Men who go to see escorts

What's the general opinion on men who go to see escorts?

Are these men generally seen as inadequate? After all, they're paying for some, which suggests that they would go without otherwise.

I've been toying with the idea of paying for a high class escort (£100+/hour) because it's the only scenario wherein I'd be able to **** a girl as hot as that.

I know the conventional wisdom. That I should work on my social skills and personality and work on vibing and bonding with women in order to get a real girlfriend but tbh I can't really be bothered with all the psychological mind games and gambits of modern dating. Flirting and dating just doesn't seem all that fun anymore.

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Reply 1

nash_e

I think having sex with a high class escort would be fun. They're expensive, but look totally worth it. I would do it for the experience though. Me and my boyfriend have looked into it for a threesome and it would definitely be an experience! I'd say go for it. Who cares what people think and you might have a really great time :smile:

Reply 2

Darth Stewie

£100 quid an hour seems pretty cheap tbh, thought high class companions ran 4 figure rates?

either way it depends what you want, if you are just looking for sex without any of the relationship stuff then i don't see any problem with it and who is going to find out? if you want to keep it a secret then it is unlikely anyone else will know.

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Reply 3

dgeorge

Original post by Anonymous

I've never used an escort, but I know people who have. The issue here is "mental satisfaction". You won't be satisfied after having sex with a hooker. You'll only feel shame and revulsion for having done it. You won't feel better after having sex - sex is actually much more about the mental aspect (even for a man") than the physical one. Yes, work on your flirting and social aspect as opposed to spending money on an escort.

Reply 4

Pink Liquid

Original post by dgeorge

Agree with this post. I have colleagues who have gone down this route and to be frank, they tell me that they don't look at women in the same way as such. You sound like you're giving up. Life isn't that bad. Just give it time and the rest will fall into place. Sex also has the emotional aspect as well as the physical aspect. You don't want to hinder yourself feeling shame, inadequate, regret, degraded, which can harm your integrity as a person. There's somebody out there for everyone and you'll meet somebody suited to you. Don't give up on yourself.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

Original post by Pink Liquid

Is it really as serious as all that?

Reply 6

GdotL

I think it's terribly pathetic and guys who've done this should come with a ****ing sign on their foreheads.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

Original post by GdotL

I think it's terribly pathetic and guys who've done this should come with a ****ing sign on their foreheads.

Why is it that big of a deal?

Reply 8

Jakeh

Original post by GdotL

I think it's terribly pathetic and guys who've done this should come with a ****ing sign on their foreheads.

Would you say the same for guys that use sugardaddy websites?

(i havent/wont use said sites nor an escort) just wondering.

Reply 9

Ryan_94

Original post by dgeorge

This is so true (about the mental aspect).

Reply 10

GdotL

Original post by Anonymous

Why is it that big of a deal?

Original post by Jakeh

Would you say the same for guys that use sugardaddy websites?(i havent/wont use said sites nor an escort) just wondering.

Yes, pretty similar (slightly better as I assume there is some sort of relationship/care going on - maybe that's a naive assumption). However, I doubt I'll be getting involved with men in the 40+ range anytime soon so it's not a major issue for me at the moment!

Reply 11

Jakeh

Original post by GdotL

Perhaps I'm a little conservative but I would rather avoid the type of men that don't care about the women they sleep with. Or for whom sex is some primal need that must be satisfied at any cost rather than a fun activity with someone you really like. Yes, I know many men would feel the same as you do but I don't have a problem with ruling out many men (if taking them seriously).

Yes, pretty similar (slightly better as I assume there is some sort of relationship/care going on - maybe that's a naive assumption). However, I doubt I'll be getting involved with men in the 40+ range anytime soon so it's not a major issue for me at the moment!

I'd say its naive! But i've never met a girl to have done it yet? And besides whats wrong 40 y.os?

Reply 12

barnetbuzzzz

Original post by GdotL

Men see escorts for other reasons than just "needing sex".
I've slept with 4 escorts and am now in a happy relationship. And as long as I'm in a relationship I certainly won't be sleeping with anyone else.

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

I've been reading reviews of certain escorts and I'm starting to get put-off. The men in all the reviews really gay it up.

Reply 14

barnetbuzzzz

Original post by Pink Liquid

You don't want to hinder yourself feeling shame, inadequate, regret, degraded, which can harm your integrity as a person.

I certainly never felt this way after I had slept with a 10/10 stunner who was miraculous in bed.

OP, if you cannot see yourself finding anyone anytime soon, make use of the internet to find a suitable girl. Better to get it out of the way with an escort than to clam up with nerves if you tried losing your virginity to an everyday girl.

PM me if you want advice.

Reply 15

im so fresh

Original post by GdotL

I think it's terribly pathetic and guys who've done this should come with a ****ing sign on their foreheads.

What about the women who choose to do this?

Reply 16

Mr Dangermouse

It's kind of like winning the Olympics whilst on steroids to be honest. I can't rule out the route because I'm 17 and a virgin but it would be a last resort. I know a guys who has and he's the butt of many jokes.

Reply 17

Trottoir

Original post by im so fresh

What about the women who choose to do this?

i doubt any of them enjoy it..

Reply 18

barnetbuzzzz

Original post by Anonymous

I've been reading reviews of certain escorts and I'm starting to get put-off. The men in all the reviews really gay it up.

You been looking on Punternet? Some of the guys on there go into needless detail and it's really a cringe to read sometimes.

Like I said, PM me for advice. If you've never slept with an escort before you should do your research properly beforehand, especially if you're a virgin. You want your first time to be special.

Reply 19

Anonymous #1

Original post by barnetbuzzzz

I'm not a virgin though, lol. I probably could get laid but not with a perfect 10 like many of these girls are. And more important than that I cannot be arsed to put the effort into finding a girl.