Hi! given the timeline it's been around 7years since you've posted this and its 2018 now... So How's your brother and the entire family? Reason I asked is that We have almost thr same situation.I'm now 23 y/o and undergoing training for work but I have an older brother who's now 30y/o, no job, not seeking any job, No motivation, No lovelife, in and out of graduate school (lack of commitment), failed board exams 4times even though He is considered as the intelligent one and basically has been hiding away in his room and just plays online games on his PC. Mind you we have a solo parent but earns enough to support us both... however Our Mom won't be always around for us... for him. I don't know what to do. Now he's kinda *****y towards me because he sees me busy with my employment requirements etc. I can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped in the first place. I feel sorry for him but at the same time I feel so frustrated, i can only imagine what my Mom goes through every time She sees her son this way. By the way, every failure and mishap my brother endures, he always blames our Mother for it even though its clear that she's not. My. Mom is closer to him than she is with me so it's hard for her to be ecstatic for my small successes because her fave child is still stuck. I don't know. I just don't know why. Perhaps depression or what not. But clearly... Our brothers and people like them are CHOOSING to waste their lives. They are smart people. Highly intelligent but they chose to be this way. Sorry to say we cannot help them if they don't help themselves first.