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Original post by Anonymous
Yeah it should be made illegal as soon as possible. :frown:

Homophobia is too leniently allowed in society, and it needs to stop.


The thing is though, it's awkward because a vast portion of the world is religious, and many believe that religion tells them homosexuality is wrong. however if you're LGBT and still true to your faith, then you cannot use your religion as a curtain to hide behind to defend your 'right' to be homophobic. The way the American LGBT deal with the WBC is something for a lot of us look up to. There are gay Christians who have proven that the bible is not against homosexuality. What's even more worrying is the situation in the middle east right now, particularly with ISIS (Islamic State of Iraq and Syria - it's the state seeked by the rebels that is constantly being spoken about on the news at the moment) gaining strongholds in Iraq. When the US liberated Iraq in 2003, whilst tolerance was never high, the LGBTs of Iraq had homosexuality decriminalised. I fear for Iraqi LGBTs that it may not be the case for much longer.
Original post by Fleffzilla
... So as before, then. Serious matters in here, absolutely no spamming :p:

Chat thread's moved to here. I've edited the link in SWuh's quote too though so no real need to worry.
Questionnaire and picture thread are still the same :smile:



Oooooh, list of honorary members [who support LGBTers], mainly to avoid confusion, also because it's easier than listing everyone [please tell me if I've missed anyone]:

icantthinkofacoolusername
fanofkdc [sort of - applied but had too many socs already]

Please tell me when you apply to join if you're an honorary so I can add you to this list! Cheers :biggrin:


Oh, so this is a cyberspace equivalent to Peterhouse, Cambridge?
I've recently come out to a few really close friends, and they've all had the exact reaction I hoped for - complete indifference. They're there for me of course, and if I want to talk about things they will, but they don't treat me any differently and they didn't make a big deal out of it.

I sort of knew this is how they would be, because I've known them for so many years, and one of us has been out for a while anyway. So, for me, coming out to them wasn't really a big deal. It was a drunken confession here or there, and I felt completely safe with them. Coming out to myself was a lot harder.

But, the point of this post is that I'm going to uni in October, and it just feels like such a sucky time to have just begun realising this about myself, and accepting it.

I'm not sure what to do - on one hand, I feel it would be nice to go and just be openly gay from the start, a fresh beginning if you like. But, on the other hand, I'm not sure I'm comfortable with that. Nobody else knows apart from 6 close friends, I can't even begin to comprehend being OK with telling complete strangers. I don't want it to be something that defines me, ever, which is why I was so comfortable with telling the people I have - because I knew it would never be even in the first 50 adjectives they'd chose to describe me. I can't help but think if I go to uni completely out, it will be among the first things people know about me, and I wish it weren't. But then again, at some point down the line, I don't want to have to do the whole 'coming out' thing as if it were big deal, with these new friends I make.

Does anybody have any advice? Like, any at all. I'm at a dead end.
Original post by Anonymous
I've recently come out to a few really close friends, and they've all had the exact reaction I hoped for - complete indifference. They're there for me of course, and if I want to talk about things they will, but they don't treat me any differently and they didn't make a big deal out of it.

I sort of knew this is how they would be, because I've known them for so many years, and one of us has been out for a while anyway. So, for me, coming out to them wasn't really a big deal. It was a drunken confession here or there, and I felt completely safe with them. Coming out to myself was a lot harder.

But, the point of this post is that I'm going to uni in October, and it just feels like such a sucky time to have just begun realising this about myself, and accepting it.

I'm not sure what to do - on one hand, I feel it would be nice to go and just be openly gay from the start, a fresh beginning if you like. But, on the other hand, I'm not sure I'm comfortable with that. Nobody else knows apart from 6 close friends, I can't even begin to comprehend being OK with telling complete strangers. I don't want it to be something that defines me, ever, which is why I was so comfortable with telling the people I have - because I knew it would never be even in the first 50 adjectives they'd chose to describe me. I can't help but think if I go to uni completely out, it will be among the first things people know about me, and I wish it weren't. But then again, at some point down the line, I don't want to have to do the whole 'coming out' thing as if it were big deal, with these new friends I make.

Does anybody have any advice? Like, any at all. I'm at a dead end.


awww thats not fair
1. Are you male or female? Male
2. Are you L G B or T? G
3. How old are you? 17
4. When did you first realise you were L G B or T? When asked this by a straight person my response is "When did you first realise you were straight?"However, when I joined my prep school, aged 7 and I found out there were categories and wanting to chase the boys when playing kiss-chase meant you had to label yourself a certain way, I suppose then, that is when I realised I was gay.
5. When did you (or when do you plan to) come out? I came out on my 14th Birthday to my Mum, I got her to tell my Dad, who was away.
6. If your parents know you're gay how did they react? Mum's reaction "We are gonna have so much fun, c'mon, I got a new pencil skirt upstairs let's go try it on!!!" Which I found amusing. My Dad said "Yep, doesn't change anything, all fine, but uh, no funny business at school..." Which was hilarious!
7. Are you 'attatched'? if so for how long? For about 4 months on and off...
8. When was your first sexual experience with the SAME sex...? Aged 7. Boarding school nonsense, you have to have been to boarding school to understand.
9. ...and what was it? It was touching and a lot of giggling!
10. Have you ever had a sexual experience with a member of the OPPOSITE sex...? Yes
11. ...and what was it like? I was drunk, it was their hand, it felt the same as a guys hand.
12. Have you ever had a BAD sexual experience with a member of the SAME sex? Oh yes.
13. Have you ever had a BAD sexual experience with a member of the OPPOSITE sex? I guess... Being Drunk and all...
14. In what ways do you support L G B or T stereotypes? I love musicals... and I do it with guys?
15. Have you ever been troubled by 'phobes and if so how did you deal with it? Junior School, left the school.
16. What do you look for in a partner? Have to be strong, not fall for the silly games I play. Cultrually enriched, intelligent and well-endowed.
17. What are your views on the political parties, who do you support and why and do gay rights influence your vote? NOT UKIP, EVER! DISGUSTING!! Not conservatives because they have promised and IN/OUT referendum which is bad. Not Labour because, don't be silly. Maybe Liberal if the better their plan for the deficit. I don't vote for homophobes, or people that are pro-gay to the point where they lose-sight of other important issues.
18. Have you ever been on/would you ever go on a gay pride march? What was it like/why (not)? I was going to go to Brighton but couldn't get the time off work. I would love to this year.

And now us being nosey...

1. Who was your first celeb crush of the same sex? David Tennent or David Boreanaz
2. How many sex toys do you own and what? One mini-bullet, not for weird pleasure but to avoid pain when encountering the real thing.
3. How many sexual partners have you had (broken down into both sexes)? Girls: 0 Boys: Fair Share... Lead a bohemian whore lifestyle.
4. ...and when was the last time you, err, "got some" (broken down into both sexes)? Two nights ago... Male. Female, touching, 4 years ago, first and last.
5. Can you recommend a good ol' gay night out in your area? Portsmouth, U.K. Hampshire Boulevard? Grindr?? Hahaha
1. Are you male or female? Male
2. Are you L G B or T? G/B/not sure
3. How old are you? 26
4. When did you first realise you were L G B or T? High school, find guys more attracted than girls.
5. When did you (or when do you plan to) come out? Haven't come out, when the time is right maybe.
6. If your parents know you're gay how did they react? I guess my mom will pray for me and bring me to her prayer friends to free me from the devil temptation. my dad has passed away so...
7. Are you 'attatched'? if so for how long? No string attached.
8. When was your first sexual experience with the SAME sex...? 3rd year college
9. ...and what was it? kissing, touching, masturbating
10. Have you ever had a sexual experience with a member of the OPPOSITE sex...? Nope, should I try?
11. ...and what was it like? hmm..
12. Have you ever had a BAD sexual experience with a member of the SAME sex? Just hired a male escort few days ago coz I really want to know what it feels to have sex. Turns out pretty bad, his dick is to big for my tight ass, he managed to use his finger though and now my butt is in pain..
13. Have you ever had a BAD sexual experience with a member of the OPPOSITE sex? Nope, never..
14. In what ways do you support L G B or T stereotypes? not sure if I have done anything as I'm still discreet anyway..
15. Have you ever been troubled by 'phobes and if so how did you deal with it? never.
16. What do you look for in a partner? Someone who can love me and accept me the way I am, big bonus if he/she is hot and attractive.
17. What are your views on the political parties, who do you support and why and do gay rights influence your vote? Remains neutral, never interested in political issue, but I do believe gay rights should be supported.
18. Have you ever been on/would you ever go on a gay pride march? What was it like/why (not)? Never, I'm discreet.

And now us being nosey...

1. Who was your first celeb crush of the same sex? Jude Law
2. How many sex toys do you own and what? none
3. How many sexual partners have you had (broken down into both sexes)? 2
4. ...and when was the last time you, err, "got some" (broken down into both sexes)? 2 days ago
5. Can you recommend a good ol' gay night out in your area? nah, I live in a country where gay rights is not acknowledged at the moment. Gonna move to UK soon though, let's see where God will lead me.
I am not LGBT but I was talking to someone and apparently they use to see an escort before they get where they are. Anyway, is that the for most people on here
Original post by Silly_Monkey
I am not LGBT but I was talking to someone and apparently they use to see an escort before they get where they are. Anyway, is that the for most people on here


:indiff:

I have no idea what you're on about.
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Any gay medical students here?
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Any gay medical students here?


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Any gay medical students here?


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1. Are you male or female? Male
2. Are you L G B or T? G
3. How old are you? 22
4. When did you first realise you were L G B or T? Middle School. Used to always ask my teacher if I could sit next to a particular boy...when I look back I now realise why, haha.
5. When did you (or when do you plan to) come out? Last year in high school with my then high school boyfriend.
6. If your parents know you're gay how did they react? Never speak about it/brushed under the carpet. They are accepting and are friendly if I introduce them to someone I'm seeing though.
7. Are you 'attatched'? if so for how long? Attached to my best friend. But it will never be more than that... :frown:
8. When was your first sexual experience with the SAME sex...? Last year of high school.
9. ...and what was it? Kissing and oral.
10. Have you ever had a sexual experience with a member of the OPPOSITE sex...? Nope
11. ...and what was it like? -
12. Have you ever had a BAD sexual experience with a member of the SAME sex? In High School when I first tried to have sex, he couldn't seem to get it in so ended up ramming it in really hard which, I must say, f*king CANED. I will never forget...lmao. At least we both laughed about it after I stopped squirming on the bed :L
13. Have you ever had a BAD sexual experience with a member of the OPPOSITE sex? Nope, never..
14. In what ways do you support L G B or T stereotypes? I don't do anything differently? I don't really go to pride marches either.
15. Have you ever been troubled by 'phobes and if so how did you deal with it? The typical straight popular boys in high school asked if I fancied them and tried to make me feel awkward, that's pretty much it.
16. What do you look for in a partner? Someone to be my companion and work out this thing called "life" together.
17. What are your views on the political parties, who do you support and why and do gay rights influence your vote? Conservatives. I don't care if it's an unpopular decision but they have turned our economy round. And I wholeheartedly disagree with people sitting on benefits when they can work.
18. Have you ever been on/would you ever go on a gay pride march? What was it like/why (not)? No, not really my thing. I like all the drinking after the march though, I go to that :smile:

And now us being nosey...

1. Who was your first celeb crush of the same sex? Tom Welling
2. How many sex toys do you own and what? Just a small blue dildo, don't use it for fun or on my own, it's just if I know that I'm about to get laid in the near future then I have to use it discreetly to "open" up a bit first haha. Sorry TMI
3. How many sexual partners have you had (broken down into both sexes)? Under 10
4. ...and when was the last time you, err, "got some" (broken down into both sexes)? A week ago
5. Can you recommend a good ol' gay night out in your area? Leeds Lower Briggate area :smile:
1. Are you male or female? Male
2. Are you L G B or T? B
3. How old are you? 18
4. When did you first realise you were L G B or T? School year 5 (so about 10 I think). I was attracted to girls long before then but only started noticing attraction to guys about then
5. When did you (or when do you plan to) come out? Still firmly in the closet. Might come out when I go to uni in September but have no idea how my current friends would react and I don't know any gay guys (maybe I could meet a few through tsr, let me know for a pm :wink:) so it wouldn't get me any more action :wink: (not that I'm getting any anyway)
6. If your parents know you're gay how did they react? They don't know but I'm certain they'll be completely fine with it.
7. Are you 'attatched'? if so for how long? Don't know what that means... Never heard anyone use that phrase before :s-smilie:
8. When was your first sexual experience with the SAME sex...? Haven't had one
9. ...and what was it? N/A
10. Have you ever had a sexual experience with a member of the OPPOSITE sex...? Nope
11. ...and what was it like? N/A
12. Have you ever had a BAD sexual experience with a member of the SAME sex? N/A
13. Have you ever had a BAD sexual experience with a member of the OPPOSITE sex? N/A
14. In what ways do you support L G B or T stereotypes? Literally none, a few of my friends have told me I'm the straightest guy they know haha, what little they know :tongue: (I think that's what the question is asking anyway)
15. Have you ever been troubled by 'phobes and if so how did you deal with it? Obviously no trouble with them because as far as they know I'm straight. I've had some really good friends who were 'phobes though, I've subtly tried to make them more accepting to varying degrees of success
16. What do you look for in a partner? Nice personality, pretty shy like me :biggrin:
17. What are your views on the political parties, who do you support and why and do gay rights influence your vote? Labour are terrible in every way, Lib Dems would be good but seem to be happy being everyone else's b**** and don't stand up for their own views, so unfortunately it's the conservatives atm for me.
18. Have you ever been on/would you ever go on a gay pride march? What was it like/why (not)? Never been on one, might arouse some suspicions and I'd have no-one to go with :frown:

And now us being nosey...

1. Who was your first celeb crush of the same sex? :colondollar:
2. How many sex toys do you own and what? None, I have a fairly low libido tbf
3. How many sexual partners have you had (broken down into both sexes)? 0
4. ...and when was the last time you, err, "got some" (broken down into both sexes)? Never...
5. Can you recommend a good ol' gay night out in your area? Nope, never been on a gay night out
Original post by Anonymous
1. Are you male or female? Male
2. Are you L G B or T? B
3. How old are you? 18
4. When did you first realise you were L G B or T? School year 5 (so about 10 I think). I was attracted to girls long before then but only started noticing attraction to guys about then
5. When did you (or when do you plan to) come out? Still firmly in the closet. Might come out when I go to uni in September but have no idea how my current friends would react and I don't know any gay guys (maybe I could meet a few through tsr, let me know for a pm :wink:) so it wouldn't get me any more action :wink: (not that I'm getting any anyway)
6. If your parents know you're gay how did they react? They don't know but I'm certain they'll be completely fine with it.
7. Are you 'attatched'? if so for how long? Don't know what that means... Never heard anyone use that phrase before :s-smilie:
8. When was your first sexual experience with the SAME sex...? Haven't had one
9. ...and what was it? N/A
10. Have you ever had a sexual experience with a member of the OPPOSITE sex...? Nope
11. ...and what was it like? N/A
12. Have you ever had a BAD sexual experience with a member of the SAME sex? N/A
13. Have you ever had a BAD sexual experience with a member of the OPPOSITE sex? N/A
14. In what ways do you support L G B or T stereotypes? Literally none, a few of my friends have told me I'm the straightest guy they know haha, what little they know :tongue: (I think that's what the question is asking anyway)
15. Have you ever been troubled by 'phobes and if so how did you deal with it? Obviously no trouble with them because as far as they know I'm straight. I've had some really good friends who were 'phobes though, I've subtly tried to make them more accepting to varying degrees of success
16. What do you look for in a partner? Nice personality, pretty shy like me :biggrin:
17. What are your views on the political parties, who do you support and why and do gay rights influence your vote? Labour are terrible in every way, Lib Dems would be good but seem to be happy being everyone else's b**** and don't stand up for their own views, so unfortunately it's the conservatives atm for me.
18. Have you ever been on/would you ever go on a gay pride march? What was it like/why (not)? Never been on one, might arouse some suspicions and I'd have no-one to go with :frown:

And now us being nosey...

1. Who was your first celeb crush of the same sex? :colondollar:
2. How many sex toys do you own and what? None, I have a fairly low libido tbf
3. How many sexual partners have you had (broken down into both sexes)? 0
4. ...and when was the last time you, err, "got some" (broken down into both sexes)? Never...
5. Can you recommend a good ol' gay night out in your area? Nope, never been on a gay night out


PM me :smile: i am going to uni as well
Original post by Anonymous
PM me :smile: i am going to uni as well


it is me :P
Original post by Anonymous
I've recently come out to a few really close friends, and they've all had the exact reaction I hoped for - complete indifference. They're there for me of course, and if I want to talk about things they will, but they don't treat me any differently and they didn't make a big deal out of it.

I sort of knew this is how they would be, because I've known them for so many years, and one of us has been out for a while anyway. So, for me, coming out to them wasn't really a big deal. It was a drunken confession here or there, and I felt completely safe with them. Coming out to myself was a lot harder.

But, the point of this post is that I'm going to uni in October, and it just feels like such a sucky time to have just begun realising this about myself, and accepting it.

I'm not sure what to do - on one hand, I feel it would be nice to go and just be openly gay from the start, a fresh beginning if you like. But, on the other hand, I'm not sure I'm comfortable with that. Nobody else knows apart from 6 close friends, I can't even begin to comprehend being OK with telling complete strangers. I don't want it to be something that defines me, ever, which is why I was so comfortable with telling the people I have - because I knew it would never be even in the first 50 adjectives they'd chose to describe me. I can't help but think if I go to uni completely out, it will be among the first things people know about me, and I wish it weren't. But then again, at some point down the line, I don't want to have to do the whole 'coming out' thing as if it were big deal, with these new friends I make.

Does anybody have any advice? Like, any at all. I'm at a dead end.


My personal policy, if you could call it that, is just to be myself. If the subject of sexual identity comes up then I'll be honest, but I don't go out of my way to tell people I'm gay. The number of times I've gone out clubbing and bumped into other people I know (mainly work colleagues for some reason) and we've found out about each other's bedroom habits that way :tongue:

But anyway, I've found that not introducing myself as gay can help people who may have preconceived ideas about what gays are like to be able to get to know the real me.

Hope this helps :smile:
1. Are you male or female? Male
2. Are you L G B or T? G/B
3. How old are you? Just turned 19
4. When did you first realise you were L G B or T? I actually done, probably after primary school when i started to get into year 7, and still a bit confused
5. When did you (or when do you plan to) come out? I came out a bit i guess, but not completely, i will see how it goes, but i just want to be myself (I would like to meet a few through tsr, let me know for a pm :wink:)
6. If your parents know you're gay how did they react? Not sure they are perfectly fine with it ..
7. Are you 'attatched'? if so for how long? Always single
8. When was your first sexual experience with the SAME sex...? argh... hard to say..
9. ...and what was it? with a guy...
10. Have you ever had a sexual experience with a member of the OPPOSITE sex...? No.. no... no...
11. ...and what was it like? no..
12. Have you ever had a BAD sexual experience with a member of the SAME sex? define bad?? maybe
13. Have you ever had a BAD sexual experience with a member of the OPPOSITE sex? no..
14. In what ways do you support L G B or T stereotypes? Lthere are stereotypes... unfortunately, i am not the typical one...
15. Have you ever been troubled by 'phobes and if so how did you deal with it? It's their opinions, so i can't really change their opinions. I usually just ignore those homophobes comments
16. What do you look for in a partner? Great personality, good looking, happy and optimistic
17. What are your views on the political parties, who do you support and why and do gay rights influence your vote? no idea... now it is legalised anyway..
18. Have you ever been on/would you ever go on a gay pride march? What was it like/why (not)? Yes the london one, and it was terrible... (

And now us being nosey...

1. Who was your first celeb crush of the same sex? I would say Matt Bomer
2. How many sex toys do you own and what? None
3. How many sexual partners have you had (broken down into both sexes)? wooooooo......
4. ...and when was the last time you, err, "got some" (broken down into both sexes)? got some what?
5. Can you recommend a good ol' gay night out in your area? SOHO
Hey everyone. I've got a real coming out problem. I'm a 19 year old guy and I've still not told anybody I'm gay. Nobody suspects it because I don't act in an obviously gay way, I don't have gay mannerisms nor the typical gay high voice, so i'm apparently straight. I've also had a relationship with a girl in the past for nearly 3 years with many break ups. This relationship ended because although I absolutely loved the girl, i couldn't love her on that sexual level. I stayed with her for companionship. People suspected I was gay when I was a child (I wore high heels and pretended I was cruella devill LOL) but they were reassured when I went out with my girlfriend. I realised I was gay when I seemed to find guys more attractive than girls. I'm not interested in girls at all nor am I fascinated by boobs.

I'm really scared about talking to my dad about this - my mum died years ago and he's a single parent. I have no siblings so he'll never be a grandad, he won't be at my wedding when I kiss my bride. My dad doesn't really like gay people, he makes fun of them all the time (they're easy to make fun of with the way they're portrayed), and I don't know if he'll accept me. It makes me uncomfortable when he talks about me getting a girlfriend, when he taps me saying "that girls looking at you over there". I just give him the excuse that I "don't like humans" and pretend to act antisocial. I feel like I can't be myself around others and I feel socially awkward, like I have to monitor all my actions so people don't suspect I'm gay.

Any of you guys had similar experiences? I would really appreciate some advice, i want to come out because the problem will only get worse when I get to university. I feel awkward when girls look at me as though they're attracted to me because I am an okay looking guy..

Thank you for any comments/support!
Original post by Anonymous
Hey everyone. I've got a real coming out problem. I'm a 19 year old guy and I've still not told anybody I'm gay. Nobody suspects it because I don't act in an obviously gay way, I don't have gay mannerisms nor the typical gay high voice, so i'm apparently straight. I've also had a relationship with a girl in the past for nearly 3 years with many break ups. This relationship ended because although I absolutely loved the girl, i couldn't love her on that sexual level. I stayed with her for companionship. People suspected I was gay when I was a child (I wore high heels and pretended I was cruella devill LOL) but they were reassured when I went out with my girlfriend. I realised I was gay when I seemed to find guys more attractive than girls. I'm not interested in girls at all nor am I fascinated by boobs.

I'm really scared about talking to my dad about this - my mum died years ago and he's a single parent. I have no siblings so he'll never be a grandad, he won't be at my wedding when I kiss my bride. My dad doesn't really like gay people, he makes fun of them all the time (they're easy to make fun of with the way they're portrayed), and I don't know if he'll accept me. It makes me uncomfortable when he talks about me getting a girlfriend, when he taps me saying "that girls looking at you over there". I just give him the excuse that I "don't like humans" and pretend to act antisocial. I feel like I can't be myself around others and I feel socially awkward, like I have to monitor all my actions so people don't suspect I'm gay.

Any of you guys had similar experiences? I would really appreciate some advice, i want to come out because the problem will only get worse when I get to university. I feel awkward when girls look at me as though they're attracted to me because I am an okay looking guy..

Thank you for any comments/support!

Moving to uni is great because you'll be able to meet loads of other LGBT people through LGBT societies/networks, and many will be in a similar situation to you. You might find it easier to tell your dad after you've moved away, so that in the event that he does not react well, you have plenty of people around you to support you.

Ultimately it's down to you as to what time you think is right. All I will say is this: in my experience, people generally react more positively than you think. If you're not sure how someone will react, they will probably react well. My friends always used to make gay jokes and so I put off telling them for a long time, fearful of a negative reaction, but when I did finally tell them, they were absolutely fine.

But whatever happens, remember that there's an enormous LGBT community full of people there to support you.

:smile:

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