Our parents don't let us sleep in the same room together

Your brother couldn't fall pregnant.

This is true to a certain extent but it excludes certain issues.

I agree that maturity is not a necessary prerequisite to having the right to have sex. But from the parent's point of view, I can see why they would be concerned that their daughter was having sex if she was not mature. You said that you only need to be mature if you plan to have a baby through sex, but if you aren't mature, how likely is it that you'll be serious in your attempts to prevent pregnancy? Not very. So having a baby through immaturity and sex is quite a likely outcome, and since the person having the sex isn't themselves mature enough to take measure against it, I can see how it can be justified in this instance for there to be an intervention.

Also, if your daughter is not mature, she is also more vulnerable to use and abuse by her partner than she would be if she was a bit more savvy.

I think parental intervention can be justified in situations where it can be shown that their child is far too immature to deal with the possibility of pregnancy, STDs, or use and abuse.

However, I can't stress enough that, even if this is the case, banning sex from the house is not a viable intervention. It simply does not work. All it does it make the sex less accessible, and hence more desirable. It also makes it more dangerous (since they'll be seeking out love shacks which add to the thrill) which again, make it more desirable. If you think that banning sex from your house will reduce the risk of pregnancy, STDs, or use and abuse, you are sadly mistaken. Quite the opposite effect is what occurs.

Talk about a kick in the nuts!

Why not? I made two statements in that post, and both of them are correct:

I said her parents were foolish. Why is this true? Because sex isn't some mad practice that can only occur in bedrooms. If you think that not allowing your child to share a bed with their partner is going to stop them from having sex, then you are very foolish indeed. Sex is a natural thing, it's an urge people get for people they are attracted to, and it certainly isn't confined to the bedrooms of the people involved. As soon as the parents backs are turned, as soon as the parents go on holiday, as soon as the parents go out shopping, as soon as they find a love shack, they're going to do it. So are the parents foolish for imposing these demands? Yes. Because their demand, A, does not stop action B from occurring, so it makes no sense to impose it.

Your brother couldn't fall pregnant.

I agree with the examples... buttt banning the teenager from doing it in the house, makes it harder to find places to have sex, therefore less sex happens... if you agree with it, they will have regular sex in their parent's house... And love shacks are hard to find...

I've been with my boyfriend for about 7 and a bit months, we're both 16, but neither of our parents let us sleep in the same bed together. It's really bugging me, is it wrong for us to sleep in the same bed together? I mean it doesn't seem it, 4 of my best friends all have boyfriends and they've been sleeping in the same bed/room together for agess!!! It's so irritating, so do you think my parents should let me? If you do, how do you think I could convince my parents, lol

And, when my 18 year old brother was my age, he always had his girlfriend stay over, my parents even let her come on holiday with us and stay in the same room as my brother, so why am I treated any differently?

I disagree. Being banned from sex makes it much more desirable, and since it is banned from the house, more dangerous locations are needed, and that again makes it more exciting and more desirable.

Love shacks aren't particularly difficult to find, btw. A cheap hotel room for a few hours, the toilets of a quiet library, in a park in the dead of night, etc.

Plus, just because it's banned in the house doesn't mean it can't still happen in the house. Parents aren't there all the time, and when they're not, there's plenty of time for regular sex.

Banning it from the house doesn't do anything except make it more desirable.

But there is no reason to encourage it or make it clear they are happy with it.
At the end of the day what is the REAL reason you would want to share a bed? apart from sex. but still cant you just live without your partner for the night? youll haave plenty of time to be sharing beds with partners when your older.
IMO its just a way people can look more mature and grown up - but seriously your 16.. theres no rush!

The parents don't allow it because they're not comfortable with it, and its their house, so what they say goes. Why is that not a good enough reason for you?

Admittedly young people will do what they want to do no matter what, everyone knows that, but I think both sets of parents are trying to be responsible by not allowing those two to sleep together in the same bed. If the OP got pregnant (which can happen to anyone, no matter how mature you are) then the finger would automatically be pointed at the parents who let them share a bed under their own roof.

Why don't you wait until you have a daughter of your own, and then see what YOU do? I don't know why you're so surprised by this rule. Its so incredibly common. Whereas rape, torture, murder etc aren't so much, y'know?

Please god don't start ranting at me again either.