has a boyfriend of 6 years.
Me and my bf have been going out for 2 and a half years.

Everyone does their own thing outside of work ie. my bf writes music and Beth is a hypnotherapist. Beth wants my bf to help her record a hypnotherapy CD.

THE PROBLEM
Just got off the phone with my bf he said Beth's going to go round his to record her CD next week. Bf said he'd also cleaned his flat - he NEVER does this, the place is always covered with thick dust. Why would you randomly clean the flat?

I HAVE TRUST ISSUES
Basically, I guess I do get suspicious easily. About 3 months ago, I got ridiculously upset because I saw he had his ex's number on his phone. He said he never contacts her but she only occasionally does to check he's OK. She doesn't know about me. He reassured me he's totally committed etc, and he offered to delete the number but he wasn't happy about it. I said it wasn't my prerogative and so he kept the number.

MY QUESTION
But what I wanna ask you girls (or guys) is if you'd be happy with this situation? Would you have any issues with it?

I've been dating this guy for 7 months now and all of a sudden he wants me to make a proper commitment. I am happy with just being boyfriend and girlfriend but he's started to come out and say that he considers me to be his partner and that one day he wishes he can marry me and all this commitment stuff! Like, I'm happy he considers our relationship not be a joke but I am sixteen! I want to do a million things before I make a big commitment to someone, I've hardly started my life yet! What should I do? Help!

A one night stand in December led to a pregnancy which then lead to an abortion. He offered to come but I went through it myself after two months of 'is this the right thing to do' during that time we messaged daily. With so much contact we both developed feelings for each other.


About 3 weeks after the abortion we met up for the first time since the one night stand, after this he said I wasn't his type and doesn't like me. I pleaded for another chance, 2 weeks later we causally met up in a bar for 20 mins and we agreed to stay 'friends'. This was about a 5 weeks ago. I call him weekly and text about twice a week. Sometimes he just ignores me. It's like he only wants to talk when it suits him. And as for wanting to be friends...he asks for naughty pictures etc when he's horney. He tells me that's its best to cut contact but then asks me to call him etc. His behaviour is confusing. I think I was being too much at one point and he lied about starting to see another girl, it turns out they were just friends and have been for ages. Today, I'm finally feeling better about the situation until I realise he's talking to his ex, I'm pretty sure that they like each other and he's getting a job in London soon, she's a uni there. I have a feeling he's going to get into a relationship pretty soon and it will shatter me.


I like this guy a lot, I've only seen him 3 times but we've been in close contact for over 6 months now and it's SO hard to let it go...

Is there anyone you can get advice from locally? A Connexions centre or something? :)

You have to keep on applying even if it's the last thing you feel like doing if you're stuck in a a dead end. Even go for stuff you wouldn't usually consider (but can still get) provided it pays enough. Believe in yourself.

I'd be like a 2.9. As far as you can get to bisexual without actually being bisexual! I'm very odd that way. My boyfriend says I have weird tendencies But I fully appreciate the beauty of a woman and why they are appealing. I probably look at more attractive women in the street than men, but I think this is because I'm jealous of the women and picky with men. I think I could probably do sexual things with a woman without being disgusted, but at the same time it probably wouldn't turn me on. I guess that would make me bisexual if it did. I definitely can't contemplate having romantic feelings for a woman though. That is something I'd be a 0 on pretty much, and that's what lets me know I'm not bi I guess.

Maybe ask him if he fancies a drink, if you're finishing at the same time?
I don't really know what to say - so long as you're doing your bit, you can only hope he does the same.