My point here isn't about not speaking pashto as I have cousins who can't speak pashto, but my point is by saying 'hindko' is your 'mother tongue'...as I talked of before, hindko has never had any association with pashtuns in our history. So by saying hindko is your mother tongue your replacing it and ignoring what is actually a pashtun's mother tongue that has thousands of years of history and relevance to us.
I live in England, my cousins in Norway etc we all speak our regional languages, but we still speak pashto. It would be stupid for anyone to have an issue with that but you jumped from 'mother tongue' to 'regional'.....and now you say your father tries to enforce hindko within your house, which again isn't a pashtun language or a language most pashtuns understand or actively try to learn. It's not pashto and by using it as a replacement for pashto you can see why it's a bit....well no. For me it's the fact you called hindko a mother tongue, for pashtuns it's not.
I mean for my cousins who speak Norsk and are full Afghan, they may not be able to speak pashto but they don't try and portray it as a replacement for their pashtun side.
For many pashtuns here in Birmingham if you told them you were a hindko speaking pashtun you'd get a
look and asked if you were a chachi....
Being pashtun and retaining some form of culture or even just pride about being pashtun is very important and looking at some of these 'pashtun/pakthun' groups on Facebook, the emphasis on pashto is very prevalent and replacement as a 'mother tongue' is something that you'd find much resistance to.
It brings them close to being a 'pashtun' though especially in an honorary sense. Pashtun arrogance means when people emulate pashtun culture it's a source of pride for many pashtun men.
As said before I consider a pashtun and a pathan to be different things, especially when my Pakistani friends do use the two terms in different contexts, pathan being for those who now share a greater proportion of Pakistani culture and hence an aspect of why many pashtuns find that word derogatory.
I'm pashtun and my family call themselves pashtun. I find other variations quite cute to just not something that doesn't describe me or my culture.
I'm a pashtun, not a pathan and wouldn't call actively ever call myself that. It's not what I am.