[magic17]

how do i do it?, i have never ever went up to a girl before and started the "chat", always wait for the girls to come to me...and does not happen much....is it a case of just going for it?, i have confidence issues ..but i dress good , smell good... ok not the best looking but if i come across like i don't give a **** would it be better?

[pinkangelgirl]

its all context dependent.

For example, going up to a girl in a supermarket would be totally different to going up to a girl in a club or in school/uni.

whats the situation??

[magic17]

thanks for the reply , erm it would be in a club

[Alpharius]

For a moment, I mis-read the title for "Going up girls."

[Stiff Little Fingers]

(Original post by Alpharius)
For a moment, I mis-read the title for "Going up girls."

If you want to stay within the boundaries of the law, that comes later.

[RainPours]

Tricky, don't know how

[LaEstrella]

I think clubs are difficult purely because you can't hear each other and you both end up just shouting and looking a bit weird. I also just think of the inbetweeners when I think of pulling in a club. I have to say, that is a way to pull. Those dance moves are spectacular <3

[the666thmessiah]

Walk up to them, a cheesy line usually does it best; they will think you are an idiot for trying it but will love that you thought it would work.
Or you could try and use lines which arent so blatently cheesy, but the make it obvious why you are there... Lines like (At uni for example, public area, she is sitting on a bench or something, reading)

"Sorry there is nowhere else to sit, do you mind if I sit next to you" (when there is other places to sit)
that will at least start a conversation as to why you think there are no places to sit but there, which is where your cheese can be tested.

And no, I am not trolling. Give it a try.

[Pankeu]

(Original post by magic17)
how do i do it?, i have never ever went up to a girl before and started the "chat", always wait for the girls to come to me...and does not happen much....is it a case of just going for it?, i have confidence issues ..but i dress good , smell good... ok not the best looking but if i come across like i don't give a **** would it be better?

I know it's easy to just say 'be yourself' and let you decipher that really vague and overused phrase, but it seems to work!

I used to be really shy around guys until I had a huge confidence boost from my male friends; I would talk to these guys about things on THEIR level and started a conversation, for example, I started playing video games when I was younger and started a conversation with this guy about the new Call of Duty game and in the end, we were laughing and having a spirited debate!

You just have to make her laugh!

[reuben99]

thanks for the reply , erm it would be in a club

[hollyhollywood92]

I think acting confident is key. If a guy approaches me in a club and seems kinda awkward about it, it's just not good. You have to find the right amount of confidence, where you come across like you're sure of yourself and not shy, but then obviously don't be too full on. You could start a conversation with a girl at the bar, easiest thing is to buy her a drink, and then you can start a conversation, or you could say something topical about the club or the music or something. I met one of my boyfriends in a club, and all he did was start dancing with my group of friends. I don't even remember him approaching us, I just remember him being there and dancing real funny and we were all laughing and he laughed and just had this great confidence, and we just started talking about random stuff without ever introducing ourselves, and it wasn't until 6 hours later when we were still talking that we found out we were both on the same course at uni and had somehow never seen each other before!

[mysteryguitarman]

I had the same problem, I always thought girls would somehow come to me or there would be a meet cute kind of thing. That was until last night, was in my uni's union club with some mates and I had a few drinks (actually 3 drinks :P) and I don't know I guess the internal restraints lifted a bit for me to waltz up to this girl who was being pestered by this douche bag and I managed to start up a conversation with her, and before you know it we were on a couch and I had my first make out session, got to second base too (I'm 21 btw). My advice don't wait around waiting for things to happen, you have to make them happen, my example was the first time I had done this and look how it turned out

[tehFrance]

(Original post by RainPours)
Tricky, don't know how

We know.

(Original post by magic17)
how do i do it?, i have never ever went up to a girl before and started the "chat", always wait for the girls to come to me...and does not happen much....is it a case of just going for it?, i have confidence issues ..but i dress good , smell good... ok not the best looking but if i come across like i don't give a **** would it be better?

Presuming this is in a club, just dance in their direction then start dancing with them