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New experience...If you wouldn't mind, to take the time to read the following, and tell me what you think, just your opinion on the interaction and any sub-text included therein, that I may have missed, as I am a bit of a lemon socially tbh.
I was going to a rehearsal, what of I'm not allowed to say, and was late, anyway, I got to the bus stop for the shuttle bus that'd take us to the venue, there was quite a few people there, I joined the loudest group, which happened to include a rather attractive girl, we all got chatting, once we arrived, I got my number bib(there were 1000 of us) and she was just behind me(we hadn't talked on the bus) she came up to me and started chatting again, we sat together for the briefing, and talked some more, now throughout the 4 hour rehearsal, we didn't see each other again, but on the way back, I saw her on the tube, talking to another girl, and said hi, joining the conversation, I had taken off my badge so the other girl who was also at the rehearsal earlier did not know that I was there too, and thought I was a stranger lol, she asked a question to clarify this, and we confirmed it, and all exchanged, names, hadn't thought to do so earlier oddly, and then the new girl immediately takes her phone out, types 07, and asks me for my number, to 'keep in contact' which I found odd as she has spent all 4 hours with and talking to the first girl yet didn't ask her, and the first girl actually then said, "But why? Why a number? I mean we'll see each other again anyway, there are other rehearsals!" I didn't take any action regarding this and just gave her my number.
That's the situation. Now I would've asked the first girl for a number, because we got on quite well, and I liked the way she looked, but the remark about not needing to exchange numbers, the fact she lives in stockport(I live in London), oh and the fact she dropped she has a bf detered me somewhat lol. Now, I've gone to a boys school for the last 7 years, and never really got out much, so as far as interaction with the opposite sex goes I'm a bit of a noob. And I have never asked a girl for her number before, let alone been asked, especially not such a short amount of time being acquainted with. So I'm a bit generally confused tbh. She has done nothing with the knowledge of my number thus far though, which I'm not sure if I should be confused about lol, other than text me immediately with her name so I could add her too presumably. Now I would appreciate your takes on this, and any help/advice. Now I do understand that inter-gender interaction can be on a purely platonic level, I'm not that shallow to always think otherwise, but frankly, the fact that it is inter-gender communication does raise that possibility, to what extent, for reasons I have already explained, I have no clue at all...
If you've bothered to read the lot, cheers! I'd appreciate any helpful commentary
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Re: New experience...Mate, to be honest. I think girls see number exchanging differently these days, I see it as practically givin my effin adress and bank details away lol, but thats me-i'm a bit old fashioned
. But for some reason with all this communication and what not, asking someone for their number seems common place these days. The other chick just sounds a bit overly-friendly. As for the original chick, if she's got a bf... Shes got a bf man, just keep sayin hello when you see her about
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Re: New experience...(Original post by TimKisFreitas)
If you wouldn't mind, to take the time to read the following, and tell me what you think, just your opinion on the interaction and any sub-text included therein, that I may have missed, as I am a bit of a lemon socially tbh.
I was going to a rehearsal, what of I'm not allowed to say, and was late, anyway, I got to the bus stop for the shuttle bus that'd take us to the venue, there was quite a few people there, I joined the loudest group, which happened to include a rather attractive girl, we all got chatting, once we arrived, I got my number bib(there were 1000 of us) and she was just behind me(we hadn't talked on the bus) she came up to me and started chatting again, we sat together for the briefing, and talked some more, now throughout the 4 hour rehearsal, we didn't see each other again, but on the way back, I saw her on the tube, talking to another girl, and said hi, joining the conversation, I had taken off my badge so the other girl who was also at the rehearsal earlier did not know that I was there too, and thought I was a stranger lol, she asked a question to clarify this, and we confirmed it, and all exchanged, names, hadn't thought to do so earlier oddly, and then the new girl immediately takes her phone out, types 07, and asks me for my number, to 'keep in contact' which I found odd as she has spent all 4 hours with and talking to the first girl yet didn't ask her, and the first girl actually then said, "But why? Why a number? I mean we'll see each other again anyway, there are other rehearsals!" I didn't take any action regarding this and just gave her my number.
That's the situation. Now I would've asked the first girl for a number, because we got on quite well, and I liked the way she looked, but the remark about not needing to exchange numbers, the fact she lives in stockport(I live in London), oh and the fact she dropped she has a bf detered me somewhat lol. Now, I've gone to a boys school for the last 7 years, and never really got out much, so as far as interaction with the opposite sex goes I'm a bit of a noob. And I have never asked a girl for her number before, let alone been asked, especially not such a short amount of time being acquainted with. So I'm a bit generally confused tbh. She has done nothing with the knowledge of my number thus far though, which I'm not sure if I should be confused about lol, other than text me immediately with her name so I could add her too presumably. Now I would appreciate your takes on this, and any help/advice. Now I do understand that inter-gender interaction can be on a purely platonic level, I'm not that shallow to always think otherwise, but frankly, the fact that it is inter-gender communication does raise that possibility, to what extent, for reasons I have already explained, I have no clue at all...
If you've bothered to read the lot, cheers! I'd appreciate any helpful commentary
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Oh, erm, well I'm not sure I can't... I think I may be able to say THAT I'm doing it, just not what it involves... Olympics opening and closing ceremonies... I'm a volunteer performer as are they...(Original post by amyshamblesxx)
Why can't you say?
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Re: New experience...To be honest, it sounds like the girl who took your number might be interested in you. It could be on a friendship level but I think it's possible she thought you were potentially a nice guy she'd wanna see more of, so she took your number just in case. Try texting her something along the lines of 'Hey, you took my number then haven't texted me. I hope you're not signing me up to receive sexy messages from 09 numbers!' or something equally jokey.
I imagine the first girl felt like she was being left out because you and the other girl would 'keep in touch' by phone, but she didn't wanna give you her phone number because she has a boyfriend and didn't wanna give out the wrong message. Plus it would be weird if after all that time she decided to give you her number just because the other girl had suddenly done it. I could be completely wrong, but it seems plausible to me. -
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Well, thanks a lot, that's really rather helpful! I was thinking something along those lines, but was curious to whether or not it was a biased view based on what I would LIKE it to be... No offence, very helpful, but I'll be even happier once a girl decides to have an opinion on this, we're making educated guesses, I imagine a girl would better understand what was going on...(Original post by RichyFrench)
To be honest, it sounds like the girl who took your number might be interested in you. It could be on a friendship level but I think it's possible she thought you were potentially a nice guy she'd wanna see more of, so she took your number just in case. Try texting her something along the lines of 'Hey, you took my number then haven't texted me. I hope you're not signing me up to receive sexy messages from 09 numbers!' or something equally jokey.
I imagine the first girl felt like she was being left out because you and the other girl would 'keep in touch' by phone, but she didn't wanna give you her phone number because she has a boyfriend and didn't wanna give out the wrong message. Plus it would be weird if after all that time she decided to give you her number just because the other girl had suddenly done it. I could be completely wrong, but it seems plausible to me.
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Re: New experience...Hello, girl here
to be honest its hard to tell from only meeting her once...personally just if I took a guys number wouldn't necessarily mean I'm into him but it wouldn't mean I'm not either. Maybe next rehearsal you have make the first move and go and speak to her and see how she reacts. The girl with the boyfriend is taken and it wouldn't be wise to go after her (not that you necessarily would, but just saying...) If it turns out to be platonic with the other girl at least you've made a friend out of it. PS. I'm SUPER JEALOUS of you volunteering at the Olympics!
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Re: New experience...Join the club.(Original post by TimKisFreitas)
as far as interaction with the opposite sex goes I'm a bit of a noob
She likes you btw, maybe not sexually but definitely likes you. -
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Well, I, confused about her not contacting me, contacted her, had a nice chat, asked if she'd like to go for a drink, she said yes, and we will do so after the next rehearsal... I do slightly hope, a, she's not on here, b, she doesn't see this, but, oh well for either lol, I may or may not post how that goes, but thanks for all the help!
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. But for some reason with all this communication and what not, asking someone for their number seems common place these days. The other chick just sounds a bit overly-friendly. As for the original chick, if she's got a bf... Shes got a bf man, just keep sayin hello when you see her about 
