[organizedchaos]

Somone recently asked me What are your interest? What do you do in your spare time?

For your information, I'm a shy female student and practically a workaholic. I have at least 3 hours sleep each night, occasionally pulling one nighters to complete stuff and still feel like I haven't done enough. I don't know why - I hate it and get so stressed about it.

It's mostly because of these facts that I have no friends at all. Okay I have one friend. But she's away at uni and I'm in no way her best friend and I rarely contact her mostly because of the amount of work I have but also because she looks like shes having such a good time at uni and when she comes back she priorities to go out with her other best friends first and get the feeling that when I text her I feel like I'm bothering her.

Someone at college then asked me what my interests were/what I do in spare time and I replied 'I don't know' to which they were totally baffled by.

When it comes down to it I am unsure of everything about myself. I am only certain of my name.
Other than just doing nothing for the sake of relaxing from doing loads of work, I read but that sounds kinda boring.
I'm no good at any sport - tried most in P.E and I'm not fat or anything I just suck, have no coordination, flexibility and just a clumsy mess most of the time
I don't have any friends to shop with, go to the cinema (as much as I love going there), clubbing or eating out
I fail at cooking
I used to like draw, painting etc but now I'm doing an art course this seems like 'work' and sometimes I'm just not in the mood or get frustrated and stressed
I don't have any 'favourites' and am undecided about everything, I don't have a favourite music genre or band - I just listen to different songs that suit my mood - I don't even own a ipod which I would love but cant afford, ditto with food where what i like and dislike changes every week or a type of food becomes boring, I don't have a favourite colour - it depends on my mood, don't have favourite film, book, tv programme...

God I just feel so lost and I have no friends. I'm so lonely but so boring. It's no wonder why nobody wants to be my friend. I just don't know what to do, I think I'm just so insecure and it's just frustrating me so much

[kMt]

"man becomes what he thinks about"

if you think you're boring, you will be boring. it's not too late, you're young and you can change your life now.
Stop feeling down, I get it you have no friends right now, but I'm sure you will have some if you make some effort, why don't you go down to your local library and get some work done there, go regularly, you will start to recognise faces who come to the library often. I'm sure sooner or later you'll talk to someone who knows you could make some friends. I have made friends in the library before and we are good friends now

Learn to find a hobby, I love cooking, making cocktails, deserts etc. I have some friends over every now and then and I cook and make some nice cocktails. one of the girls who came over last time was a friend of my friend, and now I'm really goo friends with her.

You say you only have one friend. Text her more often, ask how she is bla bla bla. when she comes down then you guys can meet up, talk to her, you have make your relationship better and the only way to do this by talking to her, tell her how you feel and stuff, get personal. trust me this makes friendships so much stronger.

you say you're at college, talk to people in your lessons, you share an interest with them after all you're in the same class.

You want friends. you have to make an effort

I used to be a loner, but now have lots of friends. have 4 best friends and so many other good friends

I'm still making new friends and learning to be less shy when it comes down to meeting new people

PM me if you want

[Sheep]

"I'm a shy female student and practically a workaholic. I have at least 3 hours sleep each night, occasionally pulling one nighters to complete stuff and still feel like I haven't done enough."

lol I don't understand, you spend all day every day doing college work ?

this sounds like a very productive lifestyle to me lol

will be very happy later in life I guess

[organizedchaos]

(Original post by Sheep)
"I'm a shy female student and practically a workaholic. I have at least 3 hours sleep each night, occasionally pulling one nighters to complete stuff and still feel like I haven't done enough."

lol I don't understand, you spend all day every day doing college work ?

this sounds like a very productive lifestyle to me lol

will be very happy later in life I guess

I go to a college in london which is about 1 hours and half away I travel there, the course runs to 9-4.30, I come back home and then sit and do work till about 3 in the morning, with a 45 minute break for dinner. This is except the weekends and wednesdays but then I get up later at around 11 and then still work to about 12 at night on occasion.

It's productive but sounds boring like I don't like doing nothing but work. I hope it pays off but I don't really feel happy with my life atm.

[pinkmonkey3]

Read.

[Loveuraliens]

It seems like you think you should have all these favourites and all things to know who you are.
I used to be like that too! Everybody seemed to have all hobbies, opinions and favourites and I did not, but later I have become to be proud about this, and now I think I know who I am via knowing how fluctuating and changing I am.
Like I don`t have favourites and hobbies, but I still don`t feel I don`t know me, I know me well enough to know my favorites change and I change all the time.


Other thing is, just start doing things you enjoy, and via doing them you will meet people. You said you would love to go to cinema, so why not go alone?
If you want to see movies, just do so! (Ok it feels feird to go there alone for the first time, but getting out of your comfort zone is good for you).
Via the activities you enjoy you will meet people who have similar interests to you and you could become friends.

[wateva]

say your hobby is "complaining about being boring and lonely on the student room".

[kittylemon]

think about this buddhist quote...
watch your thoughts, they become your words
watch your words, they become your actions
watch your actions, they become your habits
watch your habits, they become your character
watch your character, it becomes your destiny

basically try new things and laugh often, think postitive and positive things happen
dont focus on the things you DONT like about yourself, looking inwards will not make you feel any better, trust me i've tried it!

[sr90]

If its any consolation its not just you, i absolutely HATE it when i get asked ''what are your hobbies/ interests/what do you do with your spare time''. I always have such a hard time coming up with an answer. I don't know why. I don't do anything particularly wild or exciting but its not as if i do nothing

[M4LLY]

Its never too late to change. I were a shy kid that no-one percieved as interesting until tbe start of year 10 when i started going to a rockclimbing club in an attempt to meet people whulst doing something i enjoyed. I met one guy who was really outgoing and we started talking. He was a right hook (or something along those lines) for the rugby team. A few weeks later he invited me to his birthday party, so i went, i met and got on really well with most of the rugby lot and it just snowballed from there. Even though some of us don't go to the same college anymore i still keep this group of friends close through texts and facebook, and boy, have we had some good times through 6th form and i'll be sad in September when we go our seperate ways to uni, work etc (but not before a big 2 week trip to Malia with them all at the start of August).

The point is, find something you enjoy and find somewhere that does it. You might end up having some awesome times like i did, hope this helps

[Anonymous]

bump because I need help too.