[Anonymous]

Okay so I am in my second year of uni, I have never been in a serious relationship, and girls rarely show an interest in me. I would really like a certain type of girl, one who is shy, innocent, quiet and naive, I would also like a girl that is quite cheeky and flirty but at the same time girls like that are probably able to find guys better than me, as I am also quite shy and have trouble making friends as I am a bit socially awkward.

I had a date with a girl who was pretty much like the sort of girl I described. Our first date was amazing and I was really hoping it would lead to something. Our second didn't go well though and she told me she didn't like me, I'm really worried that I'll never find someone like her again as girls like her are really hard to find, and I don't think confident and outgoing girls will like me. I am friendly when I talk to girls and always try and make them laugh but it never leads to anything, don't know what to doooo

[Anonymous]

Anyone?

[chronic_fatigue]

You should try to work on being more comfortable around people before thinking about girl friends. You have plenty of time for dating so don't worry too much.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by chronic_fatigue)
You should try to work on being more comfortable around people before thinking about girl friends. You have plenty of time for dating so don't worry too much.

I can't make friends easily though. I'm not sure why, I'm always friendly, I just don't click with a lot of people.

I would like to meet someone soon though, I don't want to leave it until I'm in my mid-20s.

Plus I would like to meet someone while I'm still at uni, it's much harder to make friends once you start work.

[hollyhollywood92]

You just need to socialize more and build your confidence so you're less socially awkward. You need to get to know girls before they become interested in you.

[hollyhollywood92]

No one really sets out with the soul purpose of finding a girlfriend and finds one. That's not how it works, you need to meet people and make friends you will meet girls and soon you'll find one that you like.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by hollyhollywood92)
You just need to socialize more and build your confidence so you're less socially awkward. You need to get to know girls before they become interested in you.

(Original post by hollyhollywood92)
No one really sets out with the soul purpose of finding a girlfriend and finds one. That's not how it works, you need to meet people and make friends you will meet girls and soon you'll find one that you like.

I suppose this is sort of true. I do try hard to make friends though and I still don't have much of a friendship group really. The people that I do know, that I live at uni with, are never really going to be my friends, we are just not close.

So I don't know what else to do, I try my best to meet people and I would really like a girlfriend, I just find it hard to meet girls that will like me and it's even harder when I don't really have many people that will introduce me to new girls.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I suppose this is sort of true. I do try hard to make friends though and I still don't have much of a friendship group really. The people that I do know, that I live at uni with, are never really going to be my friends, we are just not close.

So I don't know what else to do, I try my best to meet people and I would really like a girlfriend, I just find it hard to meet girls that will like me and it's even harder when I don't really have many people that will introduce me to new girls.

Whereabouts are you from? I'll be your wingman

[pixelfrag]

(Original post by hollyhollywood92)
No one really sets out with the soul purpose of finding a girlfriend and finds one.

You think that and it sounds completely reasonable and right but the number of people I've overheard saying 'go to place ____ to find a girlfriend' to their mates is incredibly huge you know. Just completely defeats the magic of a relationship jheez.

OP, just be confident, be yourself and don't be clingy to any female friends and it'll just come to you (:

[hollyhollywood92]

(Original post by pixelfrag)
You think that and it sounds completely reasonable and right but the number of people I've overheard saying 'go to place ____ to find a girlfriend' to their mates is incredibly huge you know.

Really?! I never even knew this! Everyone I know seems to find boyfriends and girlfriends on nights out in clubs and bars, or just meet them through friends at uni.

[pixelfrag]

(Original post by hollyhollywood92)
Really?! I never even knew this! Everyone I know seems to find boyfriends and girlfriends on nights out in clubs and bars, or just meet them through friends at uni.

And i'm sure some of them have gone to those bars and clubs just to find potential girlfriends lol. It's silly and stupid but it's the truth

[Lucia.]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I would really like a certain type of girl, one who is shy, innocent, quiet and naive, I would also like a girl that is quite cheeky and flirty

Sounds like two different girls.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Lucia.)
Sounds like two different girls.

Not necessarily, I would say that I am quite shy and awkward but I do like to act in quite a flirtatious way on the dates I've been on.

I did also say in my OP that whilst I would like a girl who is cheeky and flirty, I don't think those girls would go for me. As a shy, awkward guy I wouldn't be their type.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Not necessarily, I would say that I am quite shy and awkward but I do like to act in quite a flirtatious way on the dates I've been on.

I did also say in my OP that whilst I would like a girl who is cheeky and flirty, I don't think those girls would go for me. As a shy, awkward guy I wouldn't be their type.

Im literally everything you've described I'm cheeky and flirty but I'm also quite shy when it comes to guys i like. But if i had a type its defo shy and awkward and theres no way I'm the only girl who finds that attractive!

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Im literally everything you've described I'm cheeky and flirty but I'm also quite shy when it comes to guys i like. But if i had a type its defo shy and awkward and theres no way I'm the only girl who finds that attractive!

Then lets be friends. I'll set you up with one of my shy friends...or maybe even myself if you're lucky Kinda serious here

[Flyingaround]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Okay so I am in my second year of uni, I have never been in a serious relationship, and girls rarely show an interest in me. I would really like a certain type of girl, one who is shy, innocent, quiet and naive, I would also like a girl that is quite cheeky and flirty but at the same time girls like that are probably able to find guys better than me, as I am also quite shy and have trouble making friends as I am a bit socially awkward.

I had a date with a girl who was pretty much like the sort of girl I described. Our first date was amazing and I was really hoping it would lead to something. Our second didn't go well though and she told me she didn't like me, I'm really worried that I'll never find someone like her again as girls like her are really hard to find, and I don't think confident and outgoing girls will like me. I am friendly when I talk to girls and always try and make them laugh but it never leads to anything, don't know what to doooo

Everything you've said here, is exactly my problem too.
I don't understand what it is. I feel like girls go after big muscly guys.
I try going up to strangers and talking to them either at the train station or any public place but they hardly want to talk.

I don't know anywhere I can meet girls, I don't go to clubs/bars/pubs. I just go plane spotting at the airport and sometimes do filming and photography where i have to pay, and that's pretty much the only company for me.
If I get a job, it's usually the same, i try and talk to them, they've usually got their own friends.
It seems easier for me to talk to people from other countries but that doesn't help.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Im literally everything you've described I'm cheeky and flirty but I'm also quite shy when it comes to guys i like. But if i had a type its defo shy and awkward and theres no way I'm the only girl who finds that attractive!

Aww that's very sweet
If you come out of anon I'll send you a PM, we can chat

[jessie t]

I'm in my third year of Uni and guys have never shown interest in me haha. Could be because the girl:boy ratio is like 70:30 though, and the fact that I have no interest in the guys either.

Just out of curiosity what are you studying at Uni?