[Anonymous]

hi all. i'm concerned about my flatmate for next year. just had our first year and early on agreed to share house with him and two others. got on great to start even though he seemed a little off, now i can't stand the guy. trying to find out whats wrong with him (possibly nothing) so itll be easier to understand him


-steals from friends, books, games stole over £100 of canteen money (we're in catered halls)
- literally goes too far too often - doesnt know when to stop doing something bad..
-condescending
-manic laughter
-insults black people, jews, etc quite often
-when stressed becomes wide eyed and once started hitting himself in the head
-when drunk becomes overly emotional ' i love you sooo much' kind of thing

he's been in trouble a few times and if it keeps up he'll get kicked out of uni, i dont see him too much ive made new friends but i should find out if he has a mental health problem or if he ws spoiled as a child or something.

anyone do psychology? help me out here?? thanks

[acecoffee]

i think majority of the symptomshown he have the tendancy to act impusively and often without much consideration of consequency .

people with problem controlling their impulse may be classed as having impuslve control disorder ,
and his behaviour remind me of certain mental illness such as personality disorder or behaviour addiction.

however , i am not a health care professional ,even if i am so , i do not have his history or his own thought regarding this and i could not make a proper judgement regarding this .like you say , he could have just been very (extremely ) spoiled. almost everyone could go too far sometime. my friends is also extremely emotional when he was drunk so you could even argue there's nothing 'abnormal' about his behaviour ,it could just simply be the way he bought up ....

. load of psychological health care professional disagree with each other even with the same information given .unlike physical health , A mental health diagnosis could be very subjective .

if you think his behaviour could be effecting his future ,it is a good idea to talk to him about it .

[Anonymous]

sounds like me...i have depression and it comes out by hiding it through being an a-hole. I regret all those things i did. It haunts me. Your friend needs help. He'll be condescending if you bring it up with him, but be as sincere as you can.

[A Cat]

(Original post by Anonymous)
hi all. i'm concerned about my flatmate for next year. just had our first year and early on agreed to share house with him and two others. got on great to start even though he seemed a little off, now i can't stand the guy. trying to find out whats wrong with him (possibly nothing) so itll be easier to understand him


-steals from friends, books, games stole over £100 of canteen money (we're in catered halls)
- literally goes too far too often - doesnt know when to stop doing something bad..
-condescending
-manic laughter
-insults black people, jews, etc quite often
-when stressed becomes wide eyed and once started hitting himself in the head
-when drunk becomes overly emotional ' i love you sooo much' kind of thing

he's been in trouble a few times and if it keeps up he'll get kicked out of uni, i dont see him too much ive made new friends but i should find out if he has a mental health problem or if he ws spoiled as a child or something.

anyone do psychology? help me out here?? thanks

he's probably a god damn psychopath... wide eyed, that's the mask coming off

[kristol90]

(Original post by Samrout)
he's probably a god damn psychopath... wide eyed, that's the mask coming off

Shut the **** up. The only psychological theory you know is psychopathy, you really should not try to 'diagnose' people.

OP, have you talked with your friend about these issues?

[A Cat]

(Original post by kristol90)
Shut the **** up. The only psychological theory you know is psychopathy, you really should not try to 'diagnose' people.

OP, have you talked with your friend about these issues?

how about we leave it up to the op to confirm.

[tehforum]

A lot by the sound of it.

[kristol90]

(Original post by Samrout)
how about we leave it up to the op to confirm.

Confirm??? How could OP confirm whether his friend is a psychopath or not? He doesn't even know what it means and neither do you.

[Steezy]

Not really your problem OP. Move out, move on.

[whyumadtho]

I don't understand why you still want to live with a racist, socially abnormal thief.

[A Cat]

(Original post by kristol90)
Confirm??? How could OP confirm whether his friend is a psychopath or not? He doesn't even know what it means and neither do you.

OP can google the word "psychopath", read up on the characteristics, and decide, having had extended contact with the person in question.

And don't lie.