[Onlyboyintheworld]

Hi I would really like some advice regarding my auntie. She is in her 60's is in good health , active and has a good social life. She just has one problem, she won't go to the supermarket. For the past year she has made her sister go every week for her, which is none of my business really it's up to her, but recently she has started asking me to get things for her aswell. As well as her sister going every week she texts me about twice a week asking for things from the supermakret and expects me to get them for her. I really dont know why she won;t go herself, she has a car and lives only a 10 minute drive away. I don't want to fall out as were really close, but i think its getting ridiculous, PLEASE HELP.

[Polly1101]

Maybe she has some sort of social phobia or eating anxiety? Does she otherwise leave the house?
This isn't the solution if she does have an anxiety problem, but she could always do her shopping online?
If it is more of a mental health issue then she should seek help. Its not fair to rely on someone. The odd favour is fine, but to constantly depend on someone and not seek help is not the way.

I hope she finds a solution/help.

[Lady_Fantabulous]

Could she do some internet shopping?

[Onlyboyintheworld]

(Original post by Polly1101)
Maybe she has some sort of social phobia or eating anxiety? Does she otherwise leave the house?
This isn't the solution if she does have an anxiety problem, but she could always do her shopping online?
If it is more of a mental health issue then she should seek help. Its not fair to rely on someone. The odd favour is fine, but to constantly depend on someone and not seek help is not the way.

I hope she finds a solution/help.

Thanks for reply. The wierd thing is she goes out everyday. She has a great social life and will go to all other types of shops but food shops. Do you think I should ask her about it ? I just feel its becoming too much of a habit as i am busy alot of the time, yet shes retired and still expects me to go shopping for her and bring it too her house after ive been to work or college all day whilst shes been doing nothing.

[Polly1101]

Maybe just say you would rather she managed to do it herself, and if she has a problem you will be happy to help her seek help (if you would).
Or if it seems more like laziness suggest she shops online, once you've done it a few times it is pretty easy as it saves your regular items you get every week like break, milk, veg etc.

[smd4std]

just ****ing do it and stop making a big deal out of it. all she's asking is for you to go to the market

[sandy.bhaker.]

(Original post by Onlyboyintheworld)
Hi I would really like some advice regarding my auntie. She is in her 60's is in good health , active and has a good social life. She just has one problem, she won't go to the supermarket. For the past year she has made her sister go every week for her, which is none of my business really it's up to her, but recently she has started asking me to get things for her aswell. As well as her sister going every week she texts me about twice a week asking for things from the supermakret and expects me to get them for her. I really dont know why she won;t go herself, she has a car and lives only a 10 minute drive away. I don't want to fall out as were really close, but i think its getting ridiculous, PLEASE HELP.

Hi, sounds like a strange situation to be in... But maybe she just wants the attention of someone doing her food shopping, or maybe she wishes to maintain a close relationship with you/ her sister by always depending on you both. If she's not been in ages that sounds rather worrying, how about if you ask your mum/ dad to ask her about it? She may have experienced something really unpleasant in a supermarket which has made her stop wanting to go

[the bear]

You could start texting her to get you things from other shops...she will soon get the message