Going home for Weekends

Because if you bugger off home every weekend, when do you hang out with your friends at uni (assuming you made new friends)?
As for family, just talk to them on the phone or skype and learn to be interdependent. Running back to mummy and daddy every weekend is missing the point about living away from home.

Tbh, I always take the first 3 weeks of September off work and hardly anything happens here at the weekend. People go out on weekdays, I see my friends on weekdays?! There's nothing wrong if you wanna stay at uni at the weekends but I don't see why you have to be such a prick about people who do go home?

Speaking on skype/the phone is hardly the same as seeing my friends in person. I took two gap years to go travelling (living away from mummy & daddy shock horror!) so most of my friends have graduated by now and are at home working full time - going out on the weekends, so why wouldn't I try to get a bit of both worlds and go out with them too?

Wut?
People go out on the weekdays but not weekends? I think that begs the question what course is everyone doing as I know many people including myself who couldn't do that.

I know here all the big student nights in town are on weekday nights. And by big, I mean cheap. Besides, I have 9am starts every day and still manage it! Plus, spending time with friends doesn't necessarily mean a night out, it can just be spending a bit of time at each others house/flat or whatever. I'm sure most people have time for that during the week.

Personally, I go home once a month. I only live 45 minutes from uni anyway, so it's a nice balance of popping home and getting some yummy food/catching up with the parents and maintaining independence despite being so close to home.

Wut?
People go out on the weekdays but not weekends? I think that begs the question what course is everyone doing as I know many people including myself who couldn't do that.

Also, why do you need to see your friends so much? Don't you have new friends at uni? Why are all your friends still at home and not around the country working, because I can't imagine that you live in some magical town where all the best jobs are, and surely you can just catch up with them during holidays? Unless of course you are afraid that they will forget you if you don't see and talk to them every waking minute.

It's nice to go home for a change of scenery. You almost make it seem as though when you go to uni you're supposed to leave everything behind you and start again.

In a sense yes, though not that extreme. Uni is a mid ground between permanently moving out and living at home. Going back home all the time to meet old friends and family seems like people are not wanting to move on and are being lazy at trying to make a new life.

Why should people make a new life? Unless you've had a terrible time at school/home I see uni as an addition to your life. When you get older and maybe move away to work do you just leave everything behind you and start over again? Going home on the weekend doesn't make you weak minded.

Because if you bugger off home every weekend, when do you hang out with your friends at uni (assuming you made new friends)?
As for family, just talk to them on the phone or skype and learn to be interdependent. Running back to mummy and daddy every weekend is missing the point about living away from home.

I do agree to a certain extent. I'm not at university yet so I can't really say for definite how I'll find it and whether I'll get homesick or not but I am quite an independent person so I think I'll be ok. I've been on holiday without my family before and not been homesick or anything but I guess that's different. I think it's good to spend a little bit of time with family if you can and I'd certainly go home at christmas and easter.

It makes me feel a little bit guilty though because my mum is saying that when she helps move me in she wants to stay in a local hotel overnight and spend the weekend with me :/... It's a lovely idea and it's nice to know incase I don't like it or whatever (I know that I wouldn't just get there and then go back home again but I get anxiety sometimes so it's nice to know that I could if I REALLY had to which I wouldn't) but at the same time I'm thinking I should be going out with my flatmates when I get there and not my mum lol.

She's not ridiculous though, she's not expecting me to come home during term time I don't think. But my gran keeps asking me how often I'll see her because she lives with us and she's been like a 2nd mum to me since I was tiny. Also she's 81 and I hate the idea of not making the most of her last years even though I know I only live once and I need to concentrate on making the most of my life.

I think every weekend is a bit extreme unless it's for work purposes and there's no way of getting a job where they're studying. I've read things on here before about people who apparently have their parents do all of their cooking for them and give it to them in microwaveable containers at weekends. For one of the people it involved his family members travelling from cardiff uni to coventry - where he's from. I think that's absolutely ridiculous to be honest. The excuse I remember reading was that it's because they're used to eating food that's difficult to cook... They should either learn to cook it before they go or just get unused to it and eat normal, simple food like everybody else in my opinion. They're adults, when are they going to grow up?

Things like that do bug me when I read it but I guess it's not really hurting anyone. I think it would probably have a bit of a detrimental effect on the flat atmosphere and dynamics amongst the flatmates though because if someone is still getting their parents to do everything for them and they have their family running around after them with containers of food every weekend then they won't be able to relate to the others in the same way. It seems a bit backward to me.

As kind as your mums offer is, you are right. People will want to go out and you have to go out with them for the first few weeks. If you don't, you will segregate yourself from the group and that will really screw you over.

What some parents have to realise is that you are moving on and this is the first step. After uni you might move permanently to a different part of the country, so the better get use to the idea of you not being around all the time. Of course it also helps you as you learn to be independent and approach your parental relationship in a more mature manner.
The people who have their meals precooked are the type of people who will always struggle to find house-mates and have other social problems Again, these people just need to learn to be independent.

I live in a house with 5 other students and going home is really expensive for me. Everyone else seems to go home every couple of weeks though and its really annoying when the house empties out as it leaves me with nothing to do.

I live about 5 hours from uni and a return by train costs £60. I don't go home during term time.