Still A Virgin At 25 - Time For An Escort??

Interesting post.

What do you mean by 'a persons metal'?

Right guys I'm a bit embaressed talking about this but I feel I have to because it bothers me an awful lot.

I don't go out an awful lot, infact at all. I suffered from a lot of social problems when I was younger, I was so painfully shy around 16-22 that it hindered my ability to make friends, particularly at university. I never made the effort to try to address it so all I did was become a social recluse.

I recently did badly in my postgraduate exams (telecommunications msc) and attempted suicide, my brother returned from class early to prevent me however. I feel such a massive failure both socially and academically, and for the first time in my life I've decided to seek councilling to solve this, been to a gp and on anti-depressants. I've been requested for long term therapy, because they believe it might take me a long time to sort me out as its gone on for so long.

I feel such a massive failure both socially and academically. I feel tired of being me/failure and thus questioned whether or not I want to live anymore because the pain is becoming too great (hence why I was suicidal at that time).

One of the things that bothers me is that I've never had a girlfriend (not suprising), and that I'm still a virgin. Now this isn't because of the way I look, heck I could look like brad pitt/tom cruise and would still be a virgin because I'm such a social recluse and chose to be this way.

I'm quite a fit guy, go to the gym regularly, healthy, no appearance problems, but I don't make friends easily.

I recognise that while I could get better with therapy/councilling, I realise that being a virgin over the age of 25 is big drawback in society and is off putting to a lot of women when dating. I don't want to be going into my 30s being a virgin as it would be impossible to get a girlfriend. So I need to do something about it.

I'm not going to become a social king overnight so in the meantime I've considered potentially going down the very sad sad desperate route of doing it with an escort. But I feel I have no choice because of my age. I need the experiance and you're first time is never that great so the escort wont care and will probably teach me.

Its sound pathetic and desperate, but that's the way my life is at moment. Very down about it. Is this the best way at my age to address my "v-card" issue?? Or should I just wait and see if the therapy helps me first and do it in time when I'm ready??

I feel massively under pressure tbh.

Rubbish. Slappers might not like it but people interested in the long term wont mind. Some will see an opportunity to mold you to what they like. Some will like the idea of being your only love. Is romance totally alien to people in this thread?

You know a persons ability to bounce back from adversity is a pretty good criteria by which to judge a persons metal. Far more so than how a person reacts to things going right all the time and far far more than how often people get their ends away.

What do you mean by "slappers"?

How are you going to get anyone interested in your for the long term if they aren't even interested in you for the short term? I think you have a strange conception of how real life relationships work.

Simple human psychology is that people are attracted to attractive traits. Sexual ineptness is not usually one of them. Sexual relations being the basis of why and how we choose our partners.

Most girls will determine your value on how successful you are with relationships, having the experience of a virgin is not going to be much help.

Simple human psychology is that people are attracted to attractive traits. Sexual ineptness is not usually one of them. Sexual relations being the basis of why and how we choose our partners.

Right guys I'm a bit embaressed talking about this but I feel I have to because it bothers me an awful lot.

I don't go out an awful lot, infact at all. I suffered from a lot of social problems when I was younger, I was so painfully shy around 16-22 that it hindered my ability to make friends, particularly at university. I never made the effort to try to address it so all I did was become a social recluse.

I recently did badly in my postgraduate exams (telecommunications msc) and attempted suicide, my brother returned from class early to prevent me however. I feel such a massive failure both socially and academically, and for the first time in my life I've decided to seek councilling to solve this, been to a gp and on anti-depressants. I've been requested for long term therapy, because they believe it might take me a long time to sort me out as its gone on for so long.

I feel such a massive failure both socially and academically. I feel tired of being me/failure and thus questioned whether or not I want to live anymore because the pain is becoming too great (hence why I was suicidal at that time).

One of the things that bothers me is that I've never had a girlfriend (not suprising), and that I'm still a virgin. Now this isn't because of the way I look, heck I could look like brad pitt/tom cruise and would still be a virgin because I'm such a social recluse and chose to be this way.

I'm quite a fit guy, go to the gym regularly, healthy, no appearance problems, but I don't make friends easily.

I recognise that while I could get better with therapy/councilling, I realise that being a virgin over the age of 25 is big drawback in society and is off putting to a lot of women when dating. I don't want to be going into my 30s being a virgin as it would be impossible to get a girlfriend. So I need to do something about it.

I'm not going to become a social king overnight so in the meantime I've considered potentially going down the very sad sad desperate route of doing it with an escort. But I feel I have no choice because of my age. I need the experiance and you're first time is never that great so the escort wont care and will probably teach me.

Its sound pathetic and desperate, but that's the way my life is at moment. Very down about it. Is this the best way at my age to address my "v-card" issue?? Or should I just wait and see if the therapy helps me first and do it in time when I'm ready??

I feel massively under pressure tbh.

If I'm being honest with you guys part of the reason why I was originally suicidal (I better be careful about this because I don't want my post blocked) was because I felt I had no purpose to live anymore.

I thought to myself even as young as 18 that I had no purpose to live as I will never get a girlfriend, and will never have friends, so keeping me alive in this unhappy state would be selfish. I planned initially to get a 1st class honours and go out with a bang (and then kill myself) and die with some sort of pride.

I'm 25 and done my degree, but I only got a 2.2 (well you would do if you're life prospects/outlook in life were as dim as mine, so my depression was the reason for my lack of motivation), I due to recieve a telecommunications masters (merit) however.

You see the thing is I've done my degree now so have nothing to live for. I've been considering putting myself out of my misery in say 6-12 months time if things do not improve. I will never have a girlfriend, as I am too old now, and will never have any friends so as I say have nothing to live for and have a no quality of life.

I'm not initially suicidal (so please do not take this a suicidal post) but have prospects of planning it at some point in my life, for well 5-6 years now as I have served my purpose.

Think about like a tennis player (watching wimbledon right now) I would have my tennis career, win as many majors as possible or whatever, and then kill myself afterwards at 33 something, as I have nothing to live for/served my purpose. I suck at socialising, and will never have a girlfriend and living becomes too painful. I'm just not very good at this side of life and have an obligation not to live it. But at least I would go out with a bang winning some majors or something say.

This has been the crux of my thinking for some years now, get the degree and then go. But now obviously I'm having councilling etc. Whether that will work is another thing. I have to be able to serve a purpose in order to want to live.

I lost my virginity to an escort at 17. I was drunk out of my mind so I dont really remember the experience clearly.

Well for starters, the escort told me that my 10 minutes are up and I need to quickly take my shot and gtfo. That wasn't nice to hear. And also after 3 minutes into it she asked me if I was 18, I looked 12 so I don't really blame her for asking that. These are the thoughts I'm gona carry for the rest of my life so thats kinda meh.

After doing it, I was pretty happy about my performance of lasting more than 10 minutes considering it was my first time, I thought if I had more time I could go on for another 10-20 minutes, I felt like Johnny Sins. So after a couple of weeks I thought I'd take another shot, this time sober and I last for less that 2 minutes. So alcohol was the cause of my impaired functioning. So I suggest do it while drunk.

I say go for it. The good thing is, you would bang a really hot girl and form no attachment to her. Considering your situation you probably will get strong feelings for the girl/guy that you do with for the first time. That may not be a good thing. Escorts aren't that bad, go for it. The only downside is that you might get herpes or something and that'll **** up your life, but don't worry about that.

You're too old to have a girlfriend at 25?
You definitely have a distorted view of life.

If I'm being honest with you guys part of the reason why I was originally suicidal (I better be careful about this because I don't want my post blocked) was because I felt I had no purpose to live anymore.

I thought to myself even as young as 18 that I had no purpose to live as I will never get a girlfriend, and will never have friends, so keeping me alive in this unhappy state would be selfish. I planned initially to get a 1st class honours and go out with a bang (and then kill myself) and die with some sort of pride.

I'm 25 and done my degree, but I only got a 2.2 (well you would do if you're life prospects/outlook in life were as dim as mine, so my depression was the reason for my lack of motivation), I due to recieve a telecommunications masters (merit) however.

You see the thing is I've done my degree now so have nothing to live for. I've been considering putting myself out of my misery in say 6-12 months time if things do not improve. I will never have a girlfriend, as I am too old now, and will never have any friends so as I say have nothing to live for and have a no quality of life.

I'm not initially suicidal (so please do not take this a suicidal post) but have prospects of planning it at some point in my life, for well 5-6 years now as I have served my purpose.

Think about like a tennis player (watching wimbledon right now) I would have my tennis career, win as many majors as possible or whatever, and then kill myself afterwards at 33 something, as I have nothing to live for/served my purpose. I suck at socialising, and will never have a girlfriend and living becomes too painful. I'm just not very good at this side of life and have an obligation not to live it. But at least I would go out with a bang winning some majors or something say.

This has been the crux of my thinking for some years now, get the degree and then go. But now obviously I'm having councilling etc. Whether that will work is another thing. I have to be able to serve a purpose in order to want to live.

What's actually stopping you from improving?

save up your viriginity for the special one don't force it

Because I'm seemingly born with a personality that repels people away from me. I can't make friends, the world doesn't want to know me, I'm going to die like this and it depresses me like crazy.