[a_t]

Stop using condoms?

[QwentyJ]

Originally Posted by xBillyBrownx

How's this a bad thing?

Because you can't Orgasm?! It's in no way a blessing. I'd rather suck at lasting, but be able to improve than have RE.

[HadrianH]

Originally Posted by taurus26

Do boys have sex toys which can help with this? Like vibrators for girls help... is there a male equivalent of a vibrator?

Erm, fleshlight? But that's more for masturbating than having sex.

[Anonymous]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

no other girl has let me go on for so long. they all give up !!!

No offense but I'm not surprised - they were probably in quite a bit of pain by then

To be honest I think it's really out of order that that girl dumped you for the problem, and she probably wasn't worth it. The only exception would be if you insisted on having intercourse for so long each time - I certainly couldn't go for an hour without getting incredibly sore ...

I'm afraid the best idea is to see someone about it. I'm sure something can be done. This probably won't make you feel better but I've never orgasmed AT ALL, so you have something over me

[kevin_123]

Originally Posted by taurus26

Not quite.

A vibrator gives women something that standard fingers and sex doesn't, whereas a fleshlight, as far as I was aware, was basically just like having a hand or having sex.

So I was wondering if there was some other way of enhancing the already standard masturbation/sex movement for men?

Well I got a warning for saying "Search for F********t on google" so I'm not gonna say anything more

[Anonymous]

Originally Posted by cinderellax

jack?

??

[domino0806]

It does reduce your need for a condom...

[bigmo7]

30-45 minute? Omg...you'll wear down you dick in that time!

[hbandtr4eva]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

Anon or delete please.

For those of you who do not know what delayed ejaculation is:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Delayed_ejaculation
http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/s...hysical_causes



"Between 1 to 4 % of males suffer from delayed ejaculation to some degree" but i think this references older males, whereas I am 18

I am in a very embarrassing situation.

I have had sex about 120 times with 5 different girls, and i have only ever orgasmed once whilst inside a girl (after two and a half hours of solid thrusting). Even the time when i lost my virginity, i couldn't orgasm after thrusting for over an hour.

For those of you who did read the articles i posted and are trying to deduce the reasons:
I do not masturbate because it takes two long... (although i an coax myself to orgasm)
I would describe myself as 100% straight. There is no chance of "latent homosexuality" as suggested in one of the articles.

I feel like im letting my current girlfriend down and she is getting increasingly frustrated at her inability to coax me to orgasm. I have been dumped once due to my sexual inadequacy. I really really like the girl i am with at the moment and love having sex but i cannot climax.

I dont know what to do Has anyone else been in a similar situation? How did you resolve it?

Thank you.

My boyfriend has had this problem since we got together - his ex could never make him orgasm either through sex or any kind of foreplay and I'm the same. He's never cum just from sex or foreplay - the only way he can do it is by masturbating in front of me and then eventually cuming on/in me. I can't make it happen, no matter what I do or how long I try.

I'll be honest, it made me feel pretty crap to start with, especially as for the first 4 months of our relationship he wouldn't even masturbate in front of me, but now he does. Other than this we have a great sex life and I don't feel like I'm missing out. I wish that it was possible for him to cum solely through having sex but at the moment it isn't, however hopefully in the future he'll be able to.

I've never thought of ending things with him because of it - I love him very much and we're hopefully going to be together for a long time. The fact that he can't cum doesn't make me love him any less. I know exactly how your girlfriend feels but you have to keep explaining to her that it's nothing she's doing wrong - you find her very attractive but it's just something that you can't do.

I found it difficult to accept to start with but I'd rather be with him and have this problem than be with someone else who I love, but who can cum through sex. If you want to chat, PM me

[Anonymous]

Originally Posted by hbandtr4eva

If you want to chat, PM me

actually, we go to the same university and i swear ive seen you around so.... no?

but thanks for the offer

[Anonymous]

Originally Posted by Indieboohoo

something must have turned you on, don't you have any type of fetish or had a sex dream in your whole entire life

the one girl i have orgasmed with looked like a supermodel....

so, hot girls?

[butthead7]

at least you have no chance of cumming too early and not bringing yo ho to orgasm

[death.drop]

I'd go to a doctor to rule out the possibility of it being a physical problem but It's more than likely a psychological issue. The problem with that is that the more you worry about it the more of a problem it will become.

Definitely go to the doctor, and maybe ask about therapy, but in the meantime try not to have orgasm as a goal, just enjoy what you're doing and focus on the moment.

[Indieboohoo]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

the one girl i have orgasmed with looked like a supermodel....

so, hot girls?

so your saying your current girlfriend isn't hot

[Anonymous]

Originally Posted by Indieboohoo

so your saying your current girlfriend isn't hot

i only go for superhot girls...

i only came once towards the end of my relationship with that ex-

[hbandtr4eva]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

actually, we go to the same university and i swear ive seen you around so.... no?

but thanks for the offer

No worries

[Indieboohoo]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

i only go for superhot girls...

i only came once towards the end of my relationship with that ex-

do you have any fantasies that might help

[warrenpenalver]

Originally Posted by death.drop

I'd go to a doctor to rule out the possibility of it being a physical problem but It's more than likely a psychological issue. The problem with that is that the more you worry about it the more of a problem it will become.

Definitely go to the doctor, and maybe ask about therapy, but in the meantime try not to have orgasm as a goal, just enjoy what you're doing and focus on the moment.

this!


OP, you are looking at it mostly from a negative perspective so if its psychological it isnt going to get any better!!!

Take delight at giving your G/f lots of pleasure and stop focusing on you forcing yourself to have an orgasm and you will enjoy things more.

Having an orgasm is NOT always just about physical stimulation but also the mental side of things.

I had a similar problem while on a drug called venlafaxine and could last 45 minutes plus "banging away" or wanking as after a while it gets boring! But it didnt take that long by keeping variety!!

But then you can give a woman a LOT of pleasure by different means in an hour and it doesnt need to involve a lot of simple penetration to do it.

[Morzor]

Originally Posted by taurus26

Do boys have sex toys which can help with this? Like vibrators for girls help... is there a male equivalent of a vibrator?

Hey.. if we cant shove it up yours, you cant shove one up ours...