basically me and my girlfriend are in the process of breaking up as we are constantly arguing and her flirting with other guys is becoming too much for me to handle. This was my first serious relationship, seeing each other for 10 months and going out for 6, and i'm currently feeling really downhearted and worrying that i'll end up alone as when I was single before this relationship I talked to very few girls and I'm useless at 'pulling' on nights out.
I'm 19 (20 in November) and although i know i'm still young, i feel as though i'm starting to mature and want to find a girl and settle down like everyone else at some point. I live in a small village when home from university, where there are few people in total, never mind an array of girls to meet, and I don't have a car to go to other places so rely upon my friends for lifts. All of my good friends are in relationships with girls they've been with for a year or 2 and their relationships seem to be running smoothly, which makes me jealous and regretful that mine didn't turn out the same.
When I read up on how most people met their future spouses, it seems that a majority of them were at school or university and i can't see this being the case with me as bar this relationship i wasn't romantically involved with anyone at my school/6th form. I'm changing University courses next year and having a fresh start due to hating my course this year, however this year i've literally talked to no girls so i can't see how i'll find anyone through here either.
Anyone else ever felt like this after a breakup and worried that they're going to be alone forever? what makes it worse is that my girlfriend is very attractive and has already had boys trying to hook up with her even when she was with me so she's going to inevitably move on really quickly which is probably going to leave me feeling even worse and alone
Last edited by ivancampo; 14-05-2012 at 05:59.
I think you're focusing way too much on finding someone. Yeah. It sucks that she's moved on but you're simply going to have to get over it, no matter how hard it seems.
You need to find things in your life that don't involve romantic relations which you can truly enjoy. Because - you know - you can't rely on anyone for your happiness other than yourself.
So find some other means to happiness and I'm sure you'll forget all about her.
Last edited by ThatGuyPsy; 16-05-2012 at 17:50.
yep this is true, but even at university i hardly talk to any girls and i can't pull on nights out or anything like that so i just can't see how anything is ever going to fall in place for me. Seems like the chances of me meeting someone are decreasing as the years go by. Next year i think i'm going to try and go out more and get some kind of job in the city to keep me occupied, who knows i might meet someone through that but i'm not counting on it.
at the moment i seem resigned to getting to about 27/28 and being single on dating websites whilst all my friends are married and settling down.
Last edited by ivancampo; 17-05-2012 at 16:37.