im seriously considering turning into a maneater because im sick of men

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The truth is, what's putting the decent guys off you is your rubbish attitude. Listen up, when you brand every guy under one header ('they only want sex' or 'they just use me' or 'they all lie') - even if you think it's only going on inside the safety of your own mind - they can subliminally pick up on your man-hate. Men are just people. They're in pursuit of happiness just like you are.

Stop blaming them for your bad decision-making and step up and take responsibility for your own actions. Don't be the doormat. Don't persecute men for wanting sex - that's totally normal and above board! And most of all, stop playing the victim and put the violin away right now. You claim your own value when it comes to men and all things relationship. If you don't respect yourself, why should he? Don't faff about being a complete wuss for every guy who comes by, and then blame him for treating you as such.

If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always got. You want things to change? YOU have to change, and be honest about why you always cast yourself as the victim. Victims aren't sexy. Women who know themselves and know their worth are.

So my ex boyfriend turned out to be a complete jerk- a liar, a cheat and just completely evil. Completely.

Then a new guy I met was all ''i really like you i just dont want a relationship''. After months of messing me around ''i wanna be with you'' ''i dont wanna be with you'' and me being the doormat he was walking all over, we finally agreed on being just friends. Doesnt stop him dating and then rubbing everything in my face, how hes potentially got this new girlfriend and how he really likes her. Lovely.

Then I meet another guy and we agreed to be friends with benefits. Im not in any way emotionally attached to him, except now he doesnt even bother talking to me. Well, whatever.

Then i went on a date with another guy- turns out he just wanted a **** buddy. Bye bye.

Then another guy. He always makes me do jobs for him, even when i was really ill he was like ''do this do that''. I spent hours doing something for him then he didnt even say thank you. He just talks to me when he wants something.

Then finally, I went on a date with an actual nice guy! He wasnt just after sex, he was a gentleman and a kind guy! But guess what? He didnt like me, didnt get back to me, so i just deleted his number.

All this in just a few months, so now im thinking all guys are scum. I know i shouldnt be thinking like this, but it really does seem like all guys are just after sex. Im the sort of girl that is 'relationship material'- im kind, caring, really helpful, loyal and totally committed. Im still a virgin, and it seems all the guys im meeting just want to get straight in my pants!

So ive just been thinking, why should i care about guys? Why dont i just play them all off each other like they do to me? Why dont i just mess everyone around and hurt everyone and use guys for my own pleasure when i want something?

More recently, im actually finding it difficult to have feelings for any guy. Even the guy that i was crazy about has been texting me about this 'new girl' even after everything he told me about liking me and not wanting a girlfriend, and i KNOW hes saying it to hurt me- but im not phased. Its like my heart has gone numb to everything.

Is this normal?

Think you're going for the wrong guys. Not all guys are a holes

So ive just been thinking, why should i care about guys? Why dont i just play them all off each other like they do to me? Why dont i just mess everyone around and hurt everyone and use guys for my own pleasure when i want something?

There are a lot of *******s out there. There is no going around it. I certainly believe in entering a relationship with open eyes and not allow yourself to be walked over. If you make the same mistakes at 25 as you did at 18, something is obviously wrong.. But I'm also fond of facing the truth and not put all the negative stuff on the girl, always.. For some people, the girl is always to blame. "You choose the wrong men"/"you're too naive" etc. In threads like these women are women worst, and they will be full of enraged replies saying that this is all your fault for letting yourself be walked over. Sure you need to change your dating techniques, but that is only because you cannot change the men out there. If a man pretends to have feelings/want something serious while knowingly stringing you along, he is to blame. One might call you naive/choosing the wrong guys, but that does not outweigh his bull****. You might have bee partly foolish in choices and partly unlucky, of not all unlucky, I don't know you well enough to say that.

It's a vicious cycle. *******s make you cynical, that is natural enough. Cynicism closes you to love (I have reached a cynical stage myself of which I slightly cringe by using the word 'love' on an online forum). You either close yourself to the possibility of a real relationship, or you switch between hard cynicism and vulnerability (because everyone's a little vulnerable) and you end up choosing guys that are hot & cold - who sometimes give you what you want, and sometimes withdraw it, helping you confirm your negative theories about men. Meaning the players.
Relationship-oriented guys like girls who are sweet, positive, give off a good vibe, have a sense of humour, a mind of her own but not stubborn, intelligent but not a show-off, loves sex but is no slut.
It's not easy, but you can make certain choices. I don't know how attractive you are, but by optimizing your attractiveness you can control how many men will be interested. The filtering process is the most important - filtering out the men who just want to **** you from those who want to date you. Go for guys who are not soo young they just want fun, but not so old that they have chosen single life permanently. 25 is a good age. Don't get too drunk, don't waste time talking to guys whom are too drunk. Don't go to clubs which are famous for their hookup-scenes, go to bars which are lively, but where you're able to talk. Dress feminine - show your figure, but not too much pure flesh. Don't reply to texts that arrive after midnight. Don't agree to 'meet up' at a bar. Have him schedule a date. If he only wants to meet to dance and drink, move on. Don't **** on the first date. Take care of your reputation.
I realize this is probably what your mummy told you when you were 12, which is somewhat depressing, but it's also true. Trust me.

This. I've never had a bad time with men because I am selective and don't go for the arrogant ones I could tell would treat me like crap. Look in the friend zone I guess haha

So my ex boyfriend turned out to be a complete jerk- a liar, a cheat and just completely evil. Completely.

Then a new guy I met was all ''i really like you i just dont want a relationship''. After months of messing me around ''i wanna be with you'' ''i dont wanna be with you'' and me being the doormat he was walking all over, we finally agreed on being just friends. Doesnt stop him dating and then rubbing everything in my face, how hes potentially got this new girlfriend and how he really likes her. Lovely.

Then I meet another guy and we agreed to be friends with benefits. Im not in any way emotionally attached to him, except now he doesnt even bother talking to me. Well, whatever.

Then i went on a date with another guy- turns out he just wanted a **** buddy. Bye bye.

Then another guy. He always makes me do jobs for him, even when i was really ill he was like ''do this do that''. I spent hours doing something for him then he didnt even say thank you. He just talks to me when he wants something.

Then finally, I went on a date with an actual nice guy! He wasnt just after sex, he was a gentleman and a kind guy! But guess what? He didnt like me, didnt get back to me, so i just deleted his number.

All this in just a few months, so now im thinking all guys are scum. I know i shouldnt be thinking like this, but it really does seem like all guys are just after sex. Im the sort of girl that is 'relationship material'- im kind, caring, really helpful, loyal and totally committed. Im still a virgin, and it seems all the guys im meeting just want to get straight in my pants!

So ive just been thinking, why should i care about guys? Why dont i just play them all off each other like they do to me? Why dont i just mess everyone around and hurt everyone and use guys for my own pleasure when i want something?

More recently, im actually finding it difficult to have feelings for any guy. Even the guy that i was crazy about has been texting me about this 'new girl' even after everything he told me about liking me and not wanting a girlfriend, and i KNOW hes saying it to hurt me- but im not phased. Its like my heart has gone numb to everything.

Is this normal?

So my ex boyfriend turned out to be a complete jerk- a liar, a cheat and just completely evil. Completely.

Then a new guy I met was all ''i really like you i just dont want a relationship''. After months of messing me around ''i wanna be with you'' ''i dont wanna be with you'' and me being the doormat he was walking all over, we finally agreed on being just friends. Doesnt stop him dating and then rubbing everything in my face, how hes potentially got this new girlfriend and how he really likes her. Lovely.

Then I meet another guy and we agreed to be friends with benefits. Im not in any way emotionally attached to him, except now he doesnt even bother talking to me. Well, whatever.

Then i went on a date with another guy- turns out he just wanted a **** buddy. Bye bye.

Then another guy. He always makes me do jobs for him, even when i was really ill he was like ''do this do that''. I spent hours doing something for him then he didnt even say thank you. He just talks to me when he wants something.

Then finally, I went on a date with an actual nice guy! He wasnt just after sex, he was a gentleman and a kind guy! But guess what? He didnt like me, didnt get back to me, so i just deleted his number.

All this in just a few months, so now im thinking all guys are scum. I know i shouldnt be thinking like this, but it really does seem like all guys are just after sex. Im the sort of girl that is 'relationship material'- im kind, caring, really helpful, loyal and totally committed. Im still a virgin, and it seems all the guys im meeting just want to get straight in my pants!

So ive just been thinking, why should i care about guys? Why dont i just play them all off each other like they do to me? Why dont i just mess everyone around and hurt everyone and use guys for my own pleasure when i want something?

More recently, im actually finding it difficult to have feelings for any guy. Even the guy that i was crazy about has been texting me about this 'new girl' even after everything he told me about liking me and not wanting a girlfriend, and i KNOW hes saying it to hurt me- but im not phased. Its like my heart has gone numb to everything.

Is this normal?

So my ex boyfriend turned out to be a complete jerk- a liar, a cheat and just completely evil. Completely.

Poor you! I had my fair share of lame exes. At least you aren't with him any more.

Then a new guy I met was all ''i really like you i just dont want a relationship''. After months of messing me around ''i wanna be with you'' ''i dont wanna be with you'' and me being the doormat he was walking all over, we finally agreed on being just friends. Doesnt stop him dating and then rubbing everything in my face, how hes potentially got this new girlfriend and how he really likes her. Lovely.

You need to not be a doormat. If a guy says he only wants sex and is messing you around, walk away if that isn't what you want. It is self respect. Do not stand for any s***. Him rubbing his new girlfriend in your face shows how much of a dick he is. That is just mean of him.

Then I meet another guy and we agreed to be friends with benefits. Im not in any way emotionally attached to him, except now he doesnt even bother talking to me. Well, whatever.

If he doesn't talk to you after having sex with you, he is not worth your time at all.

Then i went on a date with another guy- turns out he just wanted a **** buddy. Bye bye.

There is nothing wrong with that as he was honest with what he wanted. You just didn't want that.

Then another guy. He always makes me do jobs for him, even when i was really ill he was like ''do this do that''. I spent hours doing something for him then he didnt even say thank you. He just talks to me when he wants something.

This is a case of you being a doormat again. He is not a friend of yours and do not contact him. He doesn't respect you at all.

Then finally, I went on a date with an actual nice guy! He wasnt just after sex, he was a gentleman and a kind guy! But guess what? He didnt like me, didnt get back to me, so i just deleted his number.

If he wasn't attracted to you, a relationship won't work out in the long run. Do you want for guys to contact you back before you do? If you do, it may make you look uninterested. There are still loads of guys like that out there.


All this in just a few months, so now im thinking all guys are scum. I know i shouldnt be thinking like this, but it really does seem like all guys are just after sex. Im the sort of girl that is 'relationship material'- im kind, caring, really helpful, loyal and totally committed. Im still a virgin, and it seems all the guys im meeting just want to get straight in my pants.

That is unfair. You cannot write off half the population because they are male and you had bad experiences. Not all guys are after sex. You seem to have low self respect for yourself which will attract idiots who will try to take advantage of you. You need to work on respecting your self so you can walk away from douche bags before they hurt your feelings. You will find a great guy who will make your first time special.

So ive just been thinking, why should i care about guys? Why dont i just play them all off each other like they do to me? Why dont i just mess everyone around and hurt everyone and use guys for my own pleasure when i want something?

That makes you as bad as all those douche bags that hurt you. You could end up hurting the feelings of great guys who will be driven away from you. You will end up alone as you will get a bad reputation.

More recently, im actually finding it difficult to have feelings for any guy. Even the guy that i was crazy about has been texting me about this 'new girl' even after everything he told me about liking me and not wanting a girlfriend, and i KNOW hes saying it to hurt me- but im not pleased. Its like my heart has gone numb to everything.

Is this normal?

That guys sounds like he didn't like you that much. If he did, he would be with you. It sounds like he is trying to let you down gently to not hurt your feelings.

Lol at u, this is the problem with the 21st century. Everybody demands instant gratification. We want everything and we want it now. Instant everything. Instant gains, instant messages, email, fax, internet. Instant food, the faster the better. Instant education, job, wealth. Instant medical service, diagnosis, and an instant cure. Instant family. Instant travel. Instant information. Instant banking. Right or wrong, good or bad, we want it now. Do you think caveman had access to steroids? No they didnt, they had to hunt for their food. Nobody lights a fire these days. People don't even light ovens anymore. It takes just too long to heat up a meal. It takes just too much patience. I'm hungry now, not 40 minutes from now. That's why God gave us microwave ovens. Just pop the food in and whrrr –BEEP- out it comes, nicely warmed for immediate consumption. That's not how I view happiness. Patience is a virtue of the great and few possess it. All good things comes to those who wait when it comes down to exercising patience.

There are a lot of *******s out there. There is no going around it. I certainly believe in entering a relationship with open eyes and not allow yourself to be walked over. If you make the same mistakes at 25 as you did at 18, something is obviously wrong.. But I'm also fond of facing the truth and not put all the negative stuff on the girl, always.. For some people, the girl is always to blame. "You choose the wrong men"/"you're too naive" etc. In threads like these women are women worst, and they will be full of enraged replies saying that this is all your fault for letting yourself be walked over. Sure you need to change your dating techniques, but that is only because you cannot change the men out there. If a man pretends to have feelings/want something serious while knowingly stringing you along, he is to blame. One might call you naive/choosing the wrong guys, but that does not outweigh his bull****. You might have bee partly foolish in choices and partly unlucky, of not all unlucky, I don't know you well enough to say that.

It's a vicious cycle. *******s make you cynical, that is natural enough. Cynicism closes you to love (I have reached a cynical stage myself of which I slightly cringe by using the word 'love' on an online forum). You either close yourself to the possibility of a real relationship, or you switch between hard cynicism and vulnerability (because everyone's a little vulnerable) and you end up choosing guys that are hot & cold - who sometimes give you what you want, and sometimes withdraw it, helping you confirm your negative theories about men. Meaning the players.
Relationship-oriented guys like girls who are sweet, positive, give off a good vibe, have a sense of humour, a mind of her own but not stubborn, intelligent but not a show-off, loves sex but is no slut.
It's not easy, but you can make certain choices. I don't know how attractive you are, but by optimizing your attractiveness you can control how many men will be interested. The filtering process is the most important - filtering out the men who just want to **** you from those who want to date you. Go for guys who are not soo young they just want fun, but not so old that they have chosen single life permanently. 25 is a good age. Don't get too drunk, don't waste time talking to guys whom are too drunk. Don't go to clubs which are famous for their hookup-scenes, go to bars which are lively, but where you're able to talk. Dress feminine - show your figure, but not too much pure flesh. Don't reply to texts that arrive after midnight. Don't agree to 'meet up' at a bar. Have him schedule a date. If he only wants to meet to dance and drink, move on. Don't **** on the first date. Take care of your reputation.
I realize this is probably what your mummy told you when you were 12, which is somewhat depressing, but it's also true. Trust me.

For some people, the girl is always to blame. "You choose the wrong men"/"you're too naive" etc. In threads like these women are women worst, and they will be full of enraged replies saying that this is all your fault for letting yourself be walked over. Sure you need to change your dating techniques, but that is only because you cannot change the men out there. If a man pretends to have feelings/want something serious while knowingly stringing you along, he is to blame. One might call you naive/choosing the wrong guys, but that does not outweigh his bull****. You might have bee partly foolish in choices and partly unlucky, of not all unlucky, I don't know you well enough to say that.

Its called luck. Even people you are friends with can turn into dicks in a relationship.

Well done to you on being lucky. Im sure you will have a bad experience soon enough.