[hakunamatata]

just under two weeks to go and i'm off to uni and i am SCARED as about the social side. i'm quiet, rather shy, introverted.. think too much, etc, you get the drift.. so freshers week isn't the kind of thing a person like me looks forward to

helppp meeeeee, tell me it will be ok
pat me on the head and tell me eeeeverything is going to be just fine and that i won't be the weird person standing alone at a party fidgeting with my phone to look less pathetic?
please?

[awwsugar]

You're me, basically!

Last year I avoided Freshers Week altogether because I'm so shy - I didn't make any friends.

My advice is to just do it because I regret not going to anything now. I know it's easier said than done, but it's much easier to get involved than to spend every minute alone in your room, I can tell you!

[hakunamatata]

thanks awwsugar for your wisdom
is it really like that then? either get yourself into freshers week or have no friends?


it's a hard life being shy

[neon]

aww sugar

[awwsugar]

Originally Posted by hakunamatata

thanks awwsugar for your wisdom
is it really like that then? either get yourself into freshers week or have no friends?


it's a hard life being shy

Lol sorry I really wasn't trying to scare you! It's not the same for everyone. Even thought I missed Freshers Week there was plenty of opportunities for me to make friends - societies, accepting invites etc and I didn't because of my confidence.

You might become great friends with your flatmates and that'll set you up for the year because it's so much easier if there's even one person you can hang out with.

I know how difficult is, but you'll be fine. Once you start, if you need advice, feel free to PM

Yeah it is

[hakunamatata]

thank youuu

[Robob]

Man up.

[ieuano]

two weeks? i move in tommorow!

[hakunamatata]

Originally Posted by Robob

Man up.

i dont even know what that's supposed to mean. you telling me i need to grow some balls? im happy being ball-less. i think getting a pair would actually isolate me even MORE

not that i'd go around telling everyone i met that i'm a girl with balls or show them or anything

but i'm just speculating here. for all i know that comment was not even aimed at me or it was and it means something other than 'man up'

mm yes.

[hakunamatata]

Originally Posted by ieuano

two weeks? i move in tommorow!

duuuuude, have fun

[Chibi]

Are we twins!?
Also, 2 weeks? You're lucky. I move in on Saturday! DX

[hakunamatata]

Originally Posted by Chibi

Are we twins!?
Also, 2 weeks? You're lucky. I move in on Saturday! DX

well in a way you're luckier as you get to get it over and done with
haha so positive aren't we
you're not alone amigo, apparently we're not such a rare breed, us introverted lot. we must be optimistic.. and if we DO by any chance end up being alone in some busy student filled place where everyone is drinking and dancing and belonging with each other, just pretend you're the heroine of a film and, actually, everyone loves YOU

YES THEY DO.

[mc_watson87]

Originally Posted by hakunamatata

just under two weeks to go and i'm off to uni and i am SCARED as about the social side. i'm quiet, rather shy, introverted.. think too much, etc, you get the drift.. so freshers week isn't the kind of thing a person like me looks forward to

helppp meeeeee, tell me it will be ok
pat me on the head and tell me eeeeverything is going to be just fine and that i won't be the weird person standing alone at a party fidgeting with my phone to look less pathetic?
please?

Aww, i'm just like that!

You'll be fine! I met loads of lovely people. A lot of people will introduce themselves to you and some will definetly become your best friends.

[Airel]

Originally Posted by hakunamatata

just under two weeks to go and i'm off to uni and i am SCARED as about the social side. i'm quiet, rather shy, introverted.. think too much, etc, you get the drift.. so freshers week isn't the kind of thing a person like me looks forward to

helppp meeeeee, tell me it will be ok
pat me on the head and tell me eeeeverything is going to be just fine and that i won't be the weird person standing alone at a party fidgeting with my phone to look less pathetic?
please?

Alcohol.

[jeffro1]

Uni is a chance to create a new you! Try and push your fears aside and get involved in the social side - you will SERIOUSLY regret it if you sit in your room all week with the door shut

Good luck

[hakunamatata]

Originally Posted by mc_watson87

Aww, i'm just like that!

You'll be fine! I met loads of lovely people. A lot of people will introduce themselves to you and some will definetly become your best friends.

well if you're just like me and you have some good friends then whyyyy ohhh whyyy caaaaaaaan't.. iiiiii?

/somewhere over the rainbow

[hakunamatata]

Originally Posted by Airel

Alcohol.

freaked me out ever so slightly more
i don't drink
well i don't get DRUNK is what i really mean
now you've just reminded me that that's what all students do don't they
i will now DEFINITELY be fidgeting with my phone alone and POSSIBLY call my mum/friends and smile lots and laugh just so that i look unbothered and like 'yeah and whaaat'

no no, better idea.. i'll just walk out. money wasted on ticket but NEVER MIND, keep dignity in tact.

i'm going to be a semi-hermit.

[hakunamatata]

Originally Posted by jeffro1

Uni is a chance to create a new you! Try and push your fears aside and get involved in the social side - you will SERIOUSLY regret it if you sit in your room all week with the door shut

Good luck

spent about £55 on tickets last night so i'm at least going to TRY (there should be an emoticon that shows what i'm feeling right now. is there an emoticon on tsr that looks like it's so nervous it needs a poo?). hate wasting money *shudder*

[jeffro1]

Originally Posted by hakunamatata

freaked me out ever so slightly more
i don't drink
well i don't get DRUNK is what i really mean
now you've just reminded me that that's what all students do don't they
i will now DEFINITELY be fidgeting with my phone alone and POSSIBLY call my mum/friends and smile lots and laugh just so that i look unbothered and like 'yeah and whaaat'

no no, better idea.. i'll just walk out. money wasted on ticket but NEVER MIND, keep dignity in tact.

i'm going to be a semi-hermit.

If you arnt keen on getting drunk then its not a problem - not every student wants to get slaughtered every time they go out you know
Just have a few to lower your inhibitions a bit

[Paerrim]

I wouldn't worry about Freshers week too much if it's not your sort of thing. For some people, it's great, and they can get drunk and aprty like never before. For others that aren't so keen on that sort of thing, it's not, but that doesn't matter.

You'll probably make most of your friends on your course, and a lot of the people you might meet at Freshers week you probably wont see much or again. If you dont like or dont feel comfortable at parties, no reason to go - there's plenty of other things to do, and there's plenty of other people that are similar. Plus, once your course starts, you'll soon make even more friends and fit in easily, it happens, no matter how shy or quiet you are.

If some events sound interesting or appealing, jump in and go there and enjoy it. If they don't and you'd rather not go, then don't force yourself to do something you probably wont enjoy. There'll be plenty of other oppurtunities to make friends, meet people and have a great time!

While some students get drunk, particularly in freshers week, a lot don't. People are different, and at university, there's all types. The ones going out and geting drunk may be more visible, but it doesn't mean that all students are like that, because they aren't.

It'll be fine, don't worry about it, and in no time, you'll meet lots of people like yourself and make some great friends