[Becccy]

Hi,

I need some urgent help and serious suggestions. I have already spoken to the police twice but there is very little they can do at the moment.

I am being harrassed/stalked by a group of people. Everytime I leave work they have someone waiting outside who follows me on the tube.
They dont do anything..they just sit by me and stare straight at me to try and intimidate me. When I get off..another one of them will follow me all the way home.

They are making my life a living hell. Please help me.

I need to prove they are doing this..but because there is a group of them its very hard for me to get evidence.

Can someone suggest something I can do to provide evidence to the police and put a stop to this.

Thanks

[Tommyjw]

1. Film it yourself or take pictures. They will either stop, or try to stop you, which will then result or prove of assault from people around you.
or
2. Get a friend to meet you and do the same but from a distance so they dont notice them

You'll probably need to do it a few times.

[Blind Ferret]

Do you know this group? or have any previous contact with them?

You could get a friend to pretend to be a passenger or random passer-by and video them.

It sounds really odd, I'd get a cab or a lift or something untill it's resolved if I were you.

[Bey Taco]

Take a break from work for two weeks, or hang around after work for a hour or two, or ask to leave early from boss, just make sure to break the normal routine.Try taking a different routes, just make sure they get bored of chasing after you.

[emmahlie]

Really sorry to hear you're experiencing this, I can't imagine how difficult this must be for you. However, there definitely is a solution. Seeing as you are absolutely sure (it sounds like it's become a routine occurance) then like Tommy says, have a friend meet you, or even better travel with you to both help you feel safer but also confirm the issue.

For more information I suggest visiting these websites and seeing what you can take from their advice:
http://www.met.police.uk/victim_support/stalking_advice.htm

http://www.supportline.org.uk/problems/stalking.php

Hope everything works out, don't be afraid to talk to people. Often after discussing something like this is can seem less daunting once you have a way to tackle it in place.

[WantCakeGetCake]

(Original post by Bey Taco)
Take a break from work for two weeks, or hang around after work for a hour or two, or ask to leave early from boss, just make sure to break the normal routine.Try taking a different routes, just make sure they get bored of chasing after you.

This seems like sound advice, but I'd definitely get back onto the police, because what these people are doing constitutes harassment to my mind.

[Darth Stewie]

why are they harassing you? do they want something or did you just annoy someone?

[Double Agent]

(Original post by Darth Stewie)
why are they harassing you? do they want something or did you just annoy someone?

Is this not a perfect example of blaming the victim?

[TheHansa]

If these are different people doing this how can you be sure they're actually stalking you? Think of the reason why someone could want to stalk you, bad break up, money.

(Original post by Double Agent)
Is this not a perfect example of blaming the victim?

It could help her work out exactly who is behing this if she can figure the reason out. The guy in your avatar looks dodgey, I'm betting on it being him.

[Mr Dangermouse]

(Original post by Double Agent)
Is this not a perfect example of blaming the victim?

No, it's a perfect example of trying to figure out why they're harassing him.

[chocolate buttons]

Do you know them or have you seen them before?

[youbonkers]

Maybe you just take similar tube roots.

[Megaross]

Can I just ask a very obvious question? Why have you not confronted these people?

That'd be the first thing I'd do "Pardon me but why are you following me?" situations like this it's better to go to the source than pass it down the line.

[Darth Stewie]

(Original post by Double Agent)
Is this not a perfect example of blaming the victim?

Alleged victim and so far all we have to go on is one side of the story by someone on the Internet. The people following her must want something and there is a big difference in what you should do if for instance debt collection people are following you compared to if a group of people who are out for physical revenge are following you. It is impossible to give good advice in cases like this without knowing the basic facts.

[Natasha_321]

ah, that sounds horrible Do you know them??
I agree that you should get a friend from a distance or to walk with you? You should try chaning up your routine to work, like timing, routes etc...
What is it that the police said they can't do atm? -Is it the lack of evidence? - You should keep a stalking log - so document everything, in a notebook - location time, and brief description of what happened. if there is any evidence put it down too! If you go back to the police, the log could help the explanations, and incidents that could have been forgotten, any evidence....
I understand about making it seem like one is blaming you, BUT if there has been any tension at work for example, people can be crazy and go to different lengths of solving situations. ( *write this in your log, if there is a link between new tension and the stalking escalating) In NO WAY is this your fault.
I also believe that there are some websites, try calling a stalking hotline. For example:
http://www.stalkinghelpline.org/

..And they can help if you need to talk etc.
BUT do not confront the stalker!!! It could escalate the situation....
Make sure you speak to some one though, can you - to a family, (work)friend - the hotline aswell? it does seem real frightning, and uncomfortable to go through!
I hope something works out for you soon, take care!
X

[carl_senior]

1) Start a log of the times and places where you think you have been followed etc.
2) KEEP calling the police. They have a duty to follow up reasonable lines of enquiry.
3) Approach a friend to act as a 'Private Investigator' to try and get some photographic evidence
4) Give these guys a call http://www.stalkinghelpline.org/
5) Inform your family and friends of the situation. A problem shared...
6) Start a routine of 'checking in' with family and friends to let them know you're ok at set times.
7) Hire Liam Neeson.

[Mazzini]

Can you try and get them to look at CCTV footage from the station?

[Clare~Bear]

Do you know them or of them?

This seems rather ominous of something bad to happen TBH - if the police aren't doing much then you need to stop them from following you somehow. How long has it beeen happening?

Like others have said, change your routine and use methods that they can't follow you with.

What would be great would be to finish work early/ late then take a cab or get a lift to somewhere other than your house. At about the time you would normally get home, phone a neighbour/friend to check to see if they're at your house or not.

If you do come across them again, make sure you stay in public places where they can't gang up on you without others noticing.

good luck.

[marsman13]

(Original post by Becccy)
Hi, I need some urgent help and serious suggestions.

If everything fails with the police, then some other force may be appiled. But thats only if all else fails.