[Anonymous]

I've been really good friends with this guy since high school, we kissed once but agreed it wasn't a good idea to get together. Since being at uni we've kept in touch and recently been texting a lot. We go to different unis so we only see each other when uni is over. There was always a bit of flirting and last night he wanted to 'figure out whats going on with us'. We didn't really decide anything, he wants to 'give it a go' but we both have reservations. The thing is he has a great personality but I'm not sure if I actually fancy him. I've only ever had one bf which ended badly and have been enjoying single life since. However I do get lonely sometimes and thats when I enjoy talking to him. I hope I'm not just using him and leading him on.
Has anyone ever date someone they really liked but didn't fancy? How do you decide? Just any advice in general would be great

[Michaelj]

Just tell him the truth.

[subjectman10]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I've been really good friends with this guy since high school, we kissed once but agreed it wasn't a good idea to get together. Since being at uni we've kept in touch and recently been texting a lot. We go to different unis so we only see each other when uni is over. There was always a bit of flirting and last night he wanted to 'figure out whats going on with us'. We didn't really decide anything, he wants to 'give it a go' but we both have reservations. The thing is he has a great personality but I'm not sure if I actually fancy him. I've only ever had one bf which ended badly and have been enjoying single life since. However I do get lonely sometimes and thats when I enjoy talking to him. I hope I'm not just using him and leading him on.
Has anyone ever date someone they really liked but didn't fancy? How do you decide? Just any advice in general would be great

Go with your gut instinct and tell him, I'm sure he'll accept your choice.

[sophisticated]

I think you answered your own question. You only enjoy talking to him when you're lonely. You are using him and leading him on.

Grow a backbone.


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