Original post by TieMeUpWith re to the comments of Ct2k7 and ColonelCuddles, to to the board more generally.
I'm going to express an opinion that might seem strong, but I think it bears saying and a little self-reflection on your part.
The "domination" that many on here seem to reference so approvingly is, in my opinion, a cipher for rape fantasies and one that is even then fundamentally naive. It seems entirely ignorant of its darkness and violence, and the inherently degrading nature of real sexual domination and rape.
Sexual domination is not a bodice babe reluctantly surrendering to the lusty charms of a masculine alpha and losing herself in sexual delight; it's your ex-boyfriend turning up at your house drunk, pushing you to the floor so violently he breaks your nose, ripping off your panties and ****ing you against your will, then leaving as soon as he's cum and calling you a "unfaithful bitch" on the way out for good measure.
It's one of your mates coming onto you towards the end of a two day coke binge, and then becoming so frustrated at your failure to reciprocate that he goes into the next room where his wife is sleeping and just starts having sex with her.
I don't think that many of you really understand what it is; you don't understand the frustration and trauma and violence. I hate to pull the age card, but you people are, what 19 and 20 year olds? I think when you've seen its ugliness you can't help but be repulsed by someone purporting to fantasise about some facsimile of sexual domination (i.e. the nullification or overcoming of consent, rape).
I've always had pretty liberal sexual mores, but at that age I can't recall wanting anything other than fun, hot, mutually enjoyable sex.
Edit:
You're 21 ffs! It's normal for women in England who haven't even graduated to be into violent sex? I must be getting old; I used to be "with it", but now what I'm "with" isn't it, and what "it" is seems weird and scary to me.
@ the other poster who referenced sharps play, I personally wouldn't do it but it is fundamentally consensual and about playing with sensation, not pretending you're a Viking ravishing a nun on Lindisfarne.
I have to confess that when I see a really fit guy, nice biceps, masculine, tallish, the most base sexual instincts come to the fore and I think, "I wouldn't mind being manhandled by him!", and then 100,000 years of evolution kicks in and I think, "until I did mind". It's not about domination, it's always consensual, and I'd always want a cuddle at the end!