[RedFlowers*]

When I was around 15 I started to sleep around my boyfriends house (he was 2 years older than me and we had been together for 2 years. I had my own room there as my parents requested that to his parents and we obeyed that. The other day someone decided to call me a weirdo because I did this (I'm 21 now) and because our parents allowed it to happen.

Do you think this is weird/wrong? Are you too young at the age of 15 to be sleeping at your boyfriend's/girlfriend's house?

[xXHolly_90Xx]

I don't think thats weird.. you did have seperate rooms!
Sharing a bed would have been a bit strange for your parents to allow

[FrostyLemon]

Its all down to the parents really. My parents and my ex's were very lenient and they allowed us to stay over early on in the relationship and probably aware that we were having sex etc. I know quite a few others who had/have similar experiences, I know some who aren't allowed to sleep over at all. But I have to say I've never heard of someone having their own room at their boyfriend/girlfriends house.

We were 16 and 18 at the time.

[pinkangelgirl]

both mine and my boyfriends Mum's were quite strict and we werent allowed to stay in the same bed even when we were like 20 lol....

Goodness knows why!!

[Anonymous]

I have never slept round a boyfriends house, and im not even allowed boyfriends to hang out round my house let alone stay the night !(im 20 btw!) however my parents are devout catholics no sex before marriage etc and i respect their opinions as while i live under their roof i have to abide by their rules. I personally dont see a big thing with staying over doesnt bother me i cant, ill stay at my boyfriend sometimes till about 11.30 pm by then im tired and would just go to sleep anyway so i may aswell drive home and sleep in my own bed.

For me staying over is a practical thing if we last when im at uni then he will just stay over as it will be too long to drive home but other than that i dont really feel the need to stay over !

[Kattt_452]

No, but that's because our parents (both mine and my boyfriend's) allowed us to sleep over together/were also lenient. I vaguely remember it started out as we had to sleep in seperate rooms, then I always remember being allowed to sleep in with him.

[little_wizard123]

(Original post by RedFlowers*)
When I was around 15 I started to sleep around my boyfriends house (he was 2 years older than me and we had been together for 2 years. I had my own room there as my parents requested that to his parents and we obeyed that. The other day someone decided to call me a weirdo because I did this (I'm 21 now) and because our parents allowed it to happen.

Do you think this is weird/wrong? Are you too young at the age of 15 to be sleeping at your boyfriend's/girlfriend's house?

How is that weird? His parents were stopping their son break the law... It'd be weird if they did allow it tbh.

[fredscarecrow]

I've never been allowed my boyfriend to sleep in my room at home - I'm 22 and for the first time my boyfriend is stopping over - but in the spare room. It's my parent's house, so their rules. They let me sleep over at his though, and know we share a room and that he sleeps over at mine in uni. I just think they're uncomfortable with it in their own house. That or it's because I have a single bed and they've just assumed we wouldn't want to sleep together in it (we would) but I don't have the kind of r'ship with my parents where we could discuss it.

My last boyfriend...again I used to sleep over at his, and him at my place at uni and my parents knew that (and his parents). That was age 18. The first time I told my parents I was staying at his overnight they found it a little uncomfortable, but it was never mentioned again.

My boyfriend as a teenager...we were allowed in his room with the door shut etc, but had I ever stopped over I know I would have been made to sleep in another room...but we were 14/15 so that's not really surprising.

I had friends at 14/15 that were allowed to sleep in boyfriend's beds etc, with very lenient parents. I think they assumed sex would happen anyway, so they'd rather it was in the security of the house rather than in a wood etc (like the rest of us! - well fumblings, not sex in most cases)

[tehFrance]

I had people staying over from 14-15, no biggie in a French household

[ChelseyElla]

I was allowed boyfriends to stay round if they didn't live near by from the age 17 (we didn't have a spare room so we had to share my room). My parents are happily letting my boyfriend stay round over Easter (we're 21 and 20 now) but when I went to stay with his parents at Newyear/eve, I had to sleep in the spare room. I don't mind though as its there house.

[Clez]

I think if you're sleeping together anyway and you're over 16 it shouldnt really matter. My parents (my mum mainly) didnt allow it with my ex when i was 18 because my 15 year old sister "might get influenced BECAUSE AT 15 SHE DOESNT KNOW WHAT SEX IS!???"

if i had kids and they were asking - so long as they were both legal and the partner wasnt a psycho/moron/thief/abusive and they didnt have sex which i could hear and they washed their own bedsheets i wouldnt care

[Anonymous]

my parents are so strict, i can in no way stay over my boyfriend's house, even though I'm 20.
They won't even have their childrens partners anywhere near the bedrooms, unless they live far away and have to stay over, in which case one of us has to give up a bed for them.

It's so weird, seeing as at uni, i could stay out all night at a house party or whatever, but when I said I might stay at my boyfriend's after a night out just so I won't have the hassle of making my way home, my mum went crazy and started declaring that she will get me, demanded to know where his parents were and where i was sleeping.

Surely she must know that allowing to sleep over doesn't necessarily mean sex. Sex can happen without sleepovers. but this is too awkward to explain. she even says in the past it's ok as long as we are safe, but again, it's all about the appearance of being respectable, and she doesn't want me to get a bad name.

it's also worse for me, as i'm the youngest of the family and so perceived by everyone as the innocent, immature and vulnerable one.

[Schmokie Dragon]

I got my first 'proper' boyfriend at 15 and we started sleeping over straight away. We shared a bed from pretty early on, although initially he slept on a futon. My parents were pretty chilled out - they trusted me to be sensible and I was. Once I turned 16 they didn't care if we were having sex as long as we used protection. Having boyfriends stay over in my room was never really a problem.

I don't think there is a 'should' about it, though. When a couple start sharing a bed (or even just staying over) depends on when they are comfortable with it and whether their parents/guardians are happy with it.