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    I have a couple of friends who I would consider as close, and many others that I would consider as just aquaintances (spelt wrong!). I am happy with my life, I have a boyfriend and everything is seeming okay.

    However, the friends I have I cant trust (as both of them broke my trust a couple of years ago, and I'm struggling to trust them again, so we are falling apart), and I dont really have anyone to talk to about girly things I dont have a best friend. I'm 17 and female.

    What would you recommend I do? I want to have someone that I'm close to and can talk to about anything and everything
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    ah I understand it's hard to make friends. Try going to some social groups or something, maybe you'll find somebody you can become close to.
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    Sometimes it's better to have just a handful of really close friends and just remain friendly with everyone else.

    Make time to meet new people, through your couple of close friends perhaps and something might click. It's hard to gain someone's trust but so easy to break it so just take things slow and it will be fine
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    Don't let it get to you, you will continue to make new friends throughout life, having a best friend someone you can turn to with anything will come wit time, just keep yourself open to others, joins some groups and societies of things that intrest you and this will help you meet like minded people. Don't try and force it just relax and be yourself. I'm sure you'll be fine
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    I'm the same as you OP. Don't feel like I have proper friends to talk to, and certainly not a best friend anymore... are you at school/college? In employment? You need to get involved in things maybe - clubs, a job etc. But remember - often you need to put more work in than they will if you want to form close friendships. Don't give up.
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    Exact same situation as you. I have a boyfriend, two girl friends who used to be my best friends but are now just untrustworthy etc, and a handful of close guy friends and some acquaintances. I just talk about girly things with my boyfriend, or my closest guy friends. Tbh though, i'm looking forward to getting to uni to make some new friends that'll be better than my current ones :P
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    (Original post by littledreams)
    I'm the same as you OP. Don't feel like I have proper friends to talk to, and certainly not a best friend anymore... are you at school/college? In employment? You need to get involved in things maybe - clubs, a job etc. But remember - often you need to put more work in than they will if you want to form close friendships. Don't give up.
    Ive just finished year 12, and start a new job on monday, so hopefully things come up then, fingers crossed.
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    (Original post by vickiieemma)
    Exact same situation as you. I have a boyfriend, two girl friends who used to be my best friends but are now just untrustworthy etc, and a handful of close guy friends and some acquaintances. I just talk about girly things with my boyfriend, or my closest guy friends. Tbh though, i'm looking forward to getting to uni to make some new friends that'll be better than my current ones :P
    Im not going anon anymore lol, I've got nothing to hide. I've got another year before uni yet, so hopefully I'll meet some new people soon
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    (Original post by Charlotteeee<3)
    Im not going anon anymore lol, I've got nothing to hide. I've got another year before uni yet, so hopefully I'll meet some new people soon
    Exactly chin up!
    You can always chat to me if you wanna have girly chats x
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    (Original post by vickiieemma)
    Exactly chin up!
    You can always chat to me if you wanna have girly chats x
    Thank you x
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I have a couple of friends who I would consider as close, and many others that I would consider as just aquaintances (spelt wrong!). I am happy with my life, I have a boyfriend and everything is seeming okay.

    However, the friends I have I cant trust (as both of them broke my trust a couple of years ago, and I'm struggling to trust them again, so we are falling apart), and I dont really have anyone to talk to about girly things I dont have a best friend. I'm 17 and female.

    What would you recommend I do? I want to have someone that I'm close to and can talk to about anything and everything
    :console:
    In more or less the same situation...
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    Tbh with you, I dnt have a best friend, I have friends but like you I can't trust them. Its fine dw I dnt really miss not having a best friend
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    Just pm me if you wana talk, I dnt mind
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    We know friends are like treasure like gain in our life. we can share our personal feelings to our friend. I am always sharing my family issues and personal feelings to my friend. He always give encouragement...!!
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    I didn't meet my current very best friend until I moved out to go to uni (we lived in the same house). I had good mates before, but my best mate from uni I'd trust with damn near anything.

    Point being, uni is a whole new thing, you will meet amazing people (so long as you make the effort. The other thing is that most people find they are not as close to old friends after uni, as you change a bit - new interests and you become more sure of yourself and stuff. So don't worry about not having close friends now

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