[ORuss17]

Well,


Me and this girl started speaking, we spoke a bit more and yesterday I asked her if she wanted to go out for a meal sometime, nothing too full on, her reply was along the lines of yeah i would love too, i really would but she said we should get to know each other a bit more, however she is really bad at replying and even admitted to me, but anyway I totally agreed with her saying we should get to know each other a bit more. Before I went offline last night she said messaged me saying she was going sleep and that she wanted me to message her tomorrow.

Fast forward to today, I message her saying Hello which, facebook tells me she has seen, then I sent her a message about five minutes later to see if she had forgotten the next one and boom facebook tells me she has seen it but no reply? Whats the matter with her? Ive done nothing wrong.

Moving on I was scrolling down my news feed and it tells me that shes married to some other lad? To me thats the start of something.

Cheers

[Ryan_94]

Only message her once - if she's keen, she'll be wondering why you didn't message her and then realise that she actually missed the message you sent her. If she hasn't replied then either two things have happened:

1) She's busy or has missed both messages.
2) She's not into you and was being polite / didn't know what to say.

Being married to another lad may not mean anything, but on the other hand, if it didn't mean anything (friend/gay/etc) then I doubt she'd do it as it just sends the wrong signals and is confusing to everyone.

My tip? Don't message her again now, wait for her response - if you get one, just move on and assume the best, otherwise forget about it. If she does message you back and things move on then forget about the other guy until you get to know her better. There is a chance that she is flirting with loads of people and you're just one of them (and a few steps behind the other lad at best).

Good luck, let us know how you get on!

[MeGusta]

God, I hate that new Facebook feature so much

[ORuss17]

(Original post by MeGusta)
God, I hate that new Facebook feature so much

same here, but on the other hand its good as it tells you if people are ignoring you haha

[tallen90]

Jesus, it's Facebook!

You should already be aware that being "married" on Facebook means less than nothing, and you should also be aware that people sometimes can't be bothered replying to messages.

If the girl does like you, I promise you that you'll destroy any chance you might have with her if you fret over every single insignificant move she makes.

This was posted from The Student Room's Android App on my GT-I9100

[Lucia.]

Hm hard to tell with Facebook how real people are. Don't over-analyse.

She might have got the message when she wasn't near a computer to reply (on her phone or something), or for whatever reason, she wasn't able to reply. Sometimes Facebook chat says I'm online when I'm not anyway.

If she's flaking on you then that's that and you can move on. You don't know that for sure yet.

[Scatach]

It sounds like you've become a little too obsessed with her.

[ORuss17]

(Original post by Lucia.)
Hm hard to tell with Facebook how real people are. Don't over-analyse.

She might have got the message when she wasn't near a computer to reply (on her phone or something), or for whatever reason, she wasn't able to reply. Sometimes Facebook chat says I'm online when I'm not anyway.

If she's flaking on you then that's that and you can move on. You don't know that for sure yet.

yeah but the other nights she replies normally bar the odd message in which she takes a while to reply too, also she wanted of said what she said about going out?

[InnerTemple]

I agree with what the others have said. It is frustrating when people don't get back to you - I had a very similar experience not so long ago.

As an aside, I have found it best not to go for a meal as a first 'date'. It seems to open up a can of worms, such as:

1. You may not know each other too well, so there is pressure to create conversation with very little to work with whilst trying not to pour your bolognese down your shirt;
2. You may not know each other too well, so it may be hard to choose a place to eat... it always looks better if the person asking for a date can choose the venue and appear in control;
3. Some people don't like others watching them eat;
4. Some people have allergies which some restaurants do not cater for.

I'd suggest coffee/ drinks - however problem 1 still exists so a walk in a park or some sort of activity (bowling, museum etc) is good as there is something to talk about.

[Ryan_94]

(Original post by ORuss17)
same here, but on the other hand its good as it tells you if people are ignoring you haha

True, but again, it just means people can read things into it. I mean, you're gonna find out that you've been ignored in the end anyway, eh?

(Original post by tallen90)
Jesus, it's Facebook!

You should already be aware that being "married" on Facebook means less than nothing, and you should also be aware that people sometimes can't be bothered replying to messages.

If the girl does like you, I promise you that you'll destroy any chance you might have with her if you fret over every single insignificant move she makes.

This was posted from The Student Room's Android App on my GT-I9100

This is so true!

(Original post by InnerTemple)
I agree with what the others have said. It is frustrating when people don't get back to you - I had a very similar experience not so long ago.

As an aside, I have found it best not to go for a meal as a first 'date'. It seems to open up a can of worms, such as:

1. You may not know each other too well, so there is pressure to create conversation with very little to work with whilst trying not to pour your bolognese down your shirt;
2. You may not know each other too well, so it may be hard to choose a place to eat... it always looks better if the person asking for a date can choose the venue and appear in control;
3. Some people don't like others watching them eat;
4. Some people have allergies which some restaurants do not cater for.

I'd suggest coffee/ drinks - however problem 1 still exists so a walk in a park or some sort of activity (bowling, museum etc) is good as there is something to talk about.

I'm glad someone agrees with me about the restaurant thing - looks good on movies, awkward in real life. A walk round town and a coffee is much better.