(Original post by Anonymous)
OK, this is a complicated story that I'm going to try and write in as short a way as possible.
I dated this guy, Joe, when I was 18/19 (can't remember). It was only for a few months, nothing particularly serious. The break up was a verbally mean, on his end.
Almost 2 years down the line, he emails me and wants to meet up to explain the break up and apologise. He tells me that he broke up with me because a crazy girl in Australia, who has an obsession with him, threatened to kill me. He told me that his family and mother knew and they had contacted the police and now the girl was in a mental institution.
I didn't believe him but didn't want to argue.
Anyway, a few weeks went by and we met up some more. We flirted a little, kissed a little. He wanted to be f*ck buddies but I said no (didn't trust him to be honest).
So anyway, Joe is invited a long as a guest to a friend's meet. He then starts acting suspicious (don't really know how to describe it, but it was odd for him), and he was short-tempered.
And come to think of it, since the moment we met up for his apology he had been short-tempered.
A few days went by and he then decided to text me saying I was an "experiment for me and the love of my life", "if only you knew what plans I had in store", "you deserved what you got" (referring to a rape at 11), "I will cut you and Chris" (a friend of ours), and various texts like that. He was texting all ours everyday, day and night.
I didn't antagonize him at all, but I told him to stop and he didn't. In the end, I had to threaten police action in order for him stop. He did stop, thankfully!
It did damage me for a long time after. I felt nervous at night, thinking he might turn up at any moment. I became a recluse for a while.
My friend lost Joe as a best friend because of the whole thing. Was a really messy period that occurred about a year ago.
So anyway, I've always felt that his mother (who is a SAINT and so sweet and lovely and amazing) should know of Joe's actions. Joe will be 23 now I think and he still lives with her as far as I'm aware.
I came across an old address book where clearing out my room today - I saw his address. I have written a letter explaining all of this, but in more detail.
Although I want her to know, I don't know if she'll believe me. And, most importantly, whether I should even send it.
I think she has a right to know, and should know. And I've said in the letter "...please know that I am not trying to get revenge on Joe or anything of the sort. I no longer have negative, nor positive, feelings about him. I do, however, have serious concerns over his mental state and Chris agrees.
and towards the end of the letter... "So, I hope that you do not think ill of me, and I only hope that I have done the right thing in telling you....
So what is everyone's opinion on this? I really am at a lost of what would be best.
I hope I've written this clearly. Sorry if it is a little confusing!