LowRider (Offline)

Just take the risk dude, apply you might like it and you don't want to regret not doing the placeMent

Saudi - amazing but last i went i was in y7, I remember it but would love to go again, my family all went last year but left me at home to look after madrassa so my dad promised to take me next year inshallah
Syria - awesome, stayed for 8 days, it was another spiritual typa trip lots of scholars of Hadith are buried there, the karbala happened there so it was really good
Dubai, UAE - really good, pure chills though beaches and big houses and like really touristy
Greece - went in the summer with my friends, really good, was a good break from everything even though we stayed in the hotel pretty much the whole time coz we died of the heat lol
Wanted to go France but my mum didn't let me back in year 8 haha ... I still hold it against them lmao :P

i havent done any revision all day. so bad
not in the mood today, no motivation!

that was a short sweet reply to my massive posts lol :P
ive been to saudia arabia x3, syria, dubai, UAE and greece.
wbu?

no not as a condition when doing a rishta gosh thats quite ridiculous, a girl has to leave her parents house, as much as she doesn't want to face it its the truth right

well its ideal that the guy is the head of the household of course but it has to be a compromise. tbh as a brit born pakistani girl whos going to uni to get a degree which will get me a job in the end, i know for a fact once im married i will probably work for 2 years or so and then i would want to sit at home look after the in laws and kids if any.. id always have the degree so if i wanted to go back to the job i always could but id prefer to stay at home n let the guy earn and provide, regardless of having a degree or whatever.

all that British born prospective of living life etc is all gibberish to me, being a muslim pakistani girl you actually have to take in consideration marriage family life and children innit.

ps: well done for replying quickly

well no it was like she lived with her in laws in their city for a while, like 3 years and had her first baby and then her and her husband were looking for a house and they decided to search for houses in sheffield aswell as Middlesbrough where her inlaws are from, they found a house they liked in sheffield and the girl persuaded the guy theres better job/education prospects in sheffield for their children so theyve moved here..! and hes really happy even though hes brit born went to uni.. think its more a compromise than the wife being the stronger one in the relationship though.. thats how it should be right.. both as equal as each other? lol

tbh im in abit of a dilemma marriage wise. my parents have said if i like someone here to tell them they would get me married but i actually dont, and ive never been with anyone or anythign like that so i cant just conjure up a guy lol. plus you dont get many good guys these days lets be honest; most are druggies and the ones who arent are at uni with about 4 girlfriends and if theyre not into girls theyre into clubbing and alcohol.
then theres the good guys who are so good mashallah but they will get married to whoever their parents want them to get married to, usually arranged and back home so us british girls are in abit of a dilemma hey

i know of quite a few girls who have got married to freshies and theyve had such a hard time bless them, first doing the paperwork to call the guy over then working until he can get a job, whether that be the stantard takeaway/taxi or a professional job it takes time and until then the girls got to provide theres no two ways about it.

housework is more of a challenge! stick it out in a girls shoes one day youll see lol :P

awwh bless, yeh my mum tells me its my fault im short i never drank milk when i was little LOL .. i actually didnt but stilll dont like being short esp when your 12 year old sister is almost same height as you :|

yeh you should go! depends though, whats your uni like in terms of apna population?

Lol you posted in your wall instead if mine, I was wondering why you hadnt replied yet lol!

Well I know of guys who have moved to Sheffield after getting married to a girl from Sheff, they've found good jobs and stuff so I was just wondering like generally. I guess time can force you to do things you don't really think you would ever do right. It wasn't offensive don't worry haha

You already know I'm IA most likely going to marry a freshie. So theoretically speaking no I wouldn't it's usually the girl who comes into the guys family and it's not uncommon for the girl to stay in the in laws house for a bit(not saying that is easy and I understand some girls don't want to). I may have heard of demands of girls saying for the guy to move close to them but I would say they are deluded to think many guys would agree to such a thing unless they're trying to get a visa or something I don't think many guys from here would agree to it. Sorry if it's offensive just being honest.

For me personally I'll probably have to move depending on where the job is. But say for example I had to move because of my job or some reason I would expect my wife to come as I'm head of the household blah blah. I'm interested in why you're asking such a question?

I might have to disagree with the girl having to provide even if they did get married to someone from there I guess it depends on their education and if they have a standard job it can be hard. You could maybe still get married to someone from here? don't write that off yet if that's what you want. There are still a lot of good guys & girls out there.

I personally don't know of many brit girls getting married to freshies but there are still educated guys from pak who become professionals right?

One of my sisters a bit short too I remember when my mum used to have a go at her before she got married hahaha.

Hey going to work can be hard too you know :P both have there challenges.

Hmmmm I've never been to a paksoc event maybe I should.

If you got married here, would you consider moving out your city to your wifes city and getting a house and settling there? Or would you never leave your own city?

I happened to be on tsr when i got your reply yesterday but yeh generally i try to reply quite quickly, then eagerly wait for the next comment lol!

I know what you mean, though it depends where the girl gets married. If she gets married from back home she has the responsibility to provide, at least until the guy gets here and then she still has to keep working til he gets a job. So it can work both ways .. Then again girls have a lot of responsibility inside the house cooking cleaning looking after in laws and family,, so it can be hard.. Guys just do there work come home to a clean house with a cooked meal in front of them hey! Lol luxury!

Lol I'm both, I can be immature but I know when to stop, I'm really mature at home though you have to be. My height doesn't work to my advantage though I'm tiny so people sometimes mistake me for being younger than I am.

Lol yeh Paksoc is a lot of fresh but they're okay. Well atleast some of them are. I was in the committee this year so we tried to get the fresh and the Brits to mingle, didn't go down too well in the beginning but now they're okay lol. I guess it's something different ,, another aspect to unis social life .. I made 75 roti's for the food festival for Paksoc 2 months ago, never doing that again but the festival was fun; letting everyone taste food that we cooked .. Dont worry we didnt poison anyone lol,, and we did like a sporting event vs Indian society so it's not been bad this year