[Anonymous]

I have two friends and starting to question whether or not I want to stay friends with them.
I feel like I do a lot for these people, friend 1, I have stayed up till all hours of the morning talking to her about her problems, been there for her and been very nice to she tells me I do and say things which really annoy her, sometimes she barely talks to me but does when she feels like it but has been a lot better than friend 2.
Friend 2 I have lent money, spent hours helping her with things, looked after when ill yet some time I feel like she treats me like crap. She doesn't help me when i'm sad but instead bitches about me calling me miserable, can't be bothered to give proper advice, puts me down etc. I don't know how much more I can take of this I'm often told i'm very nice and sweet so are they taking advantage of this because its just my nature.

[PinkMobilePhone]

They both sound rubbish. Get better friends.

[PinkMobilePhone]

(Original post by cleverslacker)
You shouldn't be calling them "Friend" 1 and 2, they sound, at best, acquaintances.



^What she said

But only if that's a possibility. I'm sorta having to settle for friends that aren't really pleasant (but not as bad as yours), because if I did this, I would be friendless.

It's better to be friendless than it is to be hanging around with people you don't like, surely? At least you can enjoy your own company.

[Mignonne]

good on you for being there for them it's probably worth finding other close friends to have as well, I'm not saying definitely ditch your current ones, but everyone needs someone they can turn to as well as helping others.

Maybe if you had a discussion with them about how you feel they might change (sometimes people are a bit dismissive of others' feelings without realising and just need a wake up call) but I can understand you might feel that would be awkward/ wouldn't make a difference and I may be a bit optimistic lol
Hope things improve

[saim101]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I have two friends and starting to question whether or not I want to stay friends with them.
I feel like I do a lot for these people, friend 1, I have stayed up till all hours of the morning talking to her about her problems, been there for her and been very nice to she tells me I do and say things which really annoy her, sometimes she barely talks to me but does when she feels like it but has been a lot better than friend 2.
Friend 2 I have lent money, spent hours helping her with things, looked after when ill yet some time I feel like she treats me like crap. She doesn't help me when i'm sad but instead bitches about me calling me miserable, can't be bothered to give proper advice, puts me down etc. I don't know how much more I can take of this I'm often told i'm very nice and sweet so are they taking advantage of this because its just my nature.

You seem like a genuinely nice person and i personally think you deserver better friends then those 2 lame people.
You have to tell them how you feel but if you are scared of confrontation i'd recommend that you just ignore them, on the money front DEMAND it back but if you can't be asked (Like me) leave it.

On an unrelated note, i just defragged my computer and it only took me 1 week (I've had this computer for 3 years).
THIS IS A GREAT ACCOMPLISHMENT NO MATTER WHAT PEOPLE THINK!