Tulisa sex tape "scandal" - why is sex seen as immoral?

It's generally accepted that sex isn't a bad thing, but it's also generally held that to base oneself around sex isn't good (not something I really agree with, but that's the perception). Moreover, we judge public figures by their public image, and assume they have some level of control over that image even when in reality sometimes they don't. So while most people would think it likely that she has sex and have no issues with that, when it becomes public it's felt that her image is becoming more sexual, which people object to?

That didn't make much sense, but is broadly I think why people don't like sex tapes even from people they assume are sexually active.


Also this.

I love how it is all focused on the woman being immoral and a slut yet the man is ignored... typical.

Sorry she's a massive slag for doing that.

As for all other matters pertaining to this video, we all know the sole authority is Lethal Bizzle.

In my experience... filming it kinda takes away the passion. I like sex to be intimate as in like doing it because you can't keep your hands off each other. If everything has to stop so the guy can set up a camera then that in itself is/would be a huge turn off for me and it does demean the act because it likens it to porn and the whole point of porn is that there are absolutely no emotions involved and no intimacy whatsoever.

It takes a long time to train your mind to be completely detached from sex and it's not a natural process or one without psychological mess attached. Age, experience and maturity aren't three things that go together and you can't really understand sex from a woman's point of view because it is so completely different for us.

I am capable of having casual sex and I don't necessarily feel dirty or guilty afterwards but when I get stressed out in general with other areas of my life it's another thing to think about. At the time that I have sex with them and afterwards I might feel completely fine and be excited and turned on by the fact that I'm in complete control and that I can get sex from them whenever I want from then on all the time they're single. When I get depressed and find myself looking at life in a more negative light the other angle creeps up on me and I think about how I've cheapened myself and how I'll never be anyones wife material because at the rate I'm going by the time I'm ready to marry I will have built up a bit of a reputation for being 'easy'.

I hate the term 'easy' because it infers that I'm in some way naive. If I want a relationship with a guy then I'll make him wait because I know he'll have more respect for me if I hold back a little so I'd make sure we got on well and dated exclusively for a couple of weeks or maybe a month first. I'd make sure that I said no a couple of times before I say yes lol. If I don't want a relationship with a guy and all I want him for is casual sex then it's different because there's no need for him to respect me as girlfriend material as I don't see him as boyfriend material.

Having said that and even after having casual sex with quite a few different partners I still find it a bit of a kick in the teeth if I've just had sex with a guy and he says another girl is hot or I see him kissing another girl the following weekend etc. It's never completely strings free because you have to have absolutely 0 pride (associated with 0 confidence which isn't a common trait amongst women who are comfortable with casual sex) to not find it a bit annoying when you see it and think 'am I that forgettable?'. I'm not a sensitive woman but it is a bit emotionally confusing because you know you don't want them but at the same time you don't want them preferring other women to you.

So yeah women CAN have casual sex but in these current times I don't believe women can ever truly escape how we feel about it when we're a bit down and it's partly due to societal pressures and stereotypes and partly due to female psychology and the hormones released after sex that make us want to cuddle and make men want to go to sleep.

The fact that she quite clearly hired a team of lawyers, got a gagging order and denied it was her, only to confess a week later. Also the fact that she has quite conveniently released a new single in the past few days is eyebrow raising.




You never were one to think logically, were you Jimbo?

You have utterly missed the point and why everyone has criticised the slag.
It is not because they were not married, or that it was a blow job.......but because she let him film it. Do you know who else lets people film them doing such things? Porn stars.

So if you filmed your partner (wife or girlfriend), she would be a slag to?

Tbf, I wasn't talking out of my arse and insinuating this without a reason. The points you have provided clearly say it. If you knew, then you would know that sex between two loving partners and sex in porn has a MASSIVE, MASSIVE difference.

a) I would never film my girlfriend

b) Yes, they would be a slag and an idiot. The only other people to filmed are pornstars....or kinky weirdos looking for some type of kick because their sex life is hideously bad.

c) My girlfriend is not famous, nor am I. To be famous and do such a thing is beyond moronic.

Ha, are you really implying that these two kids "loved" each other ? Clearly they did not as they are far too young to even know what love is, let alone know what they want.

Actually no, you'd be quite wrong here. Being intimate all the time without any spontaneity or variety becomes predictable and boring. You don't have to go and "set it up", I think you could simply flip open your camera phone now and start recording.

So you are some love making and porn director master? Because you seem to think your opinion is all that is needed to justify anything...

Why are mods deleting people's post??

Erm huh? Mind responding to my whole post and what are you saying here?

Like I mentioned, the ****ty camera work doesn't matter at all and there is no "editing" going on to cut out the bad bits.

"The camera work doesn't matter" according to who? Are you speaking for humanity now?

Prove me wrong, please

Quite. I was wondering earlier today what if a tape of a male pop star giving head to a woman had leaked.

Prove yourself right first!

I can't say "Hey everyone, aliens live on Pluto! PROVE ME WRRRROOOONG!"

You have made a completely unsubstantiated claim which is completely worthless unless you can validate it.

Protip: Don't get into debates if you have no idea how debates actually work