[Anonymous]

hello right.
my first sexual partner i was with for 3 years we waited about a year til we had sex
and it was fine and sex was always fine for us, sometimes id worry maybe if it was gunna go too deep or whatever but it was fine.

Ive always had a thing where i hate the thought of using tampons or a boy putting his finger up there never wanted to do it so always been awkward when its come to it as i make them pull out i dont know why, even when a boy puts there hand down there i'll move it eventually i have no idea why i just do now, id say because of pain but with the pain i now go through in sex it wouldnt even bother me if it did hurt.

The second boy i was seeing i really really wanted sex but when it came to it i was quite anxious and my legs were stiff and not open enough and then it was hard to get in like impossible, like i was squeezing like hitting a wall. So from then then on i was more relaxed and tried so hard,we tried so many times and it always happened and itd be agony the whole way through then he said he could feel my muscles tightening, the last time we did i found it so much easier but it didnt last long at all and then we broke up.

The third person also it hurt a lot because it was squeezing but automatically i didnt want it to in the slightest and he said it was unbelievably tight, we did do it but it was just agony for me

The fourth i was very drunk but i do remember it being painful.

The thing is i do want to have sex and love it but i cant enjoy it because it kills so it means im not as into as i used to be when it actually happens.
I just dont know what to do anymore.

I feel maybe im not wet enough down there when it actually comes to it even though i really want it, there can be other times where im very turned on but never get it. With my first boyfriend i was able to go straight into sex so i just dont understand it.

PLEASE ADVICE, HELP.
Thanks so much.

[Anonymous]

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[lizziefree]

Are you on the contraceptive implant?
When I used the implant for 8 months and during the whole time I experienced so much pain during sex. It was like a knife stabbing into me, it was tight and I wasn't able to get naturally lubricated. The Pill can cause this too sometimes... depending on how it effects your hormones.
I went off the Implant and the pain stopped within days.

If you don't think it is anything to do with that, then go to the Doctors. it is NOT normal to experience pain during sex. It should feel natural and not painful. If there is pain there is a problem. You could being automatically clenching and the more you think about it or try and stop the clenching it will tighten your muscles more. Go see a doctor.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by lizziefree)
Are you on the contraceptive implant?
When I used the implant for 8 months and during the whole time I experienced so much pain during sex. It was like a knife stabbing into me, it was tight and I wasn't able to get naturally lubricated. The Pill can cause this too sometimes... depending on how it effects your hormones.
I went off the Implant and the pain stopped within days.

If you don't think it is anything to do with that, then go to the Doctors. it is NOT normal to experience pain during sex. It should feel natural and not painful. If there is pain there is a problem. You could being automatically clenching and the more you think about it or try and stop the clenching it will tighten your muscles more. Go see a doctor.

yes i am on the contraceptive implant, hmm maybe it is that! i have been on it for 2 years this month though and used to have sex fine with my first boyfriend and i was on it but at that point i was getting wierd periods and bleeding a lot whereas now i do not bleed at all in the slightest, hmm i think you may be right! and yeah that is the case now i know it happens i think about it which makes it worse