(Original post by blondyx)
The guy I was dating for the past few months told me he liked me as more than a friend, told me I was attractive, used to say things like he smiled when he got a text from me and was looking forward to seeing me, we would talk everyday about stuff and he said I was his type etc. He said he never dates multiple people at a time and that I was the only girl he was seeing, he said I should meet his friends sometime and his friends knew about me. Seems all good..
Then he is off with me for a week or so and I ask him why, and after waiting a day or so for a reply he explains he see's me a really good friend and is worried because he hasn't 'emotionally bonded' yet and hes worried. He said he doesn't want to run away but doesn;t want it to be a problem later. He explaind he doesn't know why but he hasn't felt as connected to me over the past week or so. What i keep thinking about is that he referred to himself as a mug and said 'I don't know whats wrong with me' twice. I don't know whether he is trying to tell me he has problems or whether he is just trying to be nice or something.I don't really get it as from his previous actions and things he said I thought he was genuinly interested..
His track records of relationships aren't too good. He was with a girl for 7 months before entering a relationship with her, and then they were together 3 years but she dumped him for another guy. His next 2 relationships he said he rushed into and didn't know them well enough. Those 2 relationships only lasted a month or 2 and he said he thinks looking back he was with them for the sake for it and didn't really like them that much because they were both really weird people.
I can't get closure from him and its eating away at me wondering. Does it seem like he never liked me or cared about me enough to continue seeing me or does it seem like he has some weird emotional/commitment problem that makes him want to run away? A few of my friends say it sounds like he is just scared of commitment and thats why he discarded me but I don't know whether they are just trying to be nice.