(Original post by Anonymous)
Sorry - this is extremely long. I need advice on whether to move schools. I'm in Year 9 and starting GCSEs in September (I'd be moving for the start of Year 10). I know that wherever I go then I'll have to stay for two years.*
Basically I don't make friends easily, find social situations difficult and it seems that nobody likes me. I'm also a bit geeky but have some normal interests. A while ago the friends I'd had since primary school (I never really felt part of their group) made it more obvious in what they said and did that they didn't want me going around with them; nothing harsh - but starting to arrange meeting up in front of me instead of hiding it and then sitting miles away from me on the school bus or asking if another friend could switch seats with me because 'I don't talk much'. I got really offended by this even though I already knew they didn't like me. I ended up in a bad place.*
I moved on from that and decided I was better off without them. For a while I went around with a variety of people at school (I hadn't got to know people at high school much because I felt criticised for everything I said) and they subtly pushed me away.*
I made friends with a new girl but she got bored with me and moved on. I made friends with another group but I think the same is happening as it did with the primary school people, e.g. constantly talking about one's party when I'm there (these people haven't been friends for long). There's nobody else I could be friends with in our year group and people think I'm a loner anyway.*
So... should I move schools even though I love the school I'm at except for the social situation?
The school I'd go to has 350 in a year (the one I'm at has 270) and unlike where I am only starts in Year 9.*
Also, how would I justify moving to my mum who knows very little of the above?
I'm really sorry to hear that you feel pushed out at the moment, I know the following seems a little bit 'typical', but there are plenty of other people who have been/are/will be in your position in their lives.
Firstly, it's their problem, not yours, so don't feel like you have to change yourself for anyone. There are introverted people, and there are extroverted people and unfortunately (some) children can be cruel when not realising the difference between these two. These children will become adults one day and will act like they never pushed you out, 'subtly' or other means, this is because they often don't realise they were wrong, may have forgotten or were simply just too immature.
In terms of whether you should or should not move, I would reiterate what others have said in this thread: talk to your mother. Although I ask you not to change yourself, you could work on some social skills (maybe via youth groups etc.) and then use these in practice at school. If you are still not sure about moving, you could ask for a trial day at the school and see how it goes, from there you may have an idea whether you want to move or not.
Good luck, post back and again: you aren't alone!
Last edited by youjennatsix; 23-05-2012 at 21:38.