First off, I just want to say I appreciate you guys looking at this. If you don't want to read it all, that's fine, but I would really love some helpful advice.
I have never had a girlfriend/been in a relationship, and I've never had sex. Lack of confidence really does have a major affect on me. I am a good looking guy (above average looks wise) and I do get healthy attention from girls. Actually, only today I was waiting at the bus stop after the gym and a bus (not my bus) pulled up at the stop and these two (pretty girls) were smiling at me, which kind of made me feel a little shy, so I tried not to look for too long (not to mention that staring is a little weird). It is annoying because my friends and family (especially family members) always ask whether I have a girlfriend yet, but I always say "no" and they are surprised when I say that, because of my physical looks.
I know this is crazy, but I'm 22 yrs old and it's kind of depressing to be honest. Sometimes it gets me down a lot! I think to myself "why can't I find someone" and I'm not a "one night stand" type of person. I don't really drink, but when in a nightclub you're kind of surrounded by people "getting off" with each other and it's a little much for me personally. I will admit that I do get envious/jealous (whatever you wanna call it) of guys who can "pull" girls in clubs. Don't get me wrong though, I get my share of attention, but I never follow it up. I'm starting to think that a "one night stand" would be a good idea and, that I should just get wasted one night and just "do it!" because I can.
The thing is, I have respect for myself in that way. But I cannot seem to pluck up the courage to meet/talk to girls outside of a club environment, so maybe having a "casual fling" is worth considering. I am not fussed about my virginity, and to be honest I would've lost it ages ago If I could of. It doesn't mean much to me any more. I guess that when I was a teen, I was not physically attractive up until I got rid of my acne and I lost weight at the age of 20 - 21 years old. So most of my teenage life I was lacking confidence in myself, my looks, self esteem etc. Looking like I used to has made me more appreciative of physical appearance, being friendly/nice to people, etc. It's only now that I'm more confident in my appearance, that I've started to come out of my "shell" (so to speak).
I know a lot of guys become arrogant or big headed when they grow up without having any physical issues with themselves (same as women who have always looked good when growing up, I.e. blemish free, good looking etc). Anyway, I guess looking the way I used to has definitely made me more appreciative (I'm starting to repeat myself), so it's good in a way, but my lack of confidence has carried over into my early 20's, so how do I get over this? How do I meet women without worrying about these issues? I try to put on a brave face, but sometimes I see couples, or guys "pulling" girls in clubs and it makes me envious because I realise I haven't got that, I haven't experienced that before.
Anyway, thanks for reading guys and would appreciate some advice, thanks.