Talking about your love life in the workplace?
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Talking about your love life in the workplace?I've just started a new job and have been single for about 2 months. I've been dating recently and happened to mention a guy to my colleague - since then she's been asking me loads of questions about my love life, quite loudly and in front of my bosses. I'm quite a private person and this is my first real job, so I was wondering what the general etiquette is on talking about your personal life in the workplace? I want to keep my personal life completely private - but at the same time I don't want people to think I'm weird if it seems I never go on any dates!
I also don't want to seem stand-offish if I never share anything about my life - but I'm also very aware that these are my colleagues, not my friends. -
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Re: Talking about your love life in the workplace?It's not really professional to talk about your love life in the work place. It's only acceptable if you are genuinely friends with your colleague or colleagues and even then you'd do it with some subtlety.
If you don't know this woman very well she's bang out of order. It is a difficult situation for you, you don't want to be rude and fall out with a colleague but her behaviour can't continue.
Maybe next time she does it just be polite but firm. "I'd rather not talk about this kind of thing in the office, there are people I don't know very well who could over hear. We can talk about it when we have more privacy".
And leave it at that. This doesn't completely ban her ever from talking about it so it's not a complete brush off. -
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Re: Talking about your love life in the workplace?OP I'm the only single person on our floor and I don't feel the need to discuss my private life in order to keep up appearances. I don't care what people think of me, I actually would rather not discuss my private life with work colleagues, even if I was involved in a relationship.
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Re: Talking about your love life in the workplace?well said lucia(Original post by Lucia.)
Exactly what the poster above said. Be firm and set your boundaries, then she'll stop bothering you.
Your love life is only public property if you make it that way.
Relationships last longer when nobody knows your business! keep your business to yourself, so i suggest you tell that person "hey look, i would really appreciate it if you stay out of my personal life..thank you" - no funny business. Stand your ground firm! protect your right!Last edited by Wild Horses; 15-06-2012 at 23:34.
