Why does my friend act shy/nervous around girls when he has "so much" experience?

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  1. Alevelsareboring's Avatar
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    Why does my friend act shy/nervous around girls when he has "so much" experience?
    So me and my friend are both 18 and were going to the libary to study for an exam that was coming up. We walked in and to the side of us were two girls, one of them shouted out "Hey, beautiful" and when i looked behind at them they were both face down giggling. I just kind of laughed it off and smiled and walked on, we sat directly across from them but we were quiet a distance from them as the library is massive.

    Throughout the whole time whenever i'd glance over one of them would start waving at me, the girl kept trying to get my attention, it wasn't one of those things where we might know each other, i guess she was trying to say hello or something.

    Anyway me and my friend have a little laugh about it and carry on working until we see them coming over, immediately his face went all red and he was all nervous and trying to get away by saying he needed to go toilet. At the end of the day the girl was kinda following me around apparently when i wasn't looking to get my attention. She was kinda pretty and it was kinda funny so i was going to go up to them, but there was 3 of them so i asked him to be my "wingman", so he could occupy the other two girls while i spoke to the one that was interested. Immediately he said no which i expected because of how nervous he got before. I was like c'mon man but he refused he seemed kinda shy to go up to them.

    The reason why i'm asking this is because he seems to have alot of experience with girls according to his stories so it's kinda weird. The other day he was telling me about a girl grinding up on him and being all over him at a house party, the other time it was his friend who was doing similar things to him. He has a girlfriend right now who i've never met or seen but we don't usually double date or anything so that's not that strange. But i dunno it's kinda weird this isn't the first time, it happens alot. Like one time he was begging me to follow him to cinema to check out cinema times before we went to a friends. When we got there, there was like 30 girls in there, all part of a youth group or something and immediately he changed him mind and said lets not go in, i said it's just there and we walked all the way here and he just wouldn't go in. I dunno opinions.
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    Re: Why does my friend act shy/nervous around girls when he has "so much" experience?
    Approaching people is different from being experienced in terms of having met someone already and getting to know them. He may be experience but only met the girls accidently, via mutual friends for example, thus didn't have to do any initiation without prior contact.
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    Re: Why does my friend act shy/nervous around girls when he has "so much" experience?
    he's in love with you
  4. Alevelsareboring's Avatar
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    Re: Why does my friend act shy/nervous around girls when he has "so much" experience?
    (Original post by nicatre)
    Approaching people is different from being experienced in terms of having met someone already and getting to know them. He may be experience but only met the girls accidently, via mutual friends for example, thus didn't have to do any initiation without prior contact.
    True i hear that, but the girl that was grinding up on him in the house party he recently went to was not a mutual friend. He told me that she was just a girl whom he met at the party and none of his friends no her so i dunno. I don't think he's lying at all i think maybe he might just not like the whole walking up to strangers and having speak to them. But then again he k does tell me about stories occasionally of how me met this girl and got her number etc.
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    Re: Why does my friend act shy/nervous around girls when he has "so much" experience?
    He probably doesnt have as much experience as he says/if any. Even though you an him are friends we all lie occasionally/exxagerate in the heat of a moment or story.
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    Re: Why does my friend act shy/nervous around girls when he has "so much" experience?
    He's gassing.
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    Re: Why does my friend act shy/nervous around girls when he has "so much" experience?
    lies are a terrible thing...
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    Re: Why does my friend act shy/nervous around girls when he has "so much" experience?
    Sounds like jay from inbetweeners
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    Re: Why does my friend act shy/nervous around girls when he has "so much" experience?
    1) He's either a strident homosexual.

    2) He's either a strident homosexual.

    3) He's either lying to you.

    4) He's either a strident homosexual.

    5) His existence is perhaps due to quantum fluctuations causing ripples in the space-time continuum. Thus, his existence is momentary. Each time you meet him, he's not really there, but you imagine him to be.

    6) He's either a strident homosexual.
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    Re: Why does my friend act shy/nervous around girls when he has "so much" experience?
    Perhaps he wants to stay utterly truthful to his girlfriend? :P. And chatting up two birds while your mate tries to get a bit of ass isn't being faithful.
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    Re: Why does my friend act shy/nervous around girls when he has "so much" experience?
    sounds like Jay from the inbetweeners mate
    Last edited by amirlad; 15-06-2012 at 00:13. Reason: beat to it by Tashazzz haha
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    Re: Why does my friend act shy/nervous around girls when he has "so much" experience?
    He may be bull****ting with his storys or they might have happened after he had a drink. He may not be as good with the girls sober.
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    Re: Why does my friend act shy/nervous around girls when he has "so much" experience?
    Sounds gay.
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    Re: Why does my friend act shy/nervous around girls when he has "so much" experience?
    (Original post by hassi94)
    Sounds gay.
    how can someone sound gay?
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    Re: Why does my friend act shy/nervous around girls when he has "so much" experience?
    For some reason I'm picturing Jay from The Inbetweeners.
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    Re: Why does my friend act shy/nervous around girls when he has "so much" experience?
    He must be whipped TALK TO ANOTHER GIRL AND I'LL KILL YOU! DON'T EVEN LOOK AT ONE!
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    Re: Why does my friend act shy/nervous around girls when he has "so much" experience?
    People who actually have experience don't tend to brag about it
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    Re: Why does my friend act shy/nervous around girls when he has "so much" experience?
    (Original post by Sternumator)
    He may be bull****ting with his storys or they might have happened after he had a drink. He may not be as good with the girls sober.
    Yeah I agree. Some people are nervous until they have a drink, so maybe when he's a little drunk he'll be the ladies man that he's making himself out to be.
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    Re: Why does my friend act shy/nervous around girls when he has "so much" experience?
    (Original post by Just Another Girly)
    how can someone sound gay?
    Okay, appears gay. No point just arguing for the sake of it. I meant 'It sounds like he's gay.'
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    Re: Why does my friend act shy/nervous around girls when he has "so much" experience?
    (Original post by hassi94)
    Okay, appears gay. No point just arguing for the sake of it. I meant 'It sounds like he's gay.'
    yup!
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