[Anonymous]

Right so all my mates from college have either stopped talking or are completely different people. Only really still speak to one guy regularly but he made his own mates when he did retakes at another college that are still tight as a circle.

So left coming home and looking at the summer after exams like a loner.

Any idea what to do?!

[sexbo]

So you disappear for a year come back and expect everyone to have been waiting for you with open arms? Life doesn't work like that if people disappear others move on and meet new people. you should of stayed in touch more often.

[TaylorGang_4]

(Original post by sexbo)
So you disappear for a year come back and expect everyone to have been waiting for you with open arms? Life doesn't work like that if people disappear others move on and meet new people. you should of stayed in touch more often.

Why do you feel the need to use such an aggressive like tone? Seriously so many people on these forums are totally disconsolated.

[victoryshinesonus]

Sport. Join gyms and clubs around your area and meet new people. I'm at college and often think about going on facebook and asking to meet up with old school friends from two years ago. But I don't, well just with 1 guy, my best mate from secondary school, not a randomer. I'm a firm believer that once its gone, don't go back, look forward and meet new people. If your old mates really meant much to you, you'd still be in contact, but they're not there any more so see who else is about town. Perhaps people that went to different schools etc.

Just think when you started uni, you never knew anyone. Well, think the same way when you get back for the summer, unfortunately there won't be halls and lessons to open doors for you to meet people, you're going to have to do that part. So as I said, sports is a great way to interact with other guys, they'll go to clubs with you and you'll expand your circle. Also, part time work is great, or just generally follow your interests. Music, film, literature, business, politics, anything. Just get out there and stop dwelling. They're gone, just a memory.

P.s this is all assuming your an open person, willing to hit up conversations with new people? If not, not sure. :/ You don't usually need to chat much in gyms/sports clubs to make friends though Chin up son!

[Anonymous]

(Original post by sexbo)
So you disappear for a year come back and expect everyone to have been waiting for you with open arms? Life doesn't work like that if people disappear others move on and meet new people. you should of stayed in touch more often.

No I didn't disappear, we did all keep in touch but some of them fell out with each other, some of them have changed massively (understandably) and this is the first time we've all been back for an extended enough period of time to feel the gap between us all. After the catch ups and 'hows uni' chat it's clear that we don't all share the same bond as back in college.

Thanks victoryshinesonus for the decent advice, am looking to really get into sports and hobbies hoping that will lead me down a decent path