[Anonymous]

Keep anon please.

OK, so I'm going to try and keep this short. Basically, since I was about 7, I've always had a feeling that my older brother and sister weren't always my 'full' siblings as such, I've always believed we've had different dads. However, I'm nearly 19 now and the subject has never really bothered me, although I've always had this feeling, it's only recently where I've got incredibly curious to the point it's starting to bother me.

All evidence points to it, my mum had my elder sister when she was 20, my mum and dad have a 5 year age gap between them, which would have made my dad 15 when they had a child, pretty much impossible.
Secondly, and this is where it all started I guess, my brother and sister have never called my dad 'dad' instead it's always by his first name, this used to puzzle me when I was a child as I never understood why they'd call him that, mum used to say 'it's was because they're older, they can.'
I've only met my dad's mum once, and that time she called my older brother and sister 'stepchildren' but the thing which really got it bugging me was recently my brother was complaining on facebook about the size of his nose, and my dad commented on the status then my brother commented to his reply saying ' I must of inherited it from you...somehow.'

So yeah, there's all my evidence, which to me, states the obvious. I just don't know why they'd kept it from me and my younger sister for so many years, especially considering how honest my parents are and I want to ask them about my suspicions, but I don't know how? I feel like I have a right to know, despite the fact that things will never change between me and my two older siblings.


any suggestions?


((tl;dr, basically how do I ask my parents if me ad my older siblings share the same dad?))

[DH-Biker]

Just ask your Mum. Tell her you want to know if you and your siblings are all from the same Father, and bring up the evidence to suggest why you're asking.

That's what I'd do?

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I just feel kind of stupid doing it really, even though I know it -must- be true, we never really talk about family issues in my house ad I'm not the most open and upfront person when it comes to discussion, I guess I just don't know what sort of situation to do it in :/.

[tface]

Just sit your mum down and tell her, nothing else you can do, but you already know that I'm sure!

[Crisbduck]

Might be waiting until your ready to talk about it

[DH-Biker]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Yeah, I just feel kind of stupid doing it really, even though I know it -must- be true, we never really talk about family issues in my house ad I'm not the most open and upfront person when it comes to discussion, I guess I just don't know what sort of situation to do it in :/.

If its any consolation, I asked my Mum if she was really my Mum. Despite all the evidence saying she was, and knowing myself deep down she was, I still worked myself up into a fret and asked anyway.

Just ask, mate. Its not controversial, and if you say why you're asking, they'll answer.

[icedragon]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Keep anon please.

OK, so I'm going to try and keep this short. Basically, since I was about 7, I've always had a feeling that my older brother and sister weren't always my 'full' siblings as such, I've always believed we've had different dads. However, I'm nearly 19 now and the subject has never really bothered me, although I've always had this feeling, it's only recently where I've got incredibly curious to the point it's starting to bother me.

All evidence points to it, my mum had my elder sister when she was 20, my mum and dad have a 5 year age gap between them, which would have made my dad 15 when they had a child, pretty much impossible.
Secondly, and this is where it all started I guess, my brother and sister have never called my dad 'dad' instead it's always by his first name, this used to puzzle me when I was a child as I never understood why they'd call him that, mum used to say 'it's was because they're older, they can.'
I've only met my dad's mum once, and that time she called my older brother and sister 'stepchildren' but the thing which really got it bugging me was recently my brother was complaining on facebook about the size of his nose, and my dad commented on the status then my brother commented to his reply saying ' I must of inherited it from you...somehow.'

So yeah, there's all my evidence, which to me, states the obvious. I just don't know why they'd kept it from me and my younger sister for so many years, especially considering how honest my parents are and I want to ask them about my suspicions, but I don't know how? I feel like I have a right to know, despite the fact that things will never change between me and my two older siblings.


any suggestions?


((tl;dr, basically how do I ask my parents if me ad my older siblings share the same dad?))

Just outright ask her. She should have informed you about this by now anyway.

[Jelephant]

To be honest, it doesn't exactly sound like they're trying to hide it, maybe they just assumed you already knew? I can't remember my parents specifically saying "Your older sisters are only your half sisters", it was just known through the things people said to each other, kind of like your examples

[stephie.u3]

you say you guys are honest with each other so they'll understand your curiosity...you're an adult and as part of that family its not right for you to feel left out by not knowing...you're gonna have to pluck up the courage to sit them down and just ask, whats the worst that could happen?? you'll just laugh it off