[Anonymous]

Yet he says I have the weight problem.

I'm not fat, my BMI is slap bang in the healthy range. But he weighs less than 9 stone and very underweight. Yet he bangs on at me to lose weight. He says things to make me feel bad and fat, but I don't say anything about him because it would hurt his feelings. Because tbh it doesn't turn me on to see his bones.

What do I do? He is obsessed with me losing weight

[Felchingman]

He's a fat skinny b*tch .

He probably thinks being skinny is the way to go, I would suggest you to tell him you don't like his body the way it is, that'll shake him up a little.
He's a man after all, he'll probably get back on his feet.

[xWebber]

Tell him to **** off if he doesn't like what you look like.

And tell him to go down mc donalds, get some meat on him.

[TruetoMyself]

Leave the twiglet

[Eponym]

Does he have an eating disorder or dysmorphic syndrome (BDD)? If he does, that could be why he is acting/commenting the way he is. He may be deluded and think that he is reaching/at his 'ideal' weight by being so skinny. So, as a result he thinks you are overweight even though you're healthy.

[Tudball]

Tell him what you told us.
If he doesn't listen, ditch the wee bugger.

[BlueGenes]

If he doesn't change, you deserve better.

[Ice Constricter]

Seriously tell him to man and build some muscle.

And I thought relationships were about letting your other half know how you feel. So tell him how you feel, that would shut him up.

[Wilfred Little]

(Original post by Ice Constricter)
Seriously tell him to man and build some muscle.

And I thought relationships were about letting your other half know how you feel. So tell him how you feel, that would shut him up.

No, that'd make her as bad as him.

Keep your dignity and leave him.

[Karism]

As a person who is underweight for their height (6ft 2' 140lbs), of which i am trying to improve, he shouldn't be making you feel so bad about yourself, unless the weight was negatively affecting my partners health, i wouldn't care as long as they were happy.

[SugarPuffs]

Maybe he's making you feel bad about this because he knows he needs/wants to put on weight/muscle, but can't because he's a hardgainer or something?

[hfreaks]

Feed him Potatoes and Mcdonalds, 4 time a day ;0

[hfreaks]

(Original post by BlueGenes)
If he doesn't change, you deserve better.

i LOVE THE GIRL WITH THE SKULL ON HER HEAD YAMMY AND GROOVEY

[animalnitrate]

Many people who have low self esteem pick on others for the exact reason that makes them feel so bad, I'm not excusing his behaviour because no one should have to put up with what he says to you, but there may be an underlying cause

[Guybrush Sheepgood]

How tall is he? He might not be underweight. It is actually normal to be able to see a guy's ribs if they have a good metabolism. For instance, if a male is 5,7 and 9 stone, that is a normal, healthy weight (check the BMI) and you might very well be able to see their ribs. The idea that men should be large and muscly is a media myth. A large number of men are naturally very slim without even trying and they are perfectly healthy.

If you are indeed overweight, maybe you should consider what he is saying. Being overweight is not healthy and that is a fact.

On the other hand if you are perfectly fine with your weight or if you aren't even overweight and he says things regarding your weight that are upsetting you and he does not respond to you telling him to stop, this is not acceptable.

[Glow in the dark]

Tell him to man up and go to the gym, tell him seeing ribs don't turn you on as you've said here. Works both ways

[BexiG]

let him know that by medical standard you are healthy and he is unhealthy and he needs to go to the doctors asap!! if he doesn't listen, take the concerns to a family member and let them deal with it!! and it he continues to want you to lose weight, end the relationship!! a partner is suppose to encourage healthy behaviour!

[polaroid13]

(Original post by BexiG)
let him know that by medical standard you are healthy and he is unhealthy and he needs to go to the doctors asap!! if he doesn't listen, take the concerns to a family member and let them deal with it!! and it he continues to want you to lose weight, end the relationship!! a partner is suppose to encourage healthy behaviour!

This in a nutshell + just be delicate about the situation. If he's not co-operating or listening, you know what to do. Your other half should not be making you feel crap about yourself.