[Schesher]

Ok, well for a long time now (At least 10yrs I believe). My Mum has been suffering from Depression.
But now I think its getting worse and its starting to interfear with my life. To the point where I feel like I have to think how she feels every day. I'm constantly worrying whether she is going to be in a bad mood. Whenever she is in a bad mood, she takes it out on me.
She thinks that no one cares about her, no one thinks about her and is always talking negatively about how hard her life is. But, she is also talking down to me too, saying dark and upsetting stuff, such as "You will never get anywhere" and forever calling me stupid and retarded. (I have dyslexia and dyspraxia).

Everyday, she just sits on Facebook playing games, the house is always a mess, she never goes out and then repeats the whole process again and again. Most days, I can't really do much because I'm stuck at University or at work, but always try to help as much as I can.

She did recently see a councillor, who then suggested many things that will help how she feel, such as trying out a part-time college course, voluntary work, etc. But she just won't do any of those things at all and makes loads of excuses. Theres an adult College down the Road and loads of voluntary and even paid jobs around the area. But she just won't try. I know I can't force her though, so I don't know what to do, so she can feel better.

She won't even talk to family and is always falling out with people. She gets very irritable all the time over small things. For example a Facebook game crashed, and she just literally went mad and starting shouting at me and slammed my Macbook pro on the floor. She just gets very irritable very easily, its gone to the point where I don't even dare talk to her or ask anything because I will always get a gobful.

[acecoffee]

well , people with depression could be quite irritable , she seem to be quite withdrawn from people as well which explain a lot and she shown a very low self esteem.

regardless how much you love her , you should not just accept if she is talking down to you . tell her you love her and you ,care for her , try to understand it in her position ,let her know she is not alone but in the same time stand your ground and make it clear that you would not take any abuse from her just because she is down/low . just because you love her doesnt mean you should accept everything she does .

you should advice yout mother to see a doctor ,esp because it has been a long term probelm /illness .it will be useful in many sense , your GP can provide professional health (regardless referral or medication ), a proper diagnosis will also allow your mother to claim benefits and other help . for example ,ESA work related group (which provide help on job seeking or other group to build up self confidence as well as finincal helps)

try to plan something for your mother even if she dont feel like doing so ,it could be potentially more beneficial then you ever expect. activity with other or time outside seems to be especially helpful .

good luck ,and take care .