I've got another thing to ask...maybe this seems minor.
But...my mum has been discussing marriage and weddings recently and she was saying something about if we were engaged, we would have to go and do a traditional wedding in Nigeria, otherwise the marriage in invalid, because we are Africans and we have to get married in Nigeria. She said that we had to because my brother was saying that he doesn't want to get married in Nigeria. For myself, if I get engaged, I would like to do a traditional ceremony in Nigeria (tbh I wouldn't mind), then have my white wedding here. When I watched Kate and Wills wedding last year, I thought "I'd love a dress like that!" And like most girls growing up, I'd often dream of how my wedding would be.
I think she might have been saying that because of culture. Or because she would rather we married in Nigeria. Or because family members would have to approve of the marriage first. Or because there are some misconceptions about marrying abroad - some people worry about marrying abroad in case it is invalid, at least that's what I heard. But I thought if you got married anywhere in any country, under any religious buildings or in a registrar, it wouldn't matter because it would be valid. I don't get what my mum is saying. I wouldn't mind doing the traditional ceremony or incorporating the traditional ceremony into my wedding just to have some link with my roots at least, but there is no way my mum is going to dictate what my wedding/marriage/relationships are gonna be like, and she is certainly not going to ruin my plans of a white wedding!
Can anyone shed any light on this?