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anal sex.. should I be embarrassed?

Hey, this is my first post on here. I didn't know where else to go to ask if I should be embarrassed or not?

I have done anal sex once before and there were no accidents, but we only tried it for not very long, as we had no lube and it was way too dry for me.

Last night we tried it again because I was on my period and I wanted to have sex with him before we both go to uni soon. I went toilet 2/3 hours beforehand and had a good wash aswell.
We then had the sex but at the end, I realised when he had pulled out there was a small mess on the condom.. he didn't say anything about it, and I didn't either and didn't feel bad about it because I thought it was expected to happen if we were doing it up the bum.

There was some mess in my knickers after when I got home aswell, and I just wondered if I should feel embarrassed about the accident.. I mean, something like that was expected to happen, I'm just worried about what he will think abut me?

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He will think you are the greatest girl ever created, because you let him put it up your ***. Compared to that, everything else is irrelevant. You could shoot his dog and he wouldn't even notice.

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I wouldnt say so he must have had some idea of what happend would be a possibility. Just leave it and im sure it will be forgotten, or not really be that important. :smile:
Reply 3
i think the mere fact that you were wearing a condom saved it for you. If any "mud" had gotten on his "sausage" directly there would've been altercations. One piece of advice wash ur secondary tunnel a few minutes before the train diverts into it.( you know what i mean)
I think something like this would be expected. I wouldnt mind anal if the girl was up for it too if the usual route was "unavailable". Like what JoeyJim said, it would make it alot worse if his "sausage" got dirty :smile:
Too many "Parenthesis" in here. Ill sum it up - Wash your ******* before he pokes your poo. He doesnt care. hes not walking around with skidmarks in his pants, just slightly funky pubes.
WTF. I would imagine he is mortified, as I would be.
Just be glad you didn't **** all over his willy, as often happens when boys pull out.
It's totally natural (and really common) for there to be some "mess" after someone pokes you up your poo passage.
buy an enema if your gonna do it again, it'll greatly reduce the mess
Reply 9
Anonymous
Just be glad you didn't **** all over his willy, as often happens when boys pull out.
It's totally natural (and really common) for there to be some "mess" after someone pokes you up your poo passage.


thanks for the advice guys:smile:
Reply 10
No lube?? Are you actually mad???

All that aside... I wouldn't be embarrassed if I were you! I mean, you did all you could, and this sort of thing happens all the time!! x :hugs:

ps. good for you boyfriend that you are willing to let him !!
Reply 11
Ohh the first time he did the whole "slip" thing... so it didnt last for very long because i pushed him out
Reply 12
sexybexxy
Ohh the first time he did the whole "slip" thing... so it didnt last for very long because i pushed him out


He did the 'whole slip thing'? :laugh:


What does that mean, he casually slipped it up there?
Exact reason why I am not letting no man put his sausage up my batty!

As my Gran says - the **** pot is made for one reason and one reason only! URGH.

But fair play to you though OP.
TheLouisVuittonDon
WTF. I would imagine he is mortified, as I would be.


Very sexually mature :rolleyes:

Boys, if you are willing to stick your penis up a girls bum, dont be surprised if, on one or two occasions, there is the slightest bit of mess.
Its an anus.
Antonia87
Very sexually mature :rolleyes:

Boys, if you are willing to stick your penis up a girls bum, dont be surprised if, on one or two occasions, there is the slightest bit of mess.
Its an anus.


Well said :yep: I can't believe how immature some people are, I almost feel sorry for them.
lol not anonymous? Kudos to you.

Pornstars somehow never make a mess, wonder what they use?
Reply 17
This is exactly why I don't fancy having anal sex :s-smilie:
Reply 18
Antonia87
Yeah well I find stupid comments annoying :h:


Both his and your posts are equally valid. Whilst it can be expected to happen, it's still not a pleasent experience. I don't think you can really critisise and I don't think he can really complain.
Davezk
Both his and your posts are equally valid. Whilst it can be expected to happen, it's still not a pleasent experience. I don't think you can really critisise and I don't think he can really complain.


Of course its not pleasant. But you'd be quite a fool if you willingly indulged in anal sex and became disgusted and shocked if at some point it got a little dirty, as if one couldnt possibly fathom the thought.