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Original post by Sabertooth
Have you thought about writing down what you want to say so you don't forget anything/clam up and refuse to speak? I found that really helped me first time I went.


Yeah, I'm trying to work out exactly what it is I want to say. I'm awful at talking about my feelings, I can't describe them at all and whenever I try to talk about how I feel (not just related to this, but anything) I clam up and can't find the words and get embarrassed. Just working out how to explain it is going to take some time so writing it down at least means I'll have it done beforehand.
Original post by Anonymous
Yeah, I'm trying to work out exactly what it is I want to say. I'm awful at talking about my feelings, I can't describe them at all and whenever I try to talk about how I feel (not just related to this, but anything) I clam up and can't find the words and get embarrassed. Just working out how to explain it is going to take some time so writing it down at least means I'll have it done beforehand.


If you do clam up, your GP will probably prompt you with questions anyway, so don't worry too much about that aspect of it :smile: I know how scary it is (I didn't sleep/eat properly for about a week before I went due to stress), but you'll be glad you went. Good luck :heart:
Original post by Anonymous
Yeah, I'm trying to work out exactly what it is I want to say. I'm awful at talking about my feelings, I can't describe them at all and whenever I try to talk about how I feel (not just related to this, but anything) I clam up and can't find the words and get embarrassed. Just working out how to explain it is going to take some time so writing it down at least means I'll have it done beforehand.


I remember doing this a few months back, seems so long ago...

I just ended up mumbling inaudibly for 30 seconds then blurting "I think I might be depressed", which wasn't what I had prepared :tongue: But then I was just asked fairly predictable questions and it got a lot easier. I was like you (from what you've described) when it came to talking about my feelings but now I actually look forward to appointments!

This is the scariest bit but you'll get through it fine :smile: Good luck!
Reply 1003
I really seem to have had enough now.
Don't know where else to go with this at this time.
First exam is tomorrow, for next three weeks, and there is a guy down the halls smoking alot of weed and smells all down the corridor, really feel ill because of it. Had a word with him before and told him to go outside but he has not even moved. Honestly don't know what to do any suggestions as I fear this will have a massively detrimental effect on the exam results!
Sister leaves on Friday, should be more happy for her but I'm sad she's going. :frown:
Reply 1006
Original post by ViceVersa
Sister leaves on Friday, should be more happy for her but I'm sad she's going. :frown:


:hugs:
I really do make it difficult for myself. I know what triggers me feeling worse but instead of avoiding it, which is difficult but possible, I really do seem to seek it out.

And another worry about going to see the GP

Spoiler

I'm new to this forum, and I'm coming here for help. In May of 2011 my Mum's kidneys started failing, and she lives pretty much alone, so the entire time I've been here she's been alone doing dialysis 4 times a day. I stretched my ears like two years ago and my left over scar has been making me really socially anxious the entire time I've been here. I'm struggling to move past someone I loved irretrievably who didn't love me back at all and I'm also overweight. All these issues have just built up and up to the point where I've attended 10 lectures all year from September to now and I haven't handed in a single piece of coursework. I sat one exam in January but wrote 5 lines per answer. It no longer read my University emails out of fear and I sleep 12-15 hours day or not at all (hence the posting time). When I do awake I only eat Rice and junk, which doesn't help my weight issue as I've gained weight a fair bit. Surprisingly I'm still technically at the university and haven't been kicked off yet. When I visit home my Mum she seems very worried and so I lie to her that I'm having a great time here and make up all kinds of **** stories. I also fell out with pretty much all of my friends because long before I moved away some of these issues made me isolate myself and as a result my friends at home no longer bother with me. My roommates feel distanced from me and I still don't feel like I have any new friends here at all. I've been out with them twice and that's it. I have my next exam at 9am and its 3am now. I've reached my wits end and I think tomorrow would now be more productive to me if I went to the University's Councillor and got help, I can't face the exam, I wont be able to sit down for 3 hours without getting down and writing nothing, which would really finish me off. I know this place and these people are right for me, I've just got too much crap going on outside it to even function. I feel like I'm going nowhere slowly and worse still, that nobody cares.

I tried to cover that in as much detail as possible, but I'll answer any questions. Any advice might literally save my life, thank you all for reading.
wow, just posted a huge story asking for help here and it disappeared
Original post by OwenJenkins
wow, just posted a huge story asking for help here and it disappeared


I imagine it has gone into the moderation queue, as you are a new member if you used certain words, or a link in your post, it needs to be approved by a mod first. You should get notified if/when it is approved.
Original post by rmhumphries
I imagine it has gone into the moderation queue, as you are a new member if you used certain words, or a link in your post, it needs to be approved by a mod first. You should get notified if/when it is approved.


Okay good, I posted it anonymously but now I don't really care, I just want help.
Reply 1012
Original post by Anonymous
Got my "first point of contact" clinic with CAMHS tomorrow. What sort of things do you usually talk about? They gave me a questionnaire to fill out, will it mainly be based on that?

I've been on 20mg citalopram for almost a month now and I can't say it's working. Making a doctor's appointment for Wednesday, hopefully he'll be able to tell me why :erm:


I haven't been with CAMHS so I can't tell you exactly, but having been through a number of services the assessments seem to follow the same format. Firstly they often talk about the issues that brought you there e.g. referred by teacher for self harming and ask you how these current issues affect your life and more details about the symptoms dependent on why you are there. Then they often ask more broad questions to cover other things such as asking you if you hear voices, if you're depressed, suicidal, do you get anxious, have you been abused, how our your relationships with parents/friends etc. etc. Then if they've given you a questionnaire they'll probably go over your answers and ask you to explain them in more depth.

Some questions you may get asked inc. how do you think they can help? If you're suicidal do you pose a threat to yourself right now? Are you willing to engage with the service?

Best of luck, it will be fine :smile: All services on first point of contact understand it can be nerve wracking, and CAMHS I bet especially. They'll make you feel as comfortable as possible and if they probe you on anything you don't feel comfortable to answer just say and they'll move on.

In regards to the medication, as Idle said it can take up to 6 weeks. Also, it may be at a too low a dose, in which case the GP will increase it, or simply it's not the right one for you and the GP may change it to another type.
Original post by ViceVersa
Sister leaves on Friday, should be more happy for her but I'm sad she's going. :frown:


:hugs: Where's she off too? And do you think you'll be alright on your own? :console:

Do you mind sending me that PM about how you think I've been acting weird today? GP appointment's not til tomorrow, but I keep getting kind of worked up about how everyone seems to be worried about me even when I haven't said anything to them, and I still don't seem to have any insight into what might be wrong with me. So I'd really appreciate anything you could say to me. Also, do you know if laut would still rather not speak to me?




Everyone: sorry if I've been making you worry about me, it's all been unintentional. Been trying not to post too much because of this, but that's pretty hard since you guys are my friends and I want to talk to you. I've got a friend staying with me now who's going to keep an eye on me, and a doctor's appointment on Tuesday, so I am getting help from people. Still not got a clue what's wrong with me, so I'm afraid you guys don't know any less than me. :tongue:

There are a lot of people/posts I've been wanting to reply to (got them all stacked up as usual), but I haven't wanted to because I know I've been acting strange and upsetting people so I don't want to do that more, especially with people I know are vulnerable like me. Really do want to talk to you guys and answer your posts, but I don't know how long til I should really start doing that again, and I think I should especially stay away from posts where you're talking about serious issues.

It's absolutely killing me to write this, and I don't know if I'm just going to end up upsetting people again (started off just wanting to reassure you about me :s-smilie:), so please just ignore me if I do.
Reply 1014
Exam today :redface: :eek: . It's at 1:30pm, and I'm still in bed and craving to have a girlfriend :colondollar: . I don't know what is wrong with me :cry2:
Reply 1015
I'm still unsure about posting in here as I have a PD dx as well but I know this is depression related so I hope its ok.

I am worried that I am slipping back into depression again, have been feeling ok since starting on the prozac, the odd wobble but nothing serious, however with my birthday last week resulting in me hibernating and stopping at the services on the M25 to cry because someone broke the back wiper on my car the night before. Do you think it would be wrong to ask my GP for some counseling so that I can try to nip this in the bud before it gets worse or would I just be being selfish and taking up the place of someone who needs it more?
Original post by avhhs
I know, but now I've had a break for over an hour and still can't think straight :sad:

At least you're feeling alright :wink: :hugs: . Hopefully you'll catch up tomorrow :biggrin:

All I want to do is just to have some sort of fun. I wish I had friends. I wish I went to parties. I always seem to be the odd one out that has had a very sheltered life. I just want to somehow make up for that. I know I should be revising for exams and not worrying about other stuff, but what can I do if I never get the chance to socialise? I don't even have proper friends :sad: :cry2:

Sorry for going on a rant :rant: :colondollar:


Ah well maybe it was getting a bit late to revise. :hugs:

Yeah, have been a bit up and down lately. Hopefully, need to summon some will power!

You will get the chance to socialise, there will be plenty of time for that later when you meet the right people. :hugs:

Good luck with your exam!
Original post by Violet_apple

I saw my GP for an emergency appt. yesterday. She is really nice, but I don't think she knows what to do. She is writing me a 2 medical notes for exams and universities and stuff. I am seeing her in two weeks for a double appt. 2weeks seems like such a long time, not sure how to fill it now I'm not studying. She is going to look into meds for me that isn't Prozac because I did not get along well with it. She said it would be good just to come along every few weeks and talk. So I'm going to do that. :loveduck:


Glad she's been helpful :smile: As far as the whole filling time thing goes, have you thought about things like taking up running/walking or cooking as they're quite time consuming without taking too much concentration.

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Have this really horrible empty feeling, I know that I should be happy and excited about things but I just don't feel anything. I know that 2 years ago I'd have been so excited and I wish I could feel that now, but right now I'm just waiting for me to screw it up again.
Feeling frustrated with everything and everyone. Feel like I don´t belon or fit in where I am.
Original post by avhhs
Exam today :redface: :eek: . It's at 1:30pm, and I'm still in bed and craving to have a girlfriend :colondollar: . I don't know what is wrong with me :cry2:


good luck with your exam :smile: