[Anonymous]

I don't know what to do, but i'm 19 everytime i look in the mirror i see a beautiful young girl. But whenever i see myself on photos i want to die at the hideous sight. I have wrinkles under my eyes, my cheeks are chubby that it looks like my face is melting (like churchill) my eyes look tired (even when i get enough sleep ect) i have bad blemishes even with makeup, my hair looks flat. I look like an old woman/man/serial killer thing. I usually take photo's quite abit and think "Is that really what i look like in reality? when i see someone attractive in the mirror" I researched that people look usually what they look like on photo's rather than in the mirror, this has led me getting really depressed, as the image i see on photographs is truely grotesque and depressing. I've never really been called Pretty or beautiful, unless its family or someone trying to boost my confidence, or some drunk guy who just wants to get off with me. I never get called Pretty or Beautiful out of the blue, i always have to start a conversation about it, then they'll say it because they feel pity or just want to be nice. I feel paranoia in public, and think they are looking at me, thinking "god, she's ugly" and they are just too scared to tell me. I just want to look normal, not like a celebrity or anything, but i just wish that. I don't know If BDD can make me think this, or i do actually look like that? I really want to die if i do really look like that.

[Idle]

Hey, just bumping this as you haven't received any replies yet

[AFineMess]

I think everyone has feelings that they're ugly sometimes. But look, maybe you're just being overly self critical?
And besides, you mentioned that guys do try to hook up with you- obviously you're not HIDEOUS- guys have standards too! In any case, whats on the inside is more important than whats on the outside- confidence is key! And smile...everyone looks better in photos when they smile! If you're really worried about your hair and makeup, try experimenting with different styles. Sometimes too much makeup makes you look tired and older.

[Guybrush Sheepgood]

Hi, the angle the photo is taken and the lighting make such a difference to the photo. You are seeing yourself taken in a split second under possibly harsh lighting conditions. In real life you have a million different angles and expressions and the lighting will be better than under photo conditions a lot of the time, and the photo flattens the image and distorts the face making it fatter, particularly if it uses a wide angle lense (which most do) and is taken close to the face. I don't think you have BMD because lots of people feel like this and you say you look fine in the mirror. You say you never get called pretty or beautiful out of the blue, but why would anyone do that? Do you go around telling every pretty person you see that they are pretty? Also, blemishes and wrinkles under the eyes are incredibly common and I don't feel they detract from someone's beauty. I know a beautiful girl whose face is covered in blemishes and her eyes wrinkle hugely when she smiles.

[Monzystar]

your looking ugly because you think negative of yourself, think positive because you are who you are

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I don't know what to do, but i'm 19 everytime i look in the mirror i see a beautiful young girl. But whenever i see myself on photos i want to die at the hideous sight. I have wrinkles under my eyes, my cheeks are chubby that it looks like my face is melting (like churchill) my eyes look tired (even when i get enough sleep ect) i have bad blemishes even with makeup, my hair looks flat. I look like an old woman/man/serial killer thing. I usually take photo's quite abit and think "Is that really what i look like in reality? when i see someone attractive in the mirror" I researched that people look usually what they look like on photo's rather than in the mirror, this has led me getting really depressed, as the image i see on photographs is truely grotesque and depressing. I've never really been called Pretty or beautiful, unless its family or someone trying to boost my confidence, or some drunk guy who just wants to get off with me. I never get called Pretty or Beautiful out of the blue, i always have to start a conversation about it, then they'll say it because they feel pity or just want to be nice. I feel paranoia in public, and think they are looking at me, thinking "god, she's ugly" and they are just too scared to tell me. I just want to look normal, not like a celebrity or anything, but i just wish that. I don't know If BDD can make me think this, or i do actually look like that? I really want to die if i do really look like that.

Look I'm sure you're gorgeous because I feel the EXACT same way when I look at my photos and I'm like OMG I liked so good in the mirror though, but my boyfriend randomly tells me I'm beautiful and so do my friends
Pictures never actually capture your true beauty Don't depend on them

[BefuddledPenguin]

I know for a fact that I look hideous on all photos, but fine normally. Some people just aren't photogenic.

[hiding12]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I don't know what to do, but i'm 19 everytime i look in the mirror i see a beautiful young girl. But whenever i see myself on photos i want to die at the hideous sight. I have wrinkles under my eyes, my cheeks are chubby that it looks like my face is melting (like churchill) my eyes look tired (even when i get enough sleep ect) i have bad blemishes even with makeup, my hair looks flat. I look like an old woman/man/serial killer thing. I usually take photo's quite abit and think "Is that really what i look like in reality? when i see someone attractive in the mirror" I researched that people look usually what they look like on photo's rather than in the mirror, this has led me getting really depressed, as the image i see on photographs is truely grotesque and depressing. I've never really been called Pretty or beautiful, unless its family or someone trying to boost my confidence, or some drunk guy who just wants to get off with me. I never get called Pretty or Beautiful out of the blue, i always have to start a conversation about it, then they'll say it because they feel pity or just want to be nice. I feel paranoia in public, and think they are looking at me, thinking "god, she's ugly" and they are just too scared to tell me. I just want to look normal, not like a celebrity or anything, but i just wish that. I don't know If BDD can make me think this, or i do actually look like that? I really want to die if i do really look like that.

I know what you mean, I feel like I look quite handsome in the mirror and in photos I always look crap, yet one or two women have said Im 'handsome' or whatever but I still refuse to believe it. Anyway, Im very self critical but I am honestly not that attractive, whereas, a lot of women, even very pretty ones, think they're average, not attractive sometimes and I cant believe it

[Cherriesxo]

I feel 100% the same. When I look in the mirror I think I look 'average' but when I see myself in photos I think oh my goddd I look like a serial killer. I have really flat hair and dark circles under my eyes. I'm almost 19 too. I don't really know what else to say but pm me if you ever wanna chat.

[Pitt1988]

I think it's something to do with how you feel you are perceived by others. A photograph resembles how other people will see you, whereas a mirror you are more accustomed to seeing regularly and can be positive about. Photographs can be terrible when there is bad lighting etcetera!

I don't think its uncommon to be honest, I'm the same sometimes anyway.

[claireyfairey94]

I think I might have BDD. I hate the way I look. Sometimes I think I can look good, but like bottom standard of good compared to most people. I wouldn't step out of the house without makeup. I also hate my body shape, I think I am entirely shapeless, I have hip dips and a huge bum :\ I have really bad skin too, which I can't seem to do anything about! My diet is really good etc. I can't exercise much because i'm physically ill too so that puts me down more.

I'm in a relationship and obviously he finds me attractive but I don't feel like other people do when i'm out. Maybe I don't put out 'vibes' because i'm already taken..?!