Was her status aimed at me?
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Was her status aimed at me?I know I may be being extremely paranoid here but I just want some outside views.
I haven't been in contact with this girl since uni finished about ten days ago. We would text each other A LOT, most of which was her initiation, but now we don't - we haven't spoken for about two weeks. We used to be awkward around each other in person; but over text quite flirty and teasing each other.
Anyway yesterday I updated my BBM status (first time in months). About an hour later I see she did the same, putting a comment and then a couple of sad faces. As with me, she hardly ever updates her status. It may be pure coincidence but it just surprising that she did immediately after me.
Do you think it has anything to do with me? I feel so childish asking lol. And would it be strange if I were to ask why she's sad even though we haven't spoken for almost two weeks. -
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But don't you think that would be asking at a time when she may be upset for reasons other than me?(Original post by ELs123)
Now would be a good time to get talking. Just ask her why she is sad since it is in her BBM status.
And surely if she wanted to contact me, she would have. -
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Re: Was her status aimed at me?If she's upset and she's your friend then surely you want to contact her and make sure she's ok...?But don't you think that would be asking at a time when she may be upset for reasons other than me?
Yeah, you're dealing with female psychology here, assume nothing.And surely if she wanted to contact me, she would have.Last edited by Josh93; 10-06-2012 at 14:32. -
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Re: Was her status aimed at me?As you said it is mostly by her initiation, maybe she is upset and she wanted you to ask her rather than her tell you. She might feel like she is pestering you by always texting first. There are a multitude of reasons why she hasn't contacted you already.
Send her a text, ask her what is the matter and if there is anything you can do to help, it will most likely resolve your questions. -
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Re: Was her status aimed at me?You can still be there as a friend to see if she is ok(Original post by Mr Advice)
But don't you think that would be asking at a time when she may be upset for reasons other than me?
And surely if she wanted to contact me, she would have.
Perhaps she wanted to give you room to start something first as you said it was always her initiating everything -
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Re: Was her status aimed at me?Well its not like you can become psychic and find out.(Original post by Mr Advice)
But she probably doesn't wanna hear from me.
Either ask her and know
Or dont ask and speculate.
She is the one holding the golden ticket to her status, not us. -
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Re: Was her status aimed at me?Why do you always expect her to initiate a convo? Maybe it was about you...maybe she's fed up of not getting anything back from you when she gives and gives. Girls like attention (the good kind)...it makes us feel noticed and important.. Text her.
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I don't expect her to; I also do at times. But it's just that with there being no reason to text I'm wondering whether she'd want to hear from me.(Original post by missderrie)
Why do you always expect her to initiate a convo? Maybe it was about you...maybe she's fed up of not getting anything back from you when she gives and gives. Girls like attention (the good kind)...it makes us feel noticed and important.. Text her. -
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Yeah, it's just the way I am. I don't wanna bug the girl when I'm probably no longer in her thoughts.(Original post by RubyShoes)
Well its not like you can become psychic and find out.
Either ask her and know
Or dont ask and speculate.
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Re: Was her status aimed at me?Youre asking her a question, not 'bugging' her.(Original post by Mr Advice)
Yeah, it's just the way I am. I don't wanna bug the girl when I'm probably no longer in her thoughts. -
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You really think?(Original post by Rosalind)
yes it was and you should confront her publicly.
