Why can't I GET OVER this guy?
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Why can't I GET OVER this guy?
ok i have this semi-friend who i really like even though he doesn't want to be in any kind of comitted relationship, he openly talks about hot girls to me, he has a friends with benefits relationship with some other girl and he has no direction in life.
what is wrong with me?!?!?!? HELP !!!! -
Re: Why can't I GET OVER this guy?
First, stop trying to mold him into something he isn't. Sheesh. This guy has the cojones to tell you upfront about how hot other girls are...instead of, you being in a relationship with him, you suspecting so, confronting him, he denying it, you becoming more enraged, then testing him more, he pushing back at your constant digging, etc. etc.
Don't make him the slave to a conceit that even you don't believe in (the myth of the good girl).
Relax, f^^^ him as you please, keep it straight with him and treat him with respect. You get what you really want without worrying about how his other actions reflect on your mythical and painful "princess" image. -
Re: Why can't I GET OVER this guy?well he's only young i'm sure he will ONE DAY obviously in the far future when i doubt i know him... i wouldn't be a friends with benefits with him.(Original post by fleesaurus)
You can become another friend with benefit to him and nothing else, or you can move on and find a guy who's more of a relationship material. He's probably not the type who'll ever settle down for one woman. -
Re: Why can't I GET OVER this guy?ok?????????????????(Original post by masterfulprof)
First, stop trying to mold him into something he isn't. Sheesh. This guy has the cojones to tell you upfront about how hot other girls are...instead of, you being in a relationship with him, you suspecting so, confronting him, he denying it, you becoming more enraged, then testing him more, he pushing back at your constant digging, etc. etc.
Don't make him the slave to a conceit that even you don't believe in (the myth of the good girl).
Relax, f^^^ him as you please, keep it straight with him and treat him with respect. You get what you really want without worrying about how his other actions reflect on your mythical and painful "princess" image.
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Re: Why can't I GET OVER this guy?Don't be 'sure' because there are guys who remain a player for life, never wanting to settle down. You probably don't want to be with him after he's 60+ years old anyway.(Original post by Anonymous)
well he's only young i'm sure he will ONE DAY obviously in the far future when i doubt i know him... i wouldn't be a friends with benefits with him. -
Re: Why can't I GET OVER this guy?no i know i was just saying(Original post by fleesaurus)
Don't be 'sure' because there are guys who remain a player for life, never wanting to settle down. You probably don't want to be with him after he's 60+ years old anyway.
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