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Oh and I just realised you posted that a year ago - darn
Well I hope it helps anyway lemme know how you're coping sis
Much love

I think what it is is that you need to stay true to yourself insha'Allah. Don't and I mean DONT deviate away from who you are just to fit in! Trust me it's not worth it. ATM it's all freshers fever. It will die out. Seriously this is their hype time. So yeah let em do what they're doing and just ignore it.... Do try joining the isoc if you can. Talk about assignments and important stuff with course fellows. If they're such serious uninterested retard than maybe they're just not worth your time, effort and attention. Find people in other courses! With me it's like I have course friends and then I have loads of acquaintances with super nice people on other courses - potentially great friends . Oh yes and Don't miss uni for these people man... Stand your ground let em know that this scarf libertises you - obviously explain that it's a way better from of liberty than their interpretations of it... I take the hijab was your choice right? Than stick by it! I know it was my choice for sure... Seeing my mum doesn't even wear one but one day insha'Allah... Oh yeah and you should know it's meant to be worn FOR A REASON NOT A SEASON (quoting my friend Iqra :P)*
But yeah I hope this helped ... Just inbox me man - I think you could do with some nice sister talk.
Insha'Allah I hope this helps*
Humma <3

Ignore the spellings got too excited seeing it's my first ever reply

Okay so basically right I'm not really sure about where I'm going with this but my situation is the complete opposite to yours.
I'm a muslim girl - in my first year of uni studying Architecture. So far it's been great Alhamdulillah. There have been a few struggles but I'm coping. I'm generally super hyper and bubbly so people do find it way to easy to talk to me - Guys and girls. Sometimes that puts me in a bit of a fix as before uni I didn't really talk to guys much so yeah it feels a little bit awkward - you're probably thinking why? Well I'm in a group of four guys and Me! We have meetings all the time for our projects sometimes as late as ten. So we do have to communicate a lot... And that makes me feel a little uncomfortabel... Because this isn't my usual environment... But yeah surprisingly it feels sort of normal...What I find decent with these lot is that they know that I know where I stand. I'd tell them that I need to go and pray and they'll offer to look after my stuff and carry the work on for me. I tend to mind my own buisness most of the time but yeah we have an odd laugh together.

Hang on in there!

Hey which un do you attend?
Some of the good things you can do is join the isoc society or talk to the other headscarf girls they'll be more then welcoming

Don't feel pressured to change yourself, but perhaps try speaking to the more reserved-looking personnel in your lectures. Of course, you might have tried this, so I apologise if I'm just suggesting exhausted avenues.

At the same time though, don't develop a chip on your shoulder or anything. I can only imagine how much this infuriates/annoys you, but it's life. Try to maintain positivity and once you make that breakthrough you'll ponder how it didn't occur before.

P.S.

This is a somewhat personal question, so don't feel obliged to answer, but what type of scarf do you wear? I presume it's the hijab, but is it modest in colour and design, or bright? I find that if someone is wearing a brightly coloured hijab, it makes them appear more welcoming and confident.

Persevere.

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