will this do me more harm than good? **** buddies question

i really like this guy and he dumped me and then stopped talking to me. However, we recently got back in touch and he's said to be **** buddies. I realllllyy like him so much but would rather him in my life than not at all.

will i be making a huge mistake to do this? will i end up getting hurt more?

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Reply 1

Sui-Kinxtar_kitty

In this situation...

Tbh Im not sure...

Its sad he will never love me but then again he is intimate with me...

I guess if you want love, dont do it...

But if you want him, go for it...

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Reply 2

catjaum

have some self respect....he dumps u...and then says lets be **** buddies...and your actually wasting your time considering it :facepalm2:

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Reply 3

pinkangelgirl

Original post by catjaum

have some self respect....he dumps u...and then says lets be **** buddies...and your actually wasting your time considering it :facepalm2:

but maybe i can get him to fall for me :P haha

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Reply 4

Sui-Kinxtar_kitty

Original post by pinkangelgirl

but maybe i can get him to fall for me :P haha

^^^ Thats what Im hoping...

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Reply 5

pinkangelgirl

Original post by Sui-Kinxtar_kitty

^^^ Thats what Im hoping...

how longs it taking? x

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Reply 6

catjaum

Original post by pinkangelgirl

but maybe i can get him to fall for me :P haha

guys dont get emotionally attached from sex.... its just gonna be sex for him.... but the longer u keep it going the more you're gonna start falling for him again...

source: been in an identical situation, except i was the dude.....and my ex kept assuming we were gonna get back together oneday..... never happened....and ended badly for her...

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Reply 7

Sui-Kinxtar_kitty

Original post by pinkangelgirl

how longs it taking? x

Well started from June...

Its more fwb because I tell him everythin and when Im upset he calls and makes me feel better...

He didnt dump me... He just doesnt want me as his gf as he doesnt love me...

I think he did say maybe in the future somthin might happen...

I really doubt it atm though...

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Reply 8

pinkangelgirl

Original post by catjaum

what makes a guy get emotionally attached?

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Reply 9

pinkangelgirl

Original post by Sui-Kinxtar_kitty

awww im sorry to hear! thats quite a while! although if it helps, my friend was seeing someone for ages who 'didnt want a relationship' and they were just fwb and then months later he officially asked her out and now theyre really happy :smile:

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Reply 10

Cannotbelieveit

Original post by catjaum

guys dont get emotionally attached from sex.... its just gonna be sex for him

That is complete bull****.

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Reply 11

catjaum

Original post by pinkangelgirl

what makes a guy get emotionally attached?

your personality and just generally how you are.....and you cant/shouldn't change that for anyone...

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Reply 12

Sui-Kinxtar_kitty

Original post by pinkangelgirl

Well the most I have heard him tell me was that I was more than a friend...

He defo cares about me loads but its not love yet...

So lets hope for the best...

But oh yeh I have another one similar to you: Ex dumped me.... Wanted me back as a **** bud but I turned him down... I will agree with the view above... He will just be using you...

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Reply 13

StressReliever

Original post by pinkangelgirl

Not a good idea, you like this guy far more than just an f-buddy. So far he has treated you like crap and will probably just take advantage of the fact you have far deeper feelings for him than he does for you.

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Reply 14

Spoonforknife

I don't like the idea, but that's just me :s-smilie:

I'd feel used I suppose, and what's to say that at the end of the day they just turn their back on you? Feelings will always be there. Just my opinion.

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Reply 15

Anonymous #1

Original post by Sui-Kinxtar_kitty

You give us girls a bad name. What are you thinking? You are the one being used in your "fwb" situation.

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Reply 16

dgeorge

Original post by Cannotbelieveit

That is complete bull****.

Awesome sig? Where did u get it/whats the name?

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Reply 17

*LoveMeDo*

Original post by Sui-Kinxtar_kitty

In this situation...

Tbh Im not sure...

Its sad he will never love me but then again he is intimate with me...

I guess if you want love, dont do it...

But if you want him, go for it...

Original post by Sui-Kinxtar_kitty

^^^ Thats what Im hoping...

Original post by Sui-Kinxtar_kitty

Hey hun :>

I've literally just joined as I lurk on this forum alot and I have seen a few of your posts but I just wanted to say that you are such a silly girl. I don't know what you're expecting to get him to fall for you, I see you posting about a torrid past and you are with a **** buddy who is clearly using you.

Get your head screwed on otherwise you will get hurt again hun.

Original post by Anonymous

You give us girls a bad name. What are you thinking? You are the one being used in your "fwb" situation.

I concur <:

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Reply 18

sweeter than a cherry pie

OP, please don't go into this with the hope that you'll win him round to wanting you back. Fine if it naturally progresses it that way, but don't go in with that sort of hope as you probably will have it crushed.