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    I went out for dinner with my boyfriend tonight and I feel well aand truly **** and upset but I'm not sure if I'm over reacting. We were ordering aare food when the waitress came yes she was very pretty. I have no problem with him looking at other girls as I don't think just becuase your in a relationship you instinctly stop fancying tthe opposite sex, I see boys and think 'oh there good looking' but that's it I don't oggle them. He was staring down her top giving her flirty smiles which she gave baaack I don't mind that but then he told me ' she looks reaally hot now that's a fit girl' I had spent ages choosing my outfit doing my hair makeup to try and impress him aand not once did he mention how I looked. When she gave us our food he just stared at her I was talking to him asking him questions to which he wasn't listing to and totally ignored me as he was looking at her . We got home and he decided to show me pictures of a girl he thought waas fit It was some tattooed porn star and when I said I thought she looked aa bit cheap and he started saying I was immaature and jealous, he always always looks at other girls says how fit they are. He never once said I looked nice or anything and it was lke talking to a brick wall as he just didn't listen to me, am I being over sensitive ?
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    He sounds like a douche. A cheeky peek is fine but you certainly don't flirt and make it central to a conversation
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    No... your bf sounds like a massive fu*k, I can't believe you are even asking this question. Dump him. He's probably cheating on you as well.
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    He sounds awful. If you end it with him, you're showing him that you can't tolerate that kind of behaviour and hopefully it will help anyone in the future who wants to get involved with him. How old is your bf anyway? He sounds supremely immature.
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    He does sounds like a bit of a dick. When the waitresses try to flirt with me i just give them a quick grin then go back to talking with my gf.
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    Awwwwww. It ain't gonna get any better hun. Let him go.

    Then get down the gym, get your hair did, buy some slinky casual clothes and one day you'll be a-walkin' down the street listening to Sexy And I Know It, you'll walk past him and not even notice. He'll walk past you and kick himself.

    Life's too short to not feel good about yourself, or be around people who don't support your self esteem.
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    ^^^^^ That right there..you deserve a guy that makes you feel the most beautiful girl in the world
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    He sounds so rude! It's would be fine for him to look and maybe mention it once but he took it way to far and obviously made you feel upset and insecure
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    he sounds an idiot
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    Sounds majorly over exaggerated but yeah he's a twa..
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    Usually when girls talk about stuff like this they are really over reacting and getting wound up over nothing. You, as most people seem to have pointed out, aren't one of these girls. He really does sound like an arse.

    If you haven't told him that it does upset you then he might actually just be trying to make the relationship open and relaxed, and he might not be telling you that you look good because he assumes you already know. However he is still acting like a bit of a knob.

    Instead of telling him this (which he may well just interpret as stereotypical girly nagging), it might be worth seeing if you can do the same to him - that way he might figure out that he's being an arse without you needing to complain at him for it!
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    That sounds awful, he shouldn't be doing that you should leave
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    CUE BIG MUSIC

    I wanna know what love is... I want you to show me....


    It aint what I just read OP
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    Get rid of him OP, he's a douche.
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    He doesn't respect you. Don't waste your time trying to change him.

    How old is he?

    You could give him a taste of his own medicine by doing the same to guys but it won't make things better in the long run. Just leave him.
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    He just sounds a bit dumb. Unless he's trying to make you jealous, but showing women pictures of girls you like is a retarded way of doing that, they'll just think you're a (literal) ****er.
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    Sounds like he is using you as a back up.
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    it's not overally bad for him to stare at other girls but the fact that he didn't comment on your turnout..he is just not that into you
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    wellNo...I don't tend to stare at good looking girls that walk by...I have my gf...why would I need to want more
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I went out for dinner with my boyfriend tonight and I feel well aand truly **** and upset but I'm not sure if I'm over reacting. We were ordering aare food when the waitress came yes she was very pretty. I have no problem with him looking at other girls as I don't think just becuase your in a relationship you instinctly stop fancying tthe opposite sex, I see boys and think 'oh there good looking' but that's it I don't oggle them. He was staring down her top giving her flirty smiles which she gave baaack I don't mind that but then he told me ' she looks reaally hot now that's a fit girl' I had spent ages choosing my outfit doing my hair makeup to try and impress him aand not once did he mention how I looked. When she gave us our food he just stared at her I was talking to him asking him questions to which he wasn't listing to and totally ignored me as he was looking at her . We got home and he decided to show me pictures of a girl he thought waas fit It was some tattooed porn star and when I said I thought she looked aa bit cheap and he started saying I was immaature and jealous, he always always looks at other girls says how fit they are. He never once said I looked nice or anything and it was lke talking to a brick wall as he just didn't listen to me, am I being over sensitive ?
    You're not being over sensitive, that sort of thing is really upsetting. My boyfriend doesn't go pointing out girls, simply as we don't go out anywhere very often, but I'll never forget when he told me he thought this other girl was pretty in a picture of her looking like a wh*re. Anyway, I felt so worthless that day, and I'll never forget it. However, you're boyfriend seems to be taking everything too far, you should talk to him, and if he continues to hurt your feelings, he's not worth it...

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