Is 25 too old to enjoy University to it's fullest? E.g. Social life, societies etc
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Original post by problemsolver
Prepare to be judged then. I'm 19 and I think it'd be weird for someone my age to go for someone who is 17/18.
You think it's weird for a 19 year old to go out with someone aged 17 or 18?? lol.
There is nothing even vaguely socially unacceptable about that, I have a mate my age (19) who has a 16 year old girlfriend, nobody cares, it's perfectly legally/socially acceptable unless you live in certain parts of the USA, in which case an 18 year old can get branded a sex offender for screwing a 17 year old in some states since the AoC is 18, but that's another thing all together.
Regarding what you said before you edited your post, you sound like one of those overprotective control freak brothers/fathers who can't seem to accept that girls become adults and learn to make their own decisions when they get older. If an 18 year old screwed a 25 year old, so what? Both are legal and consenting.
Original post by Threxy
You think it's weird for a 19 year old to go out with someone aged 17 or 18?? lol.
There is nothing even vaguely socially unacceptable about that, I have a mate my age (19) who has a 16 year old girlfriend, nobody cares, it's perfectly legally/socially acceptable unless you live in certain parts of the USA, in which case an 18 year old can get branded a sex offender for screwing a 17 year old in some states since the AoC is 18, but that's another thing all together.
Regarding what you said before you edited your post, you sound like one of those overprotective control freak brothers/fathers who can't seem to accept that girls become adults and learn to make their own decisions when they get older. If an 18 year old screwed a 25 year old, so what? Both are legal and consenting.
There is nothing even vaguely socially unacceptable about that, I have a mate my age (19) who has a 16 year old girlfriend, nobody cares, it's perfectly legally/socially acceptable unless you live in certain parts of the USA, in which case an 18 year old can get branded a sex offender for screwing a 17 year old in some states since the AoC is 18, but that's another thing all together.
Regarding what you said before you edited your post, you sound like one of those overprotective control freak brothers/fathers who can't seem to accept that girls become adults and learn to make their own decisions when they get older. If an 18 year old screwed a 25 year old, so what? Both are legal and consenting.
What did I say before the edit? These posts are days old. Why did you suddently decide to reply now?
The law isn't everything. Some people's "charm" can border on manipulation with girls. I guess to me it really depends on the individual case, but in many cases I wouldn't be happy with a 25 year old banging my 18 year old sister. Obviously if it was some really nice, innocent, clean-cut 25 year old doing something quite respectable, who clearly cared about her, I wouldn't mind so much, but I'd still hate the thought.
That is a completely natural feeling for me, and for lots of other men actually. Just like sexual urges, it is completely natural, and I don't see why I should feel bad for how I naturally feel. I don't act on this and control her in any way, so why should I feel bad? Some aspects of sex are one person doing something they might not particularly enjoy (well...that they might hate) for the other person's pleasure, and why should I like my sister doing this for somebody?
Obviously I wouldn't lock my 18 year old sister up in a cage to prevent her experiencing anything. I leave her to it, she goes to all the parties with alcohol with the other kids and I ask nothing about it.
(edited 12 years ago)
Original post by Wookie42
1000% definitely not, if you're 30+ then it'd be a bit weird but not mid twenties. Go for it 
Bless you. At 34 I can party with the best of them!
as long as you dont walk about going "im old" im sure you'll be fine :P
25 isnt even old :|
for proper mature students the only ones iv seen have any problems on the friends front (they werent interested in the social side at all though) are ones who would only talk to other mature students they were pretty rude to anyone who wasnt ... x
25 isnt even old :|
for proper mature students the only ones iv seen have any problems on the friends front (they werent interested in the social side at all though) are ones who would only talk to other mature students they were pretty rude to anyone who wasnt ... x
Speaking from experience the 'matures' on my courses fell into two groups mainly, the young matures sorta under 40 who hung out/socialised with the rest of the 'young' students and then the much older mature students (40s/50s) who found they had most in common with each other so led a very insular social life at uni. As one large group we got on just fine, but from a social side the line was kinda drawn around the age of 40 or so. Even with younger students you had grown-up 18 year olds and immature 21 year olds so there's no definite age at which you're suddenly so much more grown up than everyone else.
In short you have nothing to worry about Good luck and have fun!
In short you have nothing to worry about
Good luck and have fun!Original post by TheEnigmaUK
I am planning to study an access course next year in Social studies and then go onto Uni, but I'm currently 23 years old and once the access course is completed I'll be 25 years old, and that will be the same age I'll start Uni. I am still social now and I enjoy partying, drinking (sometimes), and doing different activities, but am I going to be too old to join in and have fun at Uni? I don't look old (good genes) so I would probably fit in with the younger people, but I'm just a little worried/curious about how it might be at University.
Any advice?
Any advice?
Some of those big 18 year old girls look like they are 30, so you should be ok
Original post by Kennethx
Their course is 7 years long, sometimes longer. Not to mention PHDs
the difference is they're with people their own age because they're all 'old' but the OP is going into his first year at 25.
But it's still not too old!
I dont think 25 is too old to enjoy university and what it has to offer a type undergraduate.University is what you make of it.I was 29 when i first went university and i had a busy social life etc and got on well with all age groups including the 18 years olds.So like i said join in the various social activities,join the local university clubs or what ever u into and just make new friends.
why are so many people hating on OP for wanting a good social life at uni? you're in the minority if socialising isn't a big part of your life at university.
in response to the question, I don't think 25 is too old, no. I'm not at uni yet but at college one of our really good mates is 21 while the rest of us are 16 - 18 and he fits in fine. it's all about your attitude. and as you get older age differences matter less and less, i wouldn't worry about it at all!
in response to the question, I don't think 25 is too old, no. I'm not at uni yet but at college one of our really good mates is 21 while the rest of us are 16 - 18 and he fits in fine. it's all about your attitude. and as you get older age differences matter less and less, i wouldn't worry about it at all!
Original post by callum9999
What a stupid response. He wants to socialise and do a degree in social care. On what planet would becoming a bricklayer be a suitable path to do that?
Uranus
I'd outlast most of these lightweight youngstars. I agree with many comments on here, bring it on, seriously. I feel younger now than i did when i was 18, i'm less serious and i know how to enjoy things whilst extracting meaning and making the most of it. So, i say - just do it, go for it, believe in yourself. It's all good!
Original post by Vicstress
Bless you. At 34 I can party with the best of them!
You may be able to 'party with the best of them', but all I mean is that I'd find it a bit weird if a 34 year old came and danced with me, and joined in with standard banter like "She looks fit" when the girl is 18 or something. In those kinds of situations the age gap does actually matter unlike most situations. Now don't get me wrong, there are plenty of mature students at my uni that I get on with, and before I'm shot down in flames, I'm in no way saying they should be alienated or anything like that - quite the opposite.
Bless me? I hope you enjoy trying to be patronising.
(edited 12 years ago)
Original post by problemsolver
What did I say before the edit? These posts are days old. Why did you suddently decide to reply now?
The law isn't everything. Some people's "charm" can border on manipulation with girls. I guess to me it really depends on the individual case, but in many cases I wouldn't be happy with a 25 year old banging my 18 year old sister. Obviously if it was some really nice, innocent, clean-cut 25 year old doing something quite respectable, who clearly cared about her, I wouldn't mind so much, but I'd still hate the thought.
That is a completely natural feeling for me, and for lots of other men actually. Just like sexual urges, it is completely natural, and I don't see why I should feel bad for how I naturally feel. I don't act on this and control her in any way, so why should I feel bad? Some aspects of sex are one person doing something they might not particularly enjoy (well...that they might hate) for the other person's pleasure, and why should I like my sister doing this for somebody?
Obviously I wouldn't lock my 18 year old sister up in a cage to prevent her experiencing anything. I leave her to it, she goes to all the parties with alcohol with the other kids and I ask nothing about it.
The law isn't everything. Some people's "charm" can border on manipulation with girls. I guess to me it really depends on the individual case, but in many cases I wouldn't be happy with a 25 year old banging my 18 year old sister. Obviously if it was some really nice, innocent, clean-cut 25 year old doing something quite respectable, who clearly cared about her, I wouldn't mind so much, but I'd still hate the thought.
That is a completely natural feeling for me, and for lots of other men actually. Just like sexual urges, it is completely natural, and I don't see why I should feel bad for how I naturally feel. I don't act on this and control her in any way, so why should I feel bad? Some aspects of sex are one person doing something they might not particularly enjoy (well...that they might hate) for the other person's pleasure, and why should I like my sister doing this for somebody?
Obviously I wouldn't lock my 18 year old sister up in a cage to prevent her experiencing anything. I leave her to it, she goes to all the parties with alcohol with the other kids and I ask nothing about it.
Not many men (that I know anyway) think it's particularly wrong for an 18 year old to shag or date who she likes. 13-15 maybe even 16 is different, but 18? That is when most girls stop growing and have reached the end of puberty. They are adults, most are pretty damn mature too and have grown out of the phase of expecting mr perfect prince charming to come along. Regarding manipulative partners, they can be anyone and of any age, that's rather moot.
Thoughts and feelings aren't wrong, no, but you should probably keep them to yourself, unless obviously there is evidence that your 18 year old sister is getting manipulated or something. Don't just presume it.
Original post by Threxy
Not many men (that I know anyway) think it's particularly wrong for an 18 year old to shag or date who she likes. 13-15 maybe even 16 is different, but 18? That is when most girls stop growing and have reached the end of puberty. They are adults, most are pretty damn mature too and have grown out of the phase of expecting mr perfect prince charming to come along. Regarding manipulative partners, they can be anyone and of any age, that's rather moot.
Thoughts and feelings aren't wrong, no, but you should probably keep them to yourself, unless obviously there is evidence that your 18 year old sister is getting manipulated or something. Don't just presume it.
Thoughts and feelings aren't wrong, no, but you should probably keep them to yourself, unless obviously there is evidence that your 18 year old sister is getting manipulated or something. Don't just presume it.
I can presume whatever I want and do what I want. You aren't going to enforce anything. Who the hell are you telling me what to do? Telling other people what to do is exactly what you tried to scold me for. **** off.
I even said "I don't act on it or ask her anything about the parties she goes to", but you still had to get in there, being a control freak (something you accused me of) and telling me not to act on it or voice my opinions. Seriously **** off.
(edited 12 years ago)
Original post by Wookie42
Bless me? I hope you enjoy trying to be patronising.
I guess if you easily feel patronised, then it will be so.
I understand your point of view though, it must seem weird for the 18 year olds who have only up till that point have mainly experienced an academic setting. Once out of that academic setting there is much less of that divide that seems to appear between the ages. The view that it is weird for over 30's to be at uni will change in yourself. Those old creepy grandads are in so much more comfortable with themselves, they are great crack. Ironically this is why they seem so much younger.
I'm not trying to be harsh but it's perfectly acceptable and entirely appropriate for any person of any age to continue learning.
Original post by problemsolver
I can presume whatever I want and do what I want. You aren't going to enforce anything. Who the hell are you telling me what to do? Telling other people what to do is exactly what you tried to scold me for. **** off.
I even said "I don't act on it or ask her anything about the parties she goes to", but you still had to get in there, being a control freak (something you accused me of) and telling me not to act on it or voice my opinions. Seriously **** off.
I even said "I don't act on it or ask her anything about the parties she goes to", but you still had to get in there, being a control freak (something you accused me of) and telling me not to act on it or voice my opinions. Seriously **** off.
Oh, for god sake. Grow up.
Original post by vVShabbaVv
I guess if you easily feel patronised, then it will be so.
I understand your point of view though, it must seem weird for the 18 year olds who have only up till that point have mainly experienced an academic setting. Once out of that academic setting there is much less of that divide that seems to appear between the ages. The view that it is weird for over 30's to be at uni will change in yourself. Those old creepy grandads are in so much more comfortable with themselves, they are great crack. Ironically this is why they seem so much younger.
I'm not trying to be harsh but it's perfectly acceptable and entirely appropriate for any person of any age to continue learning.
I understand your point of view though, it must seem weird for the 18 year olds who have only up till that point have mainly experienced an academic setting. Once out of that academic setting there is much less of that divide that seems to appear between the ages. The view that it is weird for over 30's to be at uni will change in yourself. Those old creepy grandads are in so much more comfortable with themselves, they are great crack. Ironically this is why they seem so much younger.
I'm not trying to be harsh but it's perfectly acceptable and entirely appropriate for any person of any age to continue learning.
Sorry, who are you? I quoted Vicstress...
Anywho, it isn't that its weird in terms of "oh wow, that person is... older" :O, and I think you've completely misunderstood my point, I never said it was unacceptable or inappropriate for mature students to exist - especially since I wrote:
"Now don't get me wrong, there are plenty of mature students at my uni that I get on with, and before I'm shot down in flames, I'm in no way saying they should be alienated or anything like that - quite the opposite." Right after explaining I was only talking about the social side...
Its more when it comes to going out. As you get older you have different tastes, you do different things. The example I was talking about was when you go out clubbing or whatever - certainly at my uni, the vast majority of people in the clubs are students for a reason. The type of things my friends and I talk about when we're out just isn't suitable or relevant for someone 15 years older than us that's all, its not unfair to say that there is a divide when it comes to socialising as you get older.
Anyway, I'll stress again that I absolutely in no way have a problem with mature students, and again say that I get on fine with the ones I've met on my course. If anything, they can be more interesting to talk to than a 'normal' student since most of the time they've already seen the world and have come back to education for a good reason.
My tolerance for little girls with attitude is very thin or non-existant for me these days and I do get bored of going out unless I am in the mood for being random.
Bagged a fair few young-uns though!
Bagged a fair few young-uns though!
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